Talking with a friend

[jbb503]

My best friend and I went to high school and college together. In college we were roommates for four years and shared a group shower on our hall. That was when we both discovered we had tiny dicks. Our flaccid length is about 3 inches tops, smaller when it's cold or after working out. We showered together everyday because we had the same schedule. We talked a couple times about having being small and jerked off together only one time while we were watching porn. Now we're out of school and talk about it a lot more. He'll text me about striking out with a new girl after sleeping with her only once and she saw his small dick. I'll send him a text if I see a new co-worker in the shower that's bigger than me. Sometimes, we'll text each other and just start talking about our dick size and sending dick pics. We've sent pics comparing with toilet paper tubes, comparing soft with Chapstick, and he sent me a video of him jacking off. We're both straight but I think we just feel comfortable talking about this with each other because guys don't really talk about this with other people usually. Has anyone else ever had a friend like this that they are comfortable with?

[bellend07]

Good for you. It is nice to have someone you can talk to and share things with about your penis, straight or gay, we still need someone to talk to about things.

 

you have a good friend you can be open and honest with about these matters and that is a good thing. well done you.

[zebraben]

that is one of the true statement what you said and I agree one hundred percent. its nice to have some one you can open up to be honest with and not be afraid. That's what I call the type of old fashin friend ship that is rare to find.good note bell. far as the writer of the forum hold on to that friend your very very lucky

Edited December 20, 2016 by Guest

[Guest]

3" is average flaccid. You don't list your erect length. Average there is 5.1".

 

Are you really tiny or even small? Doesn't sound like it. Perhaps you are over-impressed with "porn dicks!"

 

Perhaps you are reinforcing each other's self-disparaging delusions.

Edited December 20, 2016 by Guest

[Vinnig]

I have the good fortune to have a such a friendship; it began in 1978. He's 20 years younger than I am; he's extremely intelligent as well as being a talented musician and photographer. He's also an excellent writer, is very computer savvy, and loves sports, especially baseball-as do I.

 

We're in different states now, but we talk a couple of times each week. We can talk about anything openly and often do. We've been discussing our penises and masturbating for years; he loves to be naked indoors in the summer and encouraged me to follow suit, which I've been doing for at least ten years. A couple of years ago, he called and wanted to masturbate via phone with me, which was a total surprise. He's one of the straightest, squarest, and generally reserved humans I've ever met; consequently, I didn't expect him to invite me to join him tugging our todgers long-distance. However, I wasn't about to say no; we've had several phone sessions since then, and he's said he would be open to wanking in person next time he travels here. He knows I'm sometimes too busy to wank as frequently as he does, so he calls to ask me when I last masturbated; if it's been a week or more, he tells me he's already playing with himself and I should follow his example, which I almost always do.

 

He's never snapped at me or raised his voice, so I value our friendship greatly and wouldn't do anything to damage our relationship. He said after all these years, masturbating together is not going to change anything. He's probably right; we've seen each other naked many times, but in a locker-room kind of way. Nevertheless, I wouldn't encourage him and would just see how the situation evolves.

[Red Scott]

I have a close friend like this, and a couple of other not quite as close friends whom I can talk to on this subject.

 

The closest friend, well a frank discussion about penis size (admittedly under the influence of ecstasy) was what led us both to getting intimate for the first time. That was 18 years ago, today we still maintain that "buddy" relationship and can talk to each other about anything.

[Guest]

I would love to have such a friend. I think it would be very hard to actually start this relationship.

[canuck45]

Strange thing is my all friends are comfortable talking about anything with me. I am the go-to person for information of any sort or just sharing concerns,issues, problems..... I must project a sense of trustworthiness.

 

When I worked in the porn store, my god, the things I could tell, intimate details....

 

[Red Scott]

I would love to have such a friend. I think it would be very hard to actually start this relationship.

 

I don't think it would be "very hard" it just requires openness in a friendship, it all starts with honest conversation on a mutual point of sexual interest and you take it from there.

 

One of my friends, whilst not homophobic, he's one of those who claim to be arrow straight, he kept making comments that I had certain percentages of "gayness" in me of varying levels, dependent on his mood, all tongue in cheek and he was probably the last person I'd admit to being bi to. Eventually I simply began to agree with his assessment's of my level of gayness and I began to turn the tables on him that he was simply afraid of his own sexuality. After a while conversations with him became more and more open and I'm gradually getting him to lower his "barriers"

 

One of the funniest things I ever heard was when he said he'd never let any woman near his ass with a finger, his current girlfriend piped up "yeah, giving him a blow job and I tried to slip a finger up his ass and he jumped out of bed, freaked out and shot off downstairs" I asked him "you've never experienced an orgasm through prostate milking? Or simply with a finger up ya ass? You don't know what ya missing pal" his response........"Nah mate, that's like you're admitting to yourself that your gay!"

 

I haven't laughed so much in ages, and it was that simple topic of conversation that led to much more open and frank conversation and if I can get him to open up you can get your friends to open up too. Then take it one step at a time.

 

If you never try to gain this kind of relationship then you will never have this kind of relationship. It all has to start somewhere. I truly believe that men who won't open up or are not up for sexual experimentation are the minority.

[Guest]

Thanks Red. You are right, it would have to be built on. I presently don't even have anyone to just talk about sex with even. Women talk about everything in the restroom, even to strangers it seems sometimes. Guys stand guard and don't talk or open up much.

[Red Scott]

Because many think it will make people think they're gay! Once they know you don't see it that way they slowly open up.

[Guest]

Great discussion point and I think it's good to share sometimes with the right friend.

 

A couple of years ago a good friend and I started going to the gym - after we would go to the showers and I would look for a corner and try to keep my back to everyone. Before this we had never seen each other naked. He by the way is hung like a horse ðŸ´. After a few sessions he said to me why am I so shy!

 

I asked him why did he think I was shy and he said you always cover up after the shower and can't get out fast enough. To be honest I was glad to be able to open up and just say I feel small in penis size compared to others and him especially. At this point he laughed and said just be confident and ppl won't notice - I thought this was good advice.....

[toadfish327]

Being confident is a great theory, but one that is much easier said than done. I know the feeling about getting in the shower and getting done quickly in order to get back into clothes to conceal what we are lacking. Too bad we can't work our dicks and increase the size or make it more defined!

[Guest]

Thanks toad

Yes I hear you!

It was good to open up and be honest. He is confident because of his size - have to admit tho I try a little more to be less obvious. I still feel insecure in that sort of environment - all seem to be bigger than me 🙄 Unfortunately you can get away with waking him up lol...

[Vince63]

I never have discussed size with any of my friends. I don't think they would want to and would probably give me a hard time about it. I wish I had such a friend. I still avoid public showers when possible.

[Red Scott]

Start with light hearted comments, it's amazing how receptive friends can be and how many will say "yeah, tell me about you it!" At the end of the day there's a majority of guy's who see themselves as "unhung" Any true friend won't give you a hard time over a light hearted conversation.

[flsmallone]

I've recently considered talking about this with a friend from the office. He has been divorced for some time too and I have a gut feeling he might be below average too. I have never opened up about this to any male friend so I'm very hesitant to go ahead.

[lilpeter]

Being confident is a great theory, but one that is much easier said than done. I know the feeling about getting in the shower and getting done quickly in order to get back into clothes to conceal what we are lacking. Too bad we can't work our dicks and increase the size or make it more defined!

 

I'm no bastion of confidence but I did join the Y for a while to swim for exercise in the mornings before work. I knew that this meant that I would be showering with other guys all of whom had to be hung better than me. AND, it would be after the pool. (Seinfeld reference goes here)

 

I just did it. Got nekkid and took my shower, even walked to my locker without wrapping a towel. Now it wasn't real crowded but I wasn't alone either. It was easier that I didn't know anyone but over time I did get to know a few guys. There was only one guy who ever stared so I never really gave it much thought.

 

Now if there were boys there who were bigger than me, that might have been an issue but that didn't happen.

 

My naked shyness now is due to poor body image due to being overweight, not my pecker.

 

 

[Guest]

At this point he laughed and said just be confident and ppl won't notice - I thought this was good advice.....

 

Yeah, don't even fluff it. If you do, everyone will know you feel inferior.

 

I have trouble not doing at least one fluff.

 

[Guest]

I agree that JJB is very fortunate (as is his younger friend). My best friend in high school and I had almost "twin" packages. He was slightly shorter than I, but we were both in about the same physical condition - no six packs but fit. We'd seen each other in the showers hundreds of times and many times at our homes for various reasons; it was no big deal back then. We were both average to smaller, I'd say, but size just wasn't a concern back then.

 

Well, one day the two of us and our girlfriends were at my girlfriend's house. He and I were in the den. The girls were in my gf's room where they were trying on bikinis. They'd come out after each change to see what we thought. What's not to like?

 

Anyway, point is, after the "fashion show" we shut the door because we were going to change into our trunks and go swimming at his gf's house. We pulled our shirts off and started pulling our shorts down. We both "free-balled" (or "went commando") most of the time, and when he pulled his down out bobbed his semi-hard penis - easily twice the size I'd ever seen it!

 

I'd seen a lot of penises on two continents, but that was only the second that had an "effect" on me. I immediately felt myself chubbing up and that scared me (hey, homophobia was rampant at that age in those days (early seventies). I could not get the picture of his larger penis outta my head. I immediately turned by back to him, pretending to toss my shorts on a chair, but it was to hide my increasing size from him. I don't know if he noticed in me what I'd noticed in him and wonder, even today, if he did, what he thought. But we could not talk about it then, and undoubtedly would not now (we see each other extremely rarely).

 

The only person I ever really opened up to about such things was a guy online a few years ago. And I do admit, it's an amazing thing to be able to speak freely and openly. I think THIS website is one excellent venue for such conversations. Personally, I don't feel I could ever engage in such conversations in person - but the "anonymity" of the internet makes is possible.

 

So, congrats again to JJB & friend, and thank you to the founders of this site.

[lilpeter]

On 8/21/2017 at 7:21 AM, CuriousNow said:

I think THIS website is one excellent venue for such conversations. Personally, I don't feel I could ever engage in such conversations in person - but the "anonymity" of the internet makes is possible.

So, congrats again to JJB & friend, and thank you to the founders of this site.

I agree so much how liberating and confidence building it is to have this site and to be able to talk freely like you said. 

[new2day]

Seems a couple of you are lucky enough to have friends you can openly chat to. Although I've played team sports most of my life and showered with most of my close friends, I can't say anyone has ever raised the subject. One of my old friends when we used to play tennis or squash asked about me being circumcised, he showed me how his foreskin worked when we were showering, something I'd seen him do many times but I think he sensed I was a little curious as I'd never seen one before.

Years ago there was a TV programme called My penis and everyone elses' which brought up the topic of size, anxieties etc and had a forum to chat. As they said, it's not a subject men openly talk about, so It was great chatting and sharing experiences with others online, and I later found this and other forums to continue discussions. 

[Guest]

7 hours ago, new2day said:

One of my old friends when we used to play tennis or squash asked about me being circumcised, he showed me how his foreskin worked when we were showering, something I'd seen him do many times but I think he sensed I was a little curious as I'd never seen one before.

I can definitely relate - but from the other side.  When I was 13, I was an American in a British school in the Midlands - and the only circumcised boy in the entire school, I'm fairly certain (definitely so in my form).  I gather that, now, more boys are cut in the UK but when I was there (in the mid-sixties), every boy I saw (well, the ones I saw naked) had a natural penis.  Well, I had a very good friend, aged 12, who was as curious about my circumcision as you may have been about your friend's foreskin.  I stayed with him one weekend while my parents were on the continent and as soon as his parents left on Saturday morning, he insisted that we both get undressed as he wanted to see my "knob" up close.  He was fascinated and very curious about it; he had a lot of questions!  Not to say I wasn't also fascinated by natural penises, but being American, I was much more reticent to openly stare, much less comment about it.  He, on the other hand, had no qualms about asking me to take my clothes off so he could see.  I also had a small tuft of pubic hair and he had none - so that was another source of fascination on his part.

That morning did lead to my one very brief, but voluntary, boy-boy experience.  It might have lasted much longer if I'd have known that some uncircumcised boys can't retract their foreskins. Still - a fun memory.

[new2day]

Circumcision has become less common in the UK since I was a boy. My early years perspective was swayed since my close friends were all cut, so were my brother and father. Don't often see people naked in locker rooms anymore, but it's been a while since I've seen anyone else. Even when I go to naturist clubs or swims, it's fairly uncommon even thought many are around my age. I did a quick count on one visit, only 3 in 30 were cut, including myself.

I do notice people having a look, I suppose an exposed glans does draw some attention if you are used to seeing them covered, and perhaps suggests arousal.

[Tsoren]

I was very fortunate in my younger days, in that I had my brother and two cousins to talk to about everything penis-related.  Since we spent summers skinny-dipping, we saw each other and openly talked about the differences.  My brother and I saw each other naked and usually aroused in the morning in our bathroom.  And even though I was two years older, we were basically identical down there.  We often talked and compared and shared our thoughts.  One big concern we had was the fact that the four of us were the only kids in our school district that still had our foreskins.  We were the object of a lot of locker room scrutiny.

In ninth grade, I became friends with a guy, actually we became friends with benefits.  We openly shared our concerns with each other.  And he was very helpful and encouraging, helping me cope with my worries regarding my late development and penis issues.  He always made me feel better about everything.  

Even today my youngest cousin and I will sometimes talk about and share with each other.

And coming onto this site has been great.  Being able to read what others have gone through and think about themselves and sharing with others, has been most helpful.  We begin to realize most all of us have or have had some sort of anxiety issues.  And the support from others is outstanding.  You aren't ridiculed.  You are accepted.  That means a lot.  

Thanks to all of you.