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01-17-10 02:56 PM - Post#317264
I came across this article http://www.details.com/sex-relationships/sex -and-other-releases/20080 2/is-being-well-hung-the- key-to-happiness?currentP age=1 about how these well-hung guys are happy, despite their failures in life, just because of their big packages.
It just made me think; when members here say they wish they had a larger penis, the responses are always somewhat like "you really think you would be happier just because you had a big penis? You wouldn't!"
And it does seem odd, that such a small thing (no pun intended) can be of such big importance. But perhaps it is?
I would like to get some opinions on this article, could be interesting 
Edited by RodEnuf on 01-18-10 07:18 AM. Reason for edit: Fixed link to make it properly clickable.
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Disagree. It's just the reason they are self-confident. There are other reasons to be so self-confident: great intelligence, amazing social skills, knowing where all the bodies are buried...etc.
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Disagree. It's just the reason they are self-confident. There are other reasons to be so self-confident: great intelligence, amazing social skills, knowing where all the bodies are buried...etc.
I'm not saying I agree with the article either, I'm just interested in your opinions. It also seems that these people are extremely shallow, if they base their entire happiness in life on their penis size..and that made me think, maybe it is in fact so great to have a big penis?
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01-17-10 06:32 PM - Post#317268
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Well, they are somewhat shallow... but then, quite a lot of people are these days.
Particle man makes a good point, but I kind of agree with the article. Also, the difference between penis size and other attributes (looks, charm, etc) is that these traits and qualities will only matter some of the time and to some people, while having a large penis 'commands' almost universal respect and acknowledgment.
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I think if you're good at chess, chess becomes very important to you. If you're good at football, football becomes very important to you. If you are a generally confident person, you will find something to be confident about.
In twenty years, you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover. -- Mark Twain
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I disagree also, it's more about self confidence and self esteem. Size prowess is something that we as a western culture have set the stage and created the levels for the monsters to breed in.
Men that have more to the thing that swings are not looking to compare. we are the ones looking to stare. Some of them are exhibitionists though and do get off on it..guys who are hung are not preoccupied or intimidated. We all know what another guy thinks about us we we drop em together. We all sense the energy or the glare of comparison or the sneak a peek. Hung guys are focused not on themselves but focusing on other things;do you really see them strutting around at the gym.. a job security relationships their future their being. Remember boys our penises are a PART of us. we are the ones who make it a BIG part by our own standards of comparison. My well hung friends are truly friends and not just a pat on the shoulder pal and say there there now your ok.. I believe we as men should all look to be friends and shake each others hands when its extended. instead of anothers penises
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I am not well hung and I am happy, and have great sex with my wife.
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i think it helps a helluva lot. i know id be quite a bit happier if i was bigger.
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As I sit here alone in my trailor, the smell of cat urine wafting through air, and the sound of gunshots and sirens ringing in the night with my 14" black and white TV with the aluminum foil on the antennae fuzzily blaring repeats of C.O.P.S. where my cousin/sister/wife has just appeared for the 3rd time, I am happy as a pig in shit because I have a BIG DICK. I wont be able to pay to save that last tooth in my head tomorrow because bus rates have gone up so I will probably have to resort to actually using a bottle opener instead of biting the cap off my Schlitz. When they bulldoze the park next week me and the wife/sister/cousin and her 3 kids from other baby daddies will be moving to a nice spot under the overpass. She had all them kids after we was married but I know it wasn't because of me because I have a BIG DICK. I've picked out a nice Tide box to stay in but you know what? I'm still happy and confident because I have a BIG DICK and that's what makes me a man, a father, a provider a complete human being. I feel sorry for any man who doesn't have a BIG DICK. What kind of life could you possibly have without one?
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Hey Darrkk111/Likesmal!
You are a total trip!  That monologue of yours, immediately above, was brilliantly amazing! 
I only have one question: Is cousin/sister/wife all the same person?? 
I think it helps a helluva lot. I know I'd be quite a bit happier if I was bigger.
Hey Nubdick dude!
Or so you seem to think.
So, here's a solution. Go out there confidently pretending you're bigger, walking around proudly strutting your he-man stuff, totally acting like a complete BIG DICK, and see if it really works.
In your case, it might, given that you've already got the pre-conceived mindset for it.
Rick
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Confidence is not the answer to everything. In fact, OVER-CONFIDENCE is a big problem for many. According to some authorities, confidence is primarily chemical/hormonal. High testosterone levels in men result in natural assertiveness and confidence. The over-confident are "blind-sided" because they aren't careful. . . why should they be? THEY ARE NATURALLY CONFIDENT. They have to learn to be careful! There may be a correlation between testosterone level and dick size, but only "on average." No doubt there are many exceptions.
I think there is an instinctual component to admiration of the "big penis" that cannot be completely avoided. See Jung. After all, "mother nature" thinks the most important part of our lives is reproduction. Not unlikely that there are built-in penis appreciation genes/instincts.
So, the "small penis" guy may suffer from a disparity between his instinct about how his penis should be and the actual fact, especially when he see others much larger. Why do people on this site so resist this idea? Men have near universal concerns about the size of their penis. . . duh! Maybe its an instinct! Average to large penis guys would be happier in this respect as they are not dogged by this mental disparity.
Another factor is that we are NOT NUDISTS! Most of our pluses and minuses: physical, financial, character, and intellectual, are right out there for everyone to see. We get used to being judged on those qualities. We get used to the status society assigns us because of our array of pluses and minuses. However, our dick is hidden most of the time. It is really irritating to bask in a certain level of status, or at least get used to a status if it is on the low side, only to have everything blown to hell suddenly when you take off your pants!
Edited by lloydbaker on 01-18-10 02:30 AM. Reason for edit: No reason given.
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I haven't read the article posted yet, but in responding to the general question...
I sometimes wonder if my confidence would improve not from the size of my penis per se, but rather from knowing if I were pleasing my partner(s) consistently in sexual encounters with the size I have. I think being a stud in the sack would be a big ego-boost, and add confidence.
I've got some decent drawing skills that I am confident about. That had nothing to do with my cock size.
No, I don't think having a small penis should affect one's attitude towards themselves in life generally speaking, but I can understand the apprehension and lack of confidence in approaching intimate relationships.
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I sometimes wonder if my confidence would improve not from the size of my penis per se, but rather from knowing if I were pleasing my partner(s) consistently in sexual encounters with the size I have. I think being a stud in the sack would be a big ego-boost, and add confidence.
Hey Skwirl!
Why would you ever doubt that you were NOT consistently pleasing them?? Did they throw you out of bed?
Rick
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That example was, unfortunately, more hypothetical than reality. I'm going through a dry spell, but I hope to end it soon. 
Edited by Skwirl on 01-18-10 04:24 AM. Reason for edit: No reason given.
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Dick size is nothing on which to base confidence, but that doesn't stop the masses from trying. I can't tell you how many guys I've known who were well hung and exuded confidence, for no other reason than what they had in the shorts. They were shallow. Most had nothing else going for them, and if they were over 30ish, the looks were starting to fade. Add to this that talk goes around and swinging a big stick does not a good lover necessarily make!
That being said, it is no more or less shallow to base your LACK of confidence on your pecker just because it is small. Truth be told, oddly enough, you can be a marvelous lay with a "small" wiener...
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You know, when I first read it, I thought this was a throw-away thread, fluff, but it's been bothering me more than I thought. It's not really a subject to which I've given much thought before, but I did today.
In no particular order:
#1. Maybe it's the Italian in me, but if I lost everything and needed help, I would look to my family before my dick.
#2. Does this mean that if I were a little bigger, I would be a little happier? A little smaller, a little sadder?
#3. Doesn't this conclusion depend in part on what it is that makes a particular person happy? If the conquest of women is what does it for you, maybe this works, but what if you're motivated by money and power? How about social position?
#4. I can't tell you how many guys I've know who were well hung and exuded confidence, for no other reason that what the had in the shorts. They were shallow. Most had nothing else going for them, and if they were over 30ish, the looks were starting to fade.Add to this that talk goes around and swing a big stick does not a good lover necessarily make!
Does this mean that big dick=shallow? =loser? = lousy lover? Is it a sliding scale? The bigger you are the more shallow you are? (Not picking on you, obie. You made me think.)
I think there are some interesting issues here, but I think the answer to the question, "Is being well hung the key to happiness?" has to be no. I can't dismiss it as a component, but I can't imagine it as the rock upon which a man builds his existence. If I'm wrong, then what we are saying is that genetics trump character, and then we are truly lost.
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I think that a hell of a lot affects happiness. No one thing is going to swing it either way.
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01-18-10 09:49 AM - Post#317291
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I'm just about to head off to bed, so ill read the article later, but i just wanted to say that in my situation, it really would.
At this point in my life, I've done A LOT of soul searching/self evaluating (as i am the type to do that with anything anyways..) and i am quite happy with things at this point. I mean, i could have more money saved, my business degree finished-not a culinary management diploma-, more time spent honing my craft in bboying, etc. BUT the one thing that I feel is truly missing is that first great love everyone talks about.
For me, my sex life/relationships got stunted because i was aware of how much smaller my penis was in relation to other men. I've always felt like puberty hit me and forgot about my penis..i've been waiting for it to grow into an "adult" penis any day now, but it looks like at 21, it aint happenin..but i digress..I guess I also care too much, so when I do find a girl I really like and want to make a move on, I stop myself from crossing the "friend line" because I keep telling myself that she's a great person, and deserves better. And if the penis issue really doesn't work out with us (sometimes it doesnt for whatever reason..fit, etc.), I wouldn't want her to stay with me because we're friends and she doesn't want to hurt me..It's hard for me to shake that thought..
Anyways, i think, no-I KNOW-that if I had not even a big penis, but something in the AVERAGE range..maybe 5.5/6x5 inches that I would be a lot happier, even though i do have other outlets for "happiness". It's a weird catch-22, but i know that if i had an average penis, i would be pretty promiscuous, which would be great, but at the same time, i don't think i would have had the experiences that has built me into who i am today, and i don't think that I'd be as good of a person/accepting and understanding of things if it wasn't for my small penis, and the way i am today does make me happy..so its a toss up i guess..haha..ce la vie
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As I sit here alone in my trailor, the smell of cat urine wafting through air, and the sound of gunshots and sirens ringing in the night with my 14" black and white TV with the aluminum foil on the antennae fuzzily blaring repeats of C.O.P.S. where my cousin/sister/wife has just appeared for the 3rd time, I am happy as a pig in shit because I have a BIG DICK. I wont be able to pay to save that last tooth in my head tomorrow because bus rates have gone up so I will probably have to resort to actually using a bottle opener instead of biting the cap off my Schlitz. When they bulldoze the park next week me and the wife/sister/cousin and her 3 kids from other baby daddies will be moving to a nice spot under the overpass. She had all them kids after we was married but I know it wasn't because of me because I have a BIG DICK. I've picked out a nice Tide box to stay in but you know what? I'm still happy and confident because I have a BIG DICK and that's what makes me a man, a father, a provider a complete human being. I feel sorry for any man who doesn't have a BIG DICK. What kind of life could you possibly have without one?
LOL!!!! I love it!
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So, the "small penis" guy may suffer from a disparity between his instinct about how his penis should be and the actual fact, especially when he see others much larger.
I can definitely relate to this -actually, on a much larger scale even, since I was born with a condition (intersexuation) that affected my whole body. It never was, and never will be, the way it should have been without that birth defect. And yet my mental image of myself is the right one, the one that should have been. It's not something I constructed consciously, it's not some kind of fantasy, it's something I have no power over. It is instinct.
I've done what I could throughout the years to adapt my body and bring it closer to rightness, and yet when I look at myself in the mirror, I still see a stranger, even though this feeling has lessened over the years. I make do with it, because it's what I'm stuck with, but that doesn't make things any righter.
The appearance of my genitals are a main part of this feeling, because they're the most clashing thing that remains behind and reminds me of my condition every time I see them.
In this regard, I can say I would be happier with a bigger dick. And seeing how far I've come into body modification, along with the fact that my life outside dealing with my body is quite satisfactory, I suspect having more 'average' genitals might just be the trigger to my happiness. Call me shallow if you will, it's just the way it is.
If I could just feel globally at peace in a body that would be not quite as it should have been, but close, I think I would like my life a lot more.
[A real loser is somebody that's so afraid of not winning, they don't even try.]
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