DreamCat26 Posted October 15, 2005 Report Share Posted October 15, 2005 While I describe myself as "versatile" I have to admit that my experience as a bottom vastly outweighs my experience as a top. I found that though I could penetrate my partner, I didn't have the shaft length to really have any thrust. When I pulled back to thrust I pulled out. Each thrust meant pushing through the sphincter again (the painful part of penetration) and a couple of partners complained that that was too uncomfortable for them, meaning my turn on top was over. Have others of you experienced the same problem, or have you found a position or method that allows you to make the most of what you have as a top? I would love to hear about what experiences other smaller men have had when being a top. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tim37 Posted October 15, 2005 Report Share Posted October 15, 2005 You are about the same lenght as me, I am a top mosty. Have not had to much problem with falling out. I like the guy on his back with his legs over my shoulders or have him sit on my dick while I jerk him off as a thrust up into him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 15, 2005 Report Share Posted October 15, 2005 Even though I am only SLIGHTLY larger than you, I seem to have the same problem that you describe, so like you, I seem to do more bottom than top. But then again, I am not really into anal. I am interested in learning any technique for those less endowed as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
littledoubt Posted October 15, 2005 Report Share Posted October 15, 2005 Even big dicked guys can get carried away and come out. What you need is more practice, someone willing to take the time for you to get used to having your dick in a nice arse so you can find out how far you need to pull back without pulling out... All volunteers please form an orderly queue, behind me. Thank you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fordste Posted October 16, 2005 Report Share Posted October 16, 2005 Hey Dave, thanks for starting off this thread. I've been wondering about how many of the smaller gay guys on here tend to top. I think my main problem with topping a guy has more to do with my own psychological hang ups as oppossed to physical limits. I tend to attract the young,tall,twink bottoms. For some reason, I assume that since they are bottoms that they will only be satisfied by a larger dick. They also tend to have huge cocks compared to me which just makes me feel even more insecure. The irony of this is that when I do bottom for a guy it's pretty much only for guys that are smaller. I find it too painful to do it with a guy that is over the 6inch range. I should also mention that occassionally I'll have a guy that mainly tops ask me to fuck him. I assume that it's because I am small and he knows that it won't hurt. So to actually answer your question about technique, I can't really offer too much since my own experience is limited. However, I would say the guy on top makes sense because it allows for the deepest level of penatration. The next choice would be him on his back with legs up on the edge of the bed and you standing. Depends on height but you can lean in really close, fuck, and still play with with his dick a bit. I think the trick is to avoid the big thrusts you see in porn movies because we just aren't equipped for that but instead pump him really close and make it more intimate instead of a sporting event. Anyway Dave, good luck and honestly any guy would be lucky to have you practice different techniques on him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MikeRM Posted October 16, 2005 Report Share Posted October 16, 2005 I'm usually on bottom, but when I do top the best position for me is to lay down and have the other guy get on top of me and straddle me. I don't have a lot of problems then slipping out of him because his weight holds him down in place. If I so slip out, we just try it again. The other good position is doggy style for me. But I don't like it as much because I like seeing my partner's face. Usually, because I'm smaller, guys assume I'll be the bottom. And that's fine with me because I'm more comfortable with it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 16, 2005 Report Share Posted October 16, 2005 I have not had anal sex for awhile now, but generally prefer having the guy sit on my dick so I can see him and play with him better. I would occasionally have a problem with coming out, but I just slowed down and took my time. I have found that having a relatively smaller dick (5.5) which is on the thin side was an advantage for guys who wanted to try being bottom but were a little worried about doing it with a guy who was too big. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 16, 2005 Report Share Posted October 16, 2005 Aloha MikeRM, welcome to the best little community on the web. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stephen_in_Leeds Posted October 16, 2005 Report Share Posted October 16, 2005 Welcome MikeRM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kirk Posted October 23, 2005 Report Share Posted October 23, 2005 Dave, I'm only a half inch longer than you, but I've had the same problem...which is why I don't try topping, tho I admit, I haven't experimented with different positions. And I'm cursed with a tight hole, so bottoming is painful for me. Been waiting for a nice slim-dicked guy to come along so I can try "catching" again, but alas, everyone seems to be too thick for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chipdouglas Posted October 25, 2005 Report Share Posted October 25, 2005 The first and only time that I had anal sex, the guy must have been around 4.5" long and 5" around. It hurt but found it "okay" after a few minutes. That was around 10 years ago and haven't been anally penetrated until recently. About a year ago, I bought a dildo 5.25" long and 5" around. This also hurt but I was determined to experience for myself the pleasure that many experience from anal sex. About a week later, this dildo was no problem for me and became curious about what something bigger would feel like. I bought a 7.75" long and 6" around dildo and almost passed out from the pain as I tried to work it into my ass. Today, the 7.75" long dildo slides in and out of my ass like my index finger. I also have a 7.5" long and 6.25" around dildo that I also enjoy, but find that the 7.75" dildo to be my favorite. As for the 5.25" dildo, I rarely use it. I find that the feeling of my asshole stretching from the bigger dildos to be a lot more satisfying. The 5.25" one is good for stimulating my prostate, but that is about all that it does. Being 6.25" X 5.75", I may not be as small as some of you here, but realizing that a fake 7.75" X 6.0" dick is the most satisfying hasn't done much for my self esteem. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hotnmpls2000 Posted July 4, 2006 Report Share Posted July 4, 2006 I prefer a smaller guy when I bottom. #1 I like to get fucked, and still work in the morning. The whole concept turns me on even more because small guys so often assume they have to be the bottom. I like to switch things up. (And it's okay Dave if you pop out, pop back in. Hot) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaMalaEducacion Posted July 5, 2006 Report Share Posted July 5, 2006 It's funny because it took me a while to like bottoming. So in my first relationship I was the top. My bf at the time was taller, but skinny, whereas I am shorter but a bit more built. I really had no problem topping him and he really got off on it for four years until we broke up. Being 5'4" with big puppy dog eyes and a nice butt, I tend to attract tops like there's no tomorrow. One day it just clicked and I realized I liked getting fucked. I was seeing one guy who I really started to like and I asked him about flipping. He was probably around 6' or taller. His dick was bigger than mine, but not dramatically so. Maybe an inch. Anyway, he said "I only bottom for guys bigger than me." Not sure if he was talking about my height or cock, but I was sort of crushed. He turned out to be a spaz, so whatever. But his comment cemented something in my mind. No matter how much I like looking at a guy's ass or playing with it, I am either too short or too small to top. When I was asked to top after that, I couldn't keep it up. Shortly after breakup up with my last boyfriend, I hooked up with a very handsome guy online. He was very tall, but surprisingly, we were a very good sexual match. He was versatile and at one point it became clear that he wanted me to go there. And I did and it was amazing. I was topping someone much taller than me and he was enjoying it a great deal. It was a big ego boost. Now I consider myself versatile and it's something I want in my next relationship--the ability to flip. As to what I prefer when I bottom. Honestly, bottoming is mostly psychological. If the top is attentive, passionate and sexy, his cock can be large or small. Smaller guys have the advantage of getting in there easier and quicker with less chance of injury (my ex was hung and he hurt me once. God that wasn't fun). I've had guys anywhere between 5" and 9" fucking me and save the visual component (aka "how the hell am I gonna take all that?") I honestly don't notice a difference when we get going. Maybe my ass is super flexible? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canuck45 Posted July 5, 2006 Report Share Posted July 5, 2006 Thank you for a sensible reply. If you are 5" and try for a 6" stroke you fall out, but then so does a 7" stroking 8. So its paying attention to what you are doing. I top. Occasionally I slip out. I take long slow strokes (teasing???) and can feel the sphincter gripping my head (its larger than the shaft) so I know its time to slide in again. When I want or he wants it faster-harder, then I do shorter, faster harder strokes, ramming it home but not pulling out beyond 1/2 ways. It works fine for me and my partner. My Favorite positions, him pillowbiting knees and face on the mattress, or on his upper back (shoulders), his ankles on my shoulders, his ass raised off the bed, that maximizes my penetration.... My partners' favorites: on their back, riding astride me facing me, riding astride away from me (me on my back) and doggie style...or standing facing a wall and leaning against it (cop style-spread em) with their pants around their ankles...(oops shouldn't have told you guys that) .none of this side by side stuff for me...too awkward. looks good in the videos but hard to co-ordinate in my opinion. Will I bottom just because I am smaller, not likely. I will bottom but not for that reason. I bottom because sometimes I want to get fucked as simple as that. Sorta like the str8 guy that occasionally wants his wife to use a dildo on him! ! ! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mascbudcols Posted July 6, 2006 Report Share Posted July 6, 2006 Anyone else horny reading this? I'm small and thin but it's beginning to work to my advantage. I agree that the easiest technique and best for penetration is to have the bottom ride you. I've managed to attract interest from married guys who want to try it with smaller and upsize from there. It's fun to do a jock by laying on the bed with your feet on the floor and having him straddle you using only his upper body weight. He'll cum on you in no time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minimag Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 If it hurts, then you're doing something wrong, heh. With the toys I use, I really like to go ALL of the way out and then ALL of the way back in...It's VERY VERY enjoyable. Any length is good for me. I just don't like 'em to be super thick. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bazazz Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 I would think that thin dicked guys would have an advantage when it comes to anal sex as penetration would be more comfortable. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethan Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 Yea. A nice thin one would be pleasant. Also, I think discomfort comes from a short penis when the "fucker" allows it to come out and jab you on the way back in. He must realize his limitations and stay close and use short strokes. Then it's much better. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
michaels9509 Posted September 2, 2006 Report Share Posted September 2, 2006 fordste is right on with having the bottom be at the edge of the bed (or couch or whatever) and the top stand. this is my favorite position when i top. if you don't mind having the lights on, this position makes it easy for you to actually watch yourself go in and out. if you know your penis then you can see when it's coming to an end and stop pulling out. if you like to pound when topping all you can do is short thrusts. but it still feels good. my boyfriend enjoys it. anthony Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dcwxyz Posted September 5, 2006 Report Share Posted September 5, 2006 I have been with a lot of guys, and most of them prefer an average size penis for anal sex. They want to have fun and pleasure and be able to walk and work the next day. A visit to an ER is not funny. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
longrunner Posted September 5, 2006 Report Share Posted September 5, 2006 They want to have fun and pleasure and be able to walk and work the next day. A visit to an ER is not funny. Well, unless the top guy's dick is the size of a baseball bat, I don't think a visit to the ER would happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaMalaEducacion Posted September 5, 2006 Report Share Posted September 5, 2006 I topped someone recently and was worried mostly because I don't top often and I don't think I have any technique to speak of, but he claimed it was the best he had in a year. I told him I'm usually a bottom and he was shocked. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minimag Posted September 7, 2006 Report Share Posted September 7, 2006 Most fun way for me to bottom is to be on top, riding in style Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethan Posted September 7, 2006 Report Share Posted September 7, 2006 That could hurt! Gravity. [lol] Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DallasDavey Posted September 7, 2006 Report Share Posted September 7, 2006 being smaller, most normal guys/girls who don't like it are quicker to say yes, once they know that I am not as big and won't hurt as bad, But the true bottoms who like it, usually are going for bigger guys to get more of a filled up feeling, I have had it help and hurt me with regard to anal sex Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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