do bigger cocks make you feel inadequate - or more horny?

[Stephen92]

men can react in two ways when confronted with seeing or playing with larger cocks: either you are super turned on and more horny than before or you feel reminded about your own penis being inadequate and "small".

What is your reaction, when confronted with seeing a larger dick in porn or when playing with a much larger penis?
Does it make a difference in your reaction whether you see a large dick anywhere - or if you actually play with a large penis for real?

Edited November 11, 2019 by Stephen92

[smalldad]

I would add a third. Meh. I'd choose "meh."  Seeing a bigger one doesn't do anything for me either way. I only hope he has as good a time as I do.

[Mikesolo]

I think the prevalence of giant ones in even straight porn makes it clear most guys have a positive reaction to seeing a large sized one and I'm no different. I am straight and if I see or know that a guy is larger than me I'd probably have to say it's more of a turn-on than a turn-off, but I figure that for guys that are really big they probably get horny knowing they are bigger than other guys because that feeds their ego so maybe they wouldn't appreciate real competition for once in their life if really confronted with it. But it's a good question because I'm around average so maybe smaller guys feel different than I do or different than a large guy would. I would imagine it would depend on if a smaller guy felt inadequate most of the time about it or if they are comfortable about their own bodies. If it bothers them that they are small it's probably a turn-off. If they are well-adjusted they probably like seeing bigger ones like most guys do, but that's just a guess.

[Allen43]

Both actually. Seeing large or even average sized penises whether in person or in pictures and videos reinforces in my mind just how small mine is and it sometimes can cause me to feel rather inadequate...but sometimes when seeing them I will also become sexually aroused.

[Henry1997]

@Allen43 Me too. If mine is not seen, then a bigger prick of others mostly turns me on. I watch gay porn sometimes, and prefer the bigger penis. However, if in real life, it's more likely for me to feel inadequate cuz they have a great deal of chance seeing mine. 

[canuck45]

Playing with a dick makes me horny. 

I really don't care whether it is larger or smaller. 

If it is smaller I sometimes wonder how they handle it (for a second or two but mostly just have fun in the moment and don't dwell on it).

[canuck45]

@Stephen92  Don't agree: turned on or feel inadequate.  A dick is just a dick and being turned on has less to do with the dick than the person it's attached to. 
One guy comes over and I get hard when he buzzes the apartment  and he is 7X6.  Another guy, I am hard when I pick him up and he is 4X3.   It's knowing whats cumming that does it, not their dicks.  It's knowing what their mouth can do  LOL

Edited November 11, 2019 by canuck45

[Guest]

Ive always been turned on being with a man that has a significantly larger penis than mine, makes me feel very submissive sexually to him.  Been this way since i was a teen with a best friend that had a much bigger dick.

[Guest]

23 hours ago, Allen43 said:

Both actually. Seeing large or even average sized penises whether in person or in pictures and videos reinforces in my mind just how small mine is and it sometimes can cause me to feel rather inadequate...but sometimes when seeing them I will also become sexually aroused.

Totally the same. 
 

   I have found though that guys with really large cocks just don’t try very hard. They have flopped it out and that’s what they bring to the table, which is a big turn off. There have been exceptions to this but in my own experience this has been a let down. 
  I think if the chemistry isn’t right it doesn’t matter how massive their schlong is, I am looking for the exit. 
   Plus really bug weiners tend to hurt more so it’s not always a good thing. 
  They do look very impressive, but if that’s all there is to it, I am just not that interested. 
  I am afraid I need a connection, no matter how brief, for it to be worth it. 
    There are times when I think “gods is sex all we can think about!” It’s pretty sad, as it’s not a very large part of everyone’s life in reality, unless you work as a sex worker of somekind. Most hours in the average day is spent NOT having sex. Let’s be honest. 

[Tsoren]

To be honest, it may be a little of both, but more so the feeling of inadequacy or perhaps jealousy.  Knowing how my wife loves the feeling of thicker dildos, I do feel inadequate in not being able to fill her up and excite her with my cock alone, so seeing thick ones does leave me wishing

But it really isn't the size of the penis that excites me as much as it is the uniqueness.  I enjoy looking at penises that may be a little different than the run of the mill penis.  Like one with a nice curve or twist to it.  One that may be long and thin.  Even the shape of the head or the color to it.  Just something a little different to make it look unique and stand out from others, and certainly a large one can do that, too

Edited November 13, 2019 by Tsoren

[smallishuk]

It's a thought-provoking topic, being on the smaller side of average.

I'm probably with @Storm11 and @Allen43 on this one. Mixed feelings.

I can't deny that the sight of a big floppy one, in the showers or at the urinals, or online via pics or cam, attracts my attention, curiosity (& jealousy!) and is appealing to begin with.

However, if the (approximately) 6 feet of flesh, bone and (hopefully) brain that the large member is connected to is arrogant and incapable of conversation, then it's a turnoff. 

A great guy is a great guy, regardless of a few inches difference in the pants!

[Grimson]

I feel always a bit insecure aout my dick. When i have sex the first time im nervous he i much bigger than im. Mostly the guys are 1 or 1,5 inches bigger than me. And they dont look disappointed when they see me naked. But still i can be intimidated.

[smallestpenisever]

bigger cocks always intimidate me

[Guest]

I used to find the observation of sex where the man was well endowed stimulating as I guess I automatically put myself in his place.  Over the decades I have grown more likely to feeling inferior or intimidated.

[new2day]

Neither? My eye is drawn to seeing a larger cock swinging about, whether it's in the gym changing room or at naturist clubs... I find the same with big breasts. I do get a little jealous sometimes wishing mine was able to swing about, but that soon passes.

[frottagelvr]

Well, I go against the grain on this one since I'm a small cock lover. Yes I'm small myself and perhaps that has something to do with it, perhaps I just want to have a feeling of equality with my lover, but visually I find small very arousing, sexy and aesthetically pleasing. I wouldn't say seeing a big one makes me feel inadequate, it's just they don't turn me on...simple as that.

[RodEnuf]

Alan G

[TinyJock]

I guess a combination of both. When I see a big cock at the gym, I equate it with hyper-masculinity. I'm sure it just must really bring a woman to fantastic orgasms, much greater than my small four-incher can. Although it makes me feel inadequate by comparison, I find a big cock very erotic. 

However, it's never an incapacitating feeling of inadequacy. I know, despite being hung like a chipmunk, that I'm very attractive to women and do better than most in bed, even those with big cocks. Good looks and a talented tongue can make up for a deficit in the size department. 

[Nillywilly]

A long time ago (70's) three of us went to a hot tub emporium in the Bay Area. Ron, John, and me. Once we were in the sauna, nude, Ron was pretty much around the same size I was, maybe a little bit bigger, but not much. John, on the other hand, was really well hung. As we sat in the steam talking, John began to get aroused and his monster awoke. John knew our both our wives. John was married, too. John said he was available for sex with our wives. Ron asked if he could watch. John said "Sure, but you might get bummed out." Ron then asked if John's wife would participate. John demurred, saying his wife wasn't into that kind of kink. John said we should ask our wives and get back to him.

My wife was a size queen and she liked John, he was a bright, creative guy. I told her about the gathering in the sauna. When I described John's impressive dimensions, she said, "I knew it." She asked if I would want to be present. I told her it was up to her. She said she'd think about it.

The next day she said, "It's not a good idea." I didn't bring it up again. Ron's wife, Becky, said "Yes!" and it wasn't long before Ron and Becky were history. Eventually, John and his wife Karen broke up, too as she tired of his exploits.

A while later John pursued the wife of another friend, she eventually turned John down but it didn't matter, she and my friend broke up anyway.

Now pursuing such activities in the Bay Area was one thing, in rural America I could see John getting himself shot.

[Restoredude]

I've been to several nudist resorts and in a few nudist groups (all male) and I've never felt inadequate because of size. I tend to hang (literally!)  with guys who are my flaccid size or smaller. Being a grower, I'm often the largest when we all get erect. One thing that somewhat intrigues me is seeing young teenage boys at the nudist resorts who are extremely well endowed. Some don't even have pubic hair yet but easily have 5" hanging.

[Guest]

Both

[lean]

Same as with @Ruly, both.

[DallasDavey]

All through high school and college they made me feel inadequate.  But in grad school I finally got the nerve to actually play with them.  Feeling a bigger one in my hand after so many years of only holding my small one turned me on so much.  Now I'm really in the hunt for bigger ones to play with and have really become bi in search of more to play with

[lilpeter]

I would go with a third choice but not really know how to word it.  I do like to see and play with larger dicks than mine but at the same time if the guy is hung like a horse that's a turn off for me. If I can't get my mouth over it I certainly don't want it put anywhere else. But I'd love to play with a nice 6 incher, not too thick.     

[quickquoteit]

I like to play with them. Like a kid with a new toy.