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My thoughts vs. the informed assesment of 3 urologists


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As some of you know I have had insecurities and much grief come as a result of the size of my penis. I had been considering a quite invasive enlargement surgery requiring the insertion of a girth implant. I had been anxiously awaiting the surgery (had not paid $ yet). I decided to get a second opinion. I called the surgeon who did my enlargement surgery 6 years ago. I mentioned the name of the other doctor to him and the surgery, he told me I was heading for absolute disaster. He had told me before my penis was of normal size. I did not believe him. Las week I consulted with 2 renowned urologists about my predicament. I told them my story. Also that I wanted to gain more. In both cases, when the doctors actually examined my penis, which was flaccid and around 2 inches, proceeded to tell me my dick was normal. They examined it, moved it around, stretched it, and told me that I was within the lower part of the normal range, and that it may not win awards but it'll get the job done. They both recommended sex therapy and getting a girlfriend. I asked about the average of 6x6. They told me that the average length was smaller than that (one told me around 5 3/4, the other between 4.5 to 5.5) and that 6 width was above average. They both (and my surgeon) see upwards of 30 dicks x day so they should know. They said in any event I could do lipo, I'm considering it, since I have fat that hides almost an inch. Their professional assessment notwithstanding, I still perceive that my dick, that when erect reaches 5 on a good day, as small, especially when I see other men naked. I still have my doubts. I don't know what is going on. Could they be mistaken and have told me that for comfort? Any help offered is welcome. Cheers!

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My first thought is that if you've been around Measurection for nearly four years, then by now you would have read up on the forums discussing size and would have read that according to more recent studies, avg length is about 5.25, give or take, and girth is about 4.8. So the doc who told you avg was between 4.5 and 5.5 is right on target! It is good to hear it come from a urologist.

 

I'm a little surprised that you are still holding onto the belief that 6x6 is average. Is that what you want average to be?? If so, that's self-defeating.

 

I would agree with the doc who told you that you are on the lower range of avg -- meaning, alot of men have your size.

 

I recommend reading up a little more on it here, talk with guys in the chatroom, etc., and try to get your mindset to adjust to that. As you will also have likely read, enhancement surgery poses a great risk of actually reducing size through scarring, etc.

 

I hope you can come to terms with it, buddy.

 

Scott

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When your perception of your body is at variance from objective reality, you are likely suffering from body dysmorphic disorder (BDD).

 

Here are the first two paragraphs on the disorder from Wikipedia:

 

Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) (previously known as Dysmorphophobia and sometimes referred to as Body dysmorphia or Dysmorphic syndrome) is a psychological disorder in which the affected person is excessively concerned and preoccupied by an perceived defect in his or her physical features.

 

The sufferer may complain of several specific features or a single feature, or a vague feature or general appearance, causing psychological distress that impairs occupational and/or social functioning, sometimes to the point of severe depression, severe anxiety, development of other anxiety disorders, social withdrawal or complete social isolation, and more. It is estimated that 1"“2% of the world's population meet all the diagnostic criteria for BDD.

 

It doesn't seem to me that you're at the severe end of the spectrum of this disorder, but the general description does seem to apply. The doctors' recommendation for therapy may be right on target.

 

 

Alan G

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I agree with Alan.

 

My penis is the same size as yours and my wife and I enjoy our sex life a lot.

 

If I had the great dream of starring in porn (the ordinary type, not the kinky stuff), then I would have a major disadvantage. But I would have a major disadvantage if my great dream were to be a ballet dancer. Both of those ain't gonna happen in this life! :content:

 

Please check into therapy. It can make a world of difference! (Guess how I know?)

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I don't think 3 urologists would tell you the same thing and all being lying just to make you feel good. Friends might do that to not hurt your feelings, doctors on the other hand often bring bad news. Good doctors break it gently, those with poor bedside manners might be blunt. Regardless bad news is bad news, you didn't get any. You were assured you are 'normal' but you choose not to believe. Sounds like a perception problem, not a physical problem.

 

Believing is seeing. If you believe you are small, you will see yourself as small. You see only those guys whose penis is 'larger' and are blind to the guys that are similar, re-enforcing your erroneous belief. Common phenomena in humans.

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I agree with the posters above, it definitely seems to be a mental issue rather than a physical problem. Before you consider any kind of surgery seek counseling to find out why you are so obsessed about your penis size.

 

I think a majority of guys wish their penis was bigger, even some who are pretty darn big, because that's what society leads us to believe - bigger is better. But most guys don't let it affect their lives like you seem to and in reality most people (guys and girls) really don't care all that much.

 

Get some help and try enjoying life and be thankful to God for what you do have (health, food, shelter, etc.). Good luck to you.

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I would say that if the 3 doctors all told you that you were fine and that you shouldn't do it - don't do it. They have nothing to gain from lying to you. And I agree that it's probably more to do with how you perceive yourself than how others do. Best of luck and hope you can see that you're more than the sum of your parts!

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I called the surgeon who did my enlargement surgery 6 years ago.

 

Hey Dude?!?

 

And you still crave to go back for more after that first go at total futility?? :susel:

 

And still think that "average" is a whopping 6"x6"??? :confused:

 

And have learned so little after four years of membership here at Measurection??? :confused:

 

And then, you still want to know what we think??? :confused:

 

Rick

 

 

 

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I agree 3 urologists would probably not say it out of comfort. However, I guess when you see 30+ dicks a day you lose track and begin to see every single dick as normal sized. I just see photos of naked men (non pornstars) in art, web, or something, and their dicks flaccid seem to hang down and be thick. Mine on the other hand, goes to the parallel, does not hang down like a normal would. I don't know if he called me average can't imagine what a small dick is then. No rick, the first surgery was successful, and I need opinions from actual doctors, not only laymen. They did tell me my dick was healthy, so I'm glad. All these reassurances could go to moot when I get down & dirty with a gal and she is expecting something more sizable.

 

 

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