anyone bigger than their dad?

[grandstand]

I'm usually very conservative in all ways.... but on this one I find nothing wrong with a dad and son comparing.   it's a bond.   Think of your buddies... how much better you feel like you know them if you have seen them naked.... just like you feel like you know them better if you've been to their house..... it's just part of them.... when they let you into their world,  you feel a closeness.  wish I felt close to my dad.

[Triasco9.5]

@grandstand That's a fair point, though as a student of sociology myself, it's interesting to see how others interpret things like nudity even among friends groups. Having been in the Army for quite sometime, nudity doesn't mean as much to me in terms of distance between myself and other individuals.  Well, general nudity. It's different if they've seen or been privy to other things, or they're close enough that I can tolerate them making comments or jokes about my penis size or other aspects if my body for instance.  I suppose I am talking about different levels of intimacy, which I've always struggled with.  But based on my circumstances and experiences, simply seeing me nude is not grounds for improving intimacy. 

[Triasco9.5]

It's also hard for me to comment directly on father son bonds since, as I said, my father was absent. Relationships with father figures, while important and integral,  are inherently different. Though my penis is bigger than those of all the men whose sizes I am privy to and who I consider close enough to call father figures. 

Edited June 2, 2019 by Triasco9.5
Addition of last sentence for relevancy

[Red Scott]

@grandstand Comparing with your son when he's an adult (18+) is one thing, it's entirely different if he's an adolescent son. That in most people's eyes would be overstepping the boundaries between acceptable and wrong. 

[grandstand]

@Red Scott I certainly didn't mean to imply anything immoral...  but I don't think looking without touching has crossed any lines.   If my son says, "Dad what does a grown man's penis look like?",  I don't think it would be wrong to show him.  Or if a teenager says, "Dad, I'm the smallest one in the locker room and it's depressing and I'm having a lot of anxiety!"...  I don't think it would be wrong to show him,  and say "mine works just fine, and it's not a big deal."  My humble opinion.
 

[canuck45]

@grandstand Don't know about "bonding" over penis size but open discussions need to happen (penis, sexuality, human body, nudity, .... ) and stop being such "puritans".  Of course that assumes that dads know what they are talking about.  Do we get "educated" by an adult (parent or teacher) or do we just glean the facts from playboy, penthouse and locker room gossip?

I mentioned before I had a classmate come to me for sex ed...(his reasoning, I had straight A's in biology). Reproduction (mechanics) vs sex ed (fun).

[Red Scott]

@grandstand I realise you weren't implying anything. Showing your son because of childhood/pubescent curiosity of the looks of an adult penis is fine in the eyes of many. But comparing erection sizes and such is a different thing and many would frown upon this. 

[argoll]

This is my opinion about it and I am no victorian dad here.  If you spoke to a child psychologist and suggested that innocently showing your genitals to a child with the reasoning of education I do believe they may object.  We have many resources at our disposal these days over the internet and I do believe this would be a better option than showing the workings of our body to a person who is not yet an adult.

This is just my children here, they are quite young still but I can honestly say, if one of them asked me to see my penis up close and I agreed they would delight in telling everyone the next day how they got to see their fathers penis up close last night.  Before you know it I would be reported to child protection.  And as innocent as it may sound in one persons head in anothers it may raise some legitimate questions as to why this is happening in the first place.  There is nothing puritanical about it.  What happened to sitting down and explaining what it is with the appropriate resources?

Let us just say what if a child asks to see their mothers clitoris?  Or "Mummy what is the labia?  Can I see yours?".

At the end of the day the decision should be with the parent what to say.  In my opinion should you show your child how a penis operates?  I think no.  Should you explain it?  If asked, definitely.  I will add - if my son asks about his size and I do expect he will be bigger than mine, but if he is smaller than others and questions it, I will just say everyone is different and that is part of nature.  We have what we have.  If he is larger than others I hope he wont make an issue of it, and I hope by not congratulating him on his development through puberty and saying how proud I am of his difficult achievement of gaining penis length that it wont cause issues about achieving something that is unachievable.  Our society has a serious problem with body image.  Society is fooling itself into thinking it is getting better.  You just have to flick through some of these self indulgent people on youtube and other platforms promoting themselves through how fabulous and perfect they look.  It is perverse and sickening and I do worry about what the future has to hold for my children.

 

Sorry I have waffled on again.  I need my own personal soapbox at home.

[Restoredude]

I am friends with a single guy who is a nudest and he is raising his sons (14 and 16) as nudists. I spend a lot of time at their home (also nude). They have a very open relationship where they discuss anything the boys have questions about (sex, masturbation, trimming pubes, etc). They also have an open door policy where all doors in the house are always open. The bathroom door is the exception, however, I have NEVER seen any of them close it whether they are showering, peeing, pooping or anything else. When I'm over there, we watch TV, grill outside, swim in the pool, etc, always nude. The boys sometimes have male friends over (their parents are aware of the nudity). Some of their friends get nude, others keep their underwear on. Like all teen age boys, the sons have erections all the time, as do many of their friends. Both of the sons are larger than their dad, which the 14 year old jokingly points out every time dad gets an erection. The 16 yr old is probably 8", 14 yr old 7" and dad about 6". There's absolutely no sex, just a bunch of guys hanging naked. The sons do masturbate in their rooms occasionally but the doors are open. It's a wonderful feeling being around them and knowing how open they are about their bodies.
 

[canuck45]

6 hours ago, argoll said:

If you spoke to a child psychologist and suggested that innocently showing your genitals to a child with the reasoning of education I do believe they may object.

Oh please give the children a hope and keep them away from psychologists.

"There is nothing puritanical about it."
Hence nudity (even topless) is till frowned upon by many (most?) and a crime i some places. 
Sexualizing the beautiful human body.
The puritans arrived in 1776 and not much progress made.
 

Edited June 5, 2019 by canuck45

[argoll]

@canuck45 I honestly believe a child psychologist does have a little bit of understanding but like I said it was just my opinion.  And it is quite apparent that some people think my opinion is wrong.  And my opinion again is probably a bit tainted having had an unwanted experience as a child where things were done to me that are inappropriate.  I see no problem with nudity but I do see a problem with people focusing on size.  Why make it an issue?  So what if someone is bigger or smaller.  Why remember the approximate sizes of someones genitals?  I don't remember the shape and size of people ears I know or meet.

I do think it is wrong to suggest you show how your genitals work to someone who is a little bit more innocent and gullible and not an adult yet. Am I wrong to think this?  Who is to say that one trusted adult is a genuine helpful person and another trusted adult is a manipulative paedophile?  I tell my children if anyone suggests to do anything with their genitals or someone elses that this is totally not allowed.  Any questions they can ask me or one of their teachers but there is to be no showing or touching unless a doctor or myself asks and always with two people there in an emergency.  I worry so much that something bad will happen to them but I know the likelihood is that it never will.  And yes you probably think that I am that type of parent who is overprotective but my situation dictates me to do so.

Sorry for waffling again

[Guest]

No detailed knowledge, but I seem to have inherited a penis similar to my father's.  Very small flaccid.

He was vocal about not being ashamed of nakedness, but I think it was bravado.  He didn't date until very late in life, claiming high "moral" standards.

I felt embarrassed for him and myself in the locker room.  Other than his penis, he was very physically imposing.  He might not have experienced mocking!

He taught me denial rather than how to deal with a handicap.

Edited June 5, 2019 by Guest

[avgjoe913]

I posted earlier in the thread about my dad, but I've actually seen my stepdad's as well and it probably fits better with the theme of the thread. He married my mom when I was about 22, so he never knew me as a kid. We went on a trip to Vegas when I was about 25 or so, and while we were there we went to the spa in the hotel. I'd never really done that before and didn't really think it through when he invited me to come along, but I realized when we went to the locker room for a steam that we were about to see each other naked. I was obviously a bit nervous, especially as I'd noticed before that he seemed to have a large bulge when he sat down sometimes, so I was thinking he might be pretty well hung.

As it turned out, the bulge was all balls (very, very large balls)  and his dick appeared to be even shorter than mine, though to be fair to him, he had a very large belly so some of it was probably hiding, and I think he was pretty nervous. I was too, of course - we were both showing almost nothing! It actually was a way for us to bond, in a way - we never talked about it, but we were walking around naked for quite a while, far and away the two smallest guys there. It felt good to know we had that in common. 

[thezulu]

I've posted before in this thread that I was a little bigger than my dad. This was based on seeing his soft in the showers, in changing rooms or at urinals. When I was in my late teens, my soft and his seemed to be almost identical. I also saw him with morning wood on the way to the shower once, and it seemed to be the same size as mine (I must have been about 15yo at the time)

After leaving home, of course, I stopped seeing his. This was until we started going on family sailing trips again, and I started to see his soft in the changing rooms. I noticed that mine seemed to be a bit bigger than his, but initially didn't know whether it was because my soft had grown or his had shrunk a bit, or both.

Last weekend we went on another trip, and after we'd both been in the showers, I noticed that mine is now significantly bigger than his, hanging at least 2 inches longer. I don't think he can have been suffering the effects of the cold, as the showers were pretty warm!

[vanagon]

It must have been quite shocking for the other guys at the urinal or in the shower with you two @thezulu. Must have felt like they were suddenly in a horse stable!

Edited February 15, 2021 by vanagon

[grinchy99]

Not larger than my father, but my older brother is. Just casual nudity around changing, swimming and such. Never seemed to be an issue and neither of them ever brought it up, at least not that I am aware of. I'm on the other side of the coin now. Guess we're all different.

[KotaRello]

Hell,no I'm not bigger than my dad.  I seen him when I was 13, and he was about 3.5-4 inches soft.  I wouldn't be suprised if he were longer.

[thezulu]

I never really thought about it @vanagon, I guess you're right. Would have been even more striking back when my dad and I were similar size

[SloStroker]

Never saw my dad hard, but limp he was bigger than mine is hard. My mom said he was pretty big.

My brother and I are both small.

[smokeylink]

I don't know if I'm bigger than my dad but at 4.3" I have my doubts. This subject brought back a memory from when I was maybe 17 years old. My youngest brother who would have been 9 years old at the time, saw me shortly after I got out of the shower. He made a comment something to the effect of "wow, yours is as big as dad's". Whether it was true or not, it gave me a big smile.

[CDY]

I never saw my dad hard, and dont have clear memory of seeing him soft   but believe I'm bigger. When I was 16 I changed in front of him and he said "whoa, you had a growth spurt!" And indicated I was bigger than he was

[Restoredude]

When I was growing up I was hard ALL the time. My dad used to say he would use it as a towel rack. LOL

https://imgur.com/U9jfMVf

[SloStroker]

My dad was bigger limp than I am hard and he never said anything to me about my size (or lack there of) as he really only saw me hard once. 

[Slbcic]

I remember at the beginning of my puberty having peeped through the bathroom keyhole to look at my dad showering. I saw a large penis when he was soaping up and I do remember at that time I thought I'd grow into that and even bigger.

Probably due to my upbringing as an immigrant, there was this kind of tacit understanding that us children (my sister and I) should surpass everything our parents did -academically, professionnaly and I guess I internalized it so much that I thought physically too.

Now of course I had my children's eyes, everything lookeg big back then but when I saw my dad's penis (flaccid of course) I took a mental note of its size comparing it to the shampoo bottle he used. To have a reference for me in the shower.

So it was kinda normal for me to think "OK this is what my body will look like" and even having the sampoo bottle to compare during my showers "this is the length I will surpass" LOL

 

The more I surfed into puberty and after I was a little bit more privy to things of life through Internet and porn etc., I realized my dad's penis was very-very large and very long. I was waiting for a growth spurt that I would never have. I confirmed it by peeping an other time when I was 19 (don't judge me :p ), he's probably 5 cm (so 2 inches) longer soft than I am erect...

 

Even now, if I see that brand of shampoo bottle when I'm visiting my oarents I can't avoid putting it next to my penis to compare lol

 

 

 

 

 

[Chris85]

I once walked in on my dad when he was masturbating, which was plenty embarrassing for both of us. Based on this experience, I'd say we were both pretty much the same size when hard.