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Things I Wish I Knew As A Kid / Teen... (add yours)


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20 hours ago, littledog85 said:

HAHAHAHA I did mean soap LOLOL, soup would burn LOL alot !

I guess cold soup wouldn't burn but its effectiveness as a lubricant would be debatable! A partner may or may not approve of any taste too (dependant on soup varieties) when performing an act of fellatio! 

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1 hour ago, me_in_undies said:

A penis can come in many shapes and sizes.  Looking at dirty magazines with friends only showed huge guys.

I personally think porn is the biggest contributer to size concerns in men. In your teen years you're very impressionable and you begin to think that hung is the norm because all you see in the video and mags are huge! 

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On 4/28/2018 at 3:21 PM, Red Scott said:

I personally think porn is the biggest contributer to size concerns in men. In your teen years you're very impressionable and you begin to think that hung is the norm because all you see in the video and mags are huge! 

I agree it does, it makes me struggle with my size. I have been going to this reddit site where people measure themselves and show the ruler

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Interesting question and interesting responses.

The shower/grower thing was something I'd never heard of until I was older, as well.  But I was never that concerned about my size.  When I was first forced to go naked around other boys (we were forced - I think few, if any, looked forward to it) we were all about 12 years old.  Most of us had tiny packages and only a few had a sparse tufts of pubic hair - so no one "stood out" and I never saw any bullying.  

Then we moved overseas and I was put in a class a year behind my age (difference in the educational systems) so I had the advantage of being a 13 year old surrounded by mostly 12 and a few 13 year olds.  So it just wasn't a factor.  I was very fortunate, I believe.

As for what I wish I knew then?  I wish I hadn't been so conditioned to be paranoid about any homosexual thoughts or actions.  I now believe we may all be born at least a little bi-sexual but we are trained or train ourselves out of it.  But had I not been so "straight" I might have been able to try some of the things I can only read about now.

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13 hours ago, aquarock said:

@Red Scott  Viewing porn at a young age programed me that a huge penis was the only thing that would please a girl, it was what they wanted.

That is exactly what I thought from mid teens to my early thirties! I thought a normal size was something like 7"x5.5" as a starting point! It was in depth sexual therapy that re-educated me and changed my beliefs on size whilst at the same time gave me a new sense of being and reinvigorated my sex life by giving me the confidence to engage with anyone who made advances to me. Previously I'd turned down as many opportunities as I'd accepted as I'd been very selective, worried about those I thought may judge me as "small"! If I knew at 16 what I know now...... Ohhhhhh my! 

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  • 3 years later...

I wish I would have known that having a small penis doesn't make you less of a man or less of a lover. 

I spent way too much of my life being embarrassed and ashamed of my small penis. Not I know it's just a part of me...it's not all of me. I love it now, and love showing it off. 

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Interesting you say that @bellend07, it reminds me of a conversation with a female friend a few years ago. She was a single mother and said she was bathing her son who was about 6 maybe 7, and he "kept playing with his thing"... We all do that I said, starts early and we never stop! "He keeps puling the skin back, it looks so painful to do". Hmmm, well, I can't tell you how that feels since I don't have one, but it's basic hygiene to wash thoroughly, he's doing the right thing. So I wonder how many boys brought up by single parents are unaware of washing thoroughly, or anything else penis related for that matter.

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I grew-up before porn had became ubiquitous, way before.  My glimpses of "girlie" magazines never included the penis as it was a major crime to show the penis then.

Sure, harder stuff was available under the table, but not in my circles.  I heard about it, but avoided those people.  The dogma was size doesn't matter. Porn blossomed just after I graduated from College.  Of course, I heard from rough guys that size did matter, but was convinced they were reprobates, contemptible people I shouldn't take seriously.

I knew I was embarrassingly small flaccid, but DID KNOW flaccid size did not indicate erect size and hung my hat on that!  Not literally!  I believed size didn't matter, but was delayed in dating because of my abnormally delayed and slow puberty.  I just assumed erect, I was just fine, didn't even bother measuring.

I think I would have been better off understanding that penis size leads inevitable to different sexual experiences, in both attractiveness and function, just like other physical characteristics do.

 

 

 

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33 minutes ago, wayless said:

I think I would have been better off understanding that penis size leads inevitable to different sexual experiences, in both attractiveness and function, just like other physical characteristics do.

 

We all have differences. If we have poor eyesight we wear glasses. If we are short in stature we just grab a step stool of ladder. If we aren't very strong we grab a tool or a lever without thinking negatively about our self. Why, when it comes to penis size do we make such a big deal about it?

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1 hour ago, NuderThanNude said:

We all have differences. If we have poor eyesight we wear glasses. If we are short in stature we just grab a step stool of ladder. If we aren't very strong we grab a tool or a lever without thinking negatively about our self. Why, when it comes to penis size do we make such a big deal about it?

I agree entirely that it "shouldn't be", that is, shouldn't be a bigger deal than dealing with other deficits from the standpoint of pure reason.  But, it is.  That's why this group exists.

About other things such as you mention, denial is not often encouraged.  Few people try to convince you, for instance, that being very short in stature won't have some social consequences you will have to deal with. . .there is an infinite list of minor and / or severe "handicaps" I could mention.

Certainly, however, refuting, transcending or adjusting to social attitudes and objective handicaps is a project, especially when you are young and have numerous self-esteem challenges.   Most people are not likely to "get everything right" immediately, especially if under siege.

Fitness for reproduction, real or imagined, may involve instinctual forces as well that make "genital adequacy" a more triggering issue..

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15 minutes ago, wayless said:

Fitness for reproduction, real or imagined, may involve instinctual forces as well that make "genital adequacy" a more triggering issue.

Because sperm swim. I believe it would be possible to impregnate a woman as long as the penis is in the vaginal opening. (ie, with a 1 inch penis bone pressed to the vagina) I have even heard of impregnation with semen outside the vagina and just at the entrance although that is more rare.

Since less than 25% of the women can achieve orgasms from vaginal penetration that still leaves 75% for small penis guys. If your penis can reach the clit you're all set. I always enjoyed stimulation of the clit with my little clit (penis).

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Anticipating your response, I specified "real or imagined."

Most of social reality is in the group shared imaginations

.  Real only in the sense of provoking behavior, status perceptions and emotions. 

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1 hour ago, NuderThanNude said:

Since less than 25% of the women can achieve orgasms from vaginal penetration that still leaves 75% for small penis guys. If your penis can reach the clit you're all set. I always enjoyed stimulation of the clit with my little clit (penis).

25% may or may not be correct, but the small, based on this would be well advised NOT to expect to be, in most cases, a sexual athlete in the casual sex arena!

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2 hours ago, NuderThanNude said:

If your penis can reach the clit you're all set. I always enjoyed stimulation of the clit with my little clit (penis).

Didn't like when a few people actually referred me as having a clit.  Again, I probably was trying to operate outside my league.  I should have known not to do that: "a thing I wished I'd known as a kid. . ."

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