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do bigger cocks make you feel inadequate - or more horny?


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Large cock size reactions  

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  1. 1. Do bigger cocks make you feel inaedquate - or more horny?

    • Yes, seeing or playing with larger dicks make me feel "small" and it's a turnoff
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    • No, seeing or playing with larger dicks make me feel more horny
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Bigger cocks intimidate me to the highest degree.  I become passive and subservient around hung guys- and they sense it right away.  A few times now i have seen a friend naked and finding out how well endowed they are has permanently changed how i feel around them.  I certainly cant accept them as equals anymore.  I might equate it with finding out your friend is actually a multi millionaire or perhaps royalty.  In fact i think i could handle the latter two conditions alot better.  

Its odd and no doubt a bit psychotic, but i cant be normal friends with three different guys since learning their "secret".  Im polite with them but no longer trust them or joke with them.  Funny thing is they might well react similarly to me if they knew my gay tendencies, but i suspect they would be more forgiving and accepting.

The ultimate irony is we might get along terrifficly since they might really like my secret hobby.

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On 11/10/2019 at 8:39 PM, Stephen92 said:

men can react in two ways when confronted with seeing or playing with larger cocks: either you are super turned on and more horny than before or you feel reminded about your own penis being inadequate and "small".

What is your reaction, when confronted with seeing a larger dick in porn or when playing with a much larger penis?
Does it make a difference in your reaction whether you see a large dick anywhere - or if you actually play with a large penis for real?

I am reminded my penis is drastically smaller and I feel inferior.

My glances at the genitals of the well hung must be somewhat too long.  Too often I get knowing smirks, purposeful displays, and even propositions.  Most don't seem to notice, however.

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Neither. I love my small penis, as does my wife. I find large penises unattractive, and, fortunately, so does my wife. Her ex-husband was well hung, but was an uninspiring and uninspired lover.  It was my smaller penis that, as she put it, "made a cocksucker out of me." Probably the most beautful thing anyone has ever said to me!

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@wuerstchen Your wife is a discriminating and refined woman!

Back in the day, my wife would sometimes join me in watching porn (on VHS tapes!). We even attended the “Autobiography of a Flea” premiere at the Mitchell Brothers theater in Berkeley, that was quite an event as the Mitchells tried (and failed) to “mainstream” porn, a theater full of straight couples was a memorable sight something that would never happen today.

My wife liked some of the men, they had to be good-looking with nice bodies and no tats, etc. Some she would say, “I’ve had bigger”, some “get that thing away from me”, and afterwards we would usually employ an extender and have a hot time.

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my wife got frustrated with my small size(<4 inches erect) and my premature ejaculation and said she wanted to split.  I begged her to stay and said she could see her black friend she met at her gym.  at the first time I met him he told me he wanted me to watch so i could learn how to satisfy a woman.  I was shocked and so turned on when i saw his size and how she reacted to him.  i had to leave the room after 10 minutes cause i didnt want them to see me cum.  Since then she has left me and now i am a cocksucker for big black men.

 

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I voted for option #2, but being made to feel small is also part of what contributes to being more horny. For me there has always been something about seeing a larger cock, whether flaccid and swinging or engorged and hard. Even when I was younger and more embarrassed about my own size, larger ones always did something for me. I'm comfortable with my size for a while now and any size can be a turn-on or simply nice to see casually, but large ones have a special eroticism.

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I chose the second option when voting, but this is very situational for me. For example, if I happened to see a guy with a big cock in a locker room, I would feel an automatic envy for what he was packing and the age old anxiety would likely flare up. I'd still enjoy looking, but would probably feel a little self conscious. However, if I was with the same guy in the bedroom I would enjoy playing with and sucking his cock and my own size wouldn't be such an issue. I'd be interested to know if others are conflicted in this way. 

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It is definitely BOTH for me … although there are layers to it.

I LIKE feeling small and inadequate … definitely pushes me into the sub-space.

I very much like being submissive. Even worshipping a hung guy I am with. I will do far more for a hung guy, than one who isn’t, generally. 

Intellectually, I feel some of my attitudes / approaches are wrong. BUT it is what it is. It is how I am. I like big cocks. And I know I am smaller. 

So it makes me feel inadequate / inferior. And THAT turns me on, usually. 

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On 6/5/2021 at 6:14 AM, Chris85 said:

However, if I was with the same guy in the bedroom I would enjoy playing with and sucking his cock and my own size wouldn't be such an issue. I'd be interested to know if others are conflicted in this way. 

Issues resolved through accepting the eater feeder relationship.  No conflict, then.  Reality prevails on both sides.

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I’ve had a few group sex experiences, and it’s been such a turn on to see a much bigger cock being admired and positively commented on.   My vote is that it is definitely a turn on! 

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On 5/10/2020 at 9:06 AM, Stubbymikey said:

Bigger cocks intimidate me to the highest degree.  I become passive and subservient around hung guys- and they sense it right away.  A few times now i have seen a friend naked and finding out how well endowed they are has permanently changed how i feel around them.  I certainly cant accept them as equals anymore.  I might equate it with finding out your friend is actually a multi millionaire or perhaps royalty.  In fact i think i could handle the latter two conditions a lot better.  

Its odd and no doubt a bit psychotic, but i cant be normal friends with three different guys since learning their "secret".  I'm polite with them but no longer trust them or joke with them.  Funny thing is they might well react similarly to me if they knew my gay tendencies, but i suspect they would be more forgiving and accepting.

The ultimate irony is we might get along terrifficly since they might really like my secret hobby.

I know it is a bit "psychotic" as you say, but I feel like that about all guys because all guys I've associated with are substantially larger than me except for a couple I glimpsed who were around my size in mandatory gym long long ago.  Apparently, the few guys my size (surveys say 5% or less) tend to more effectively avoid nudity and other "reveals" while I have not.  I was pressed very hard by parents and family to "participate" so I constantly faced the issue growing up while not only being small, but absurdly late and slow in puberty. 

Part of it might be inherent personality, because I was always naturally shy and non-assertive, but my odd maturing experience certainly reinforced and made habitual the outlook.  Maybe my inherent nature or personality made a more "normal" adjustment or compensation more difficult that usual.  The stereotypical compensation is the Napoleon complex:  more extreme aggressiveness which never felt right to me when attempted.

"Psychotic" probably isn't the right word.  "Neurotic" might be the more appropriate word, or, maybe something else.  Yes, "I become passive and subservient around hung guys- and they sense it right away."  But, not just hung guys, almost all guys unless they have an extremely passive or effeminate personal presentation.  Worse is that they, as you say, "sense it right away" and treat me differently, as an inferior.  Sometimes subtle, sometimes, not.  At best, I'm treated like a "sidekick" in the old Western Movies movies like the Cisco Kid, Lone Ranger, others I can't think of. . .

Of course, I've developed various "acts" to minimize this problem that had various levels of success.  Bravado and swagger allowed me to "get by" when employers and others required I be "boss like," but it was never natural to me.  Liquor was a crutch for a time.

Yeah, some discovered my "secret hobby", in which case they let me know they "always suspected it" before or after we acted it out.

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As a straight man I wouldn’t say I feel intimidated as such, but I certainly feel inferior.  The confidence that having a bigger penis creates is something I am incredibly envious of.  When I see larger cocks (most I see are larger than my 2-3” flaccid) I imagine the sense of confidence and enjoyment they must have sexually, which then in turn plays into other aspects of life sporting and professional prowess as examples.

So, for me it’s envy and self pity - a sense of unfairness that exists in this respect across society.  Bigger is better.  Bigger wins. 

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I am definitely turned on seeing bigger cocks.  I’m sure part of that is my generally submissive nature. I played racquetball with a guy in college and we were really competitive until I saw his very large soft cock one day when we were changing. From that point on I had a really hard time beating him. We were never intimate and I don’t know if he ever saw how small I was.  And I did not consciously let him win it just sort of happened. I did fantasize about him a lot though ☺️. So seeing and comparing bigger cocks to me is quite the turn on. But if intimacy involved there definitely has to be chemistry.  That is way more important than size. I have zero interest in someone who is just phoning it in no matter what their size is. 

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I've been around others with much bigger cocks than my own, I don't really care either way, it's interesting to see all the different sizes and shapes out there. I used to play racquet sports with a couple of guys from work about 20 years ago, they were both well endowed, I mean hanging 5-6 inches. Must have been quite the contrast for others seeing me standing next to those two monsters in the showers.

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On 12/1/2022 at 11:16 AM, uncutonetwo said:

I’m very intimidated by large penises. But on the other hand there is this weird feeling of their power over me. It just feels like they are more male and superior than I am. Can’t really explain the feeling, but anyone else know about this?

Certainly as a bottom I can speak to the power a large penis has over me.   Part of it is the idea of how deep the man's seen is being put into me.   But part of it is in the intensity of feeling, mixing pain with pleasure. Having a partner who can make my entire penis disappear in his foreskin does have an impact also.  The comparison cannot fail to have an impact. 

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