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This is a topic I almost never hear people talking about. Its almost like it isn't a part of sex to them at all. I myself have found it to be the most important part of sexual enjoyment. All I ever hear about is 'physical' stimulation during sex. Women talk about how large a penis they need to be able to orgasm, or that the guy isn't hitting the 'right' spot. Guys complain they don't get enough stimulation from a vagina because there penis is too small, or the vagina is too large. Haven't you guys (or your partners) ever had an orgasm or even been driven 90% of the way to orgasm by being mentally stimulated where the slightest touch is the final trigger to an uncontrollable, mind blowing orgasm?

However, just like physical conditioning the mind needs to be exercised sexually to stay at its peak. I have found ways during my life to keep myself consistently mentally sexually stimulated.

With the right amount of 'mental' sexual excitement I don't even need to feel sensations from my penis. Just the thought that a part of my body is inside the body of someone I have strong feelings for is enough for me to reach orgasm. That is the power of 'mental sexual stimulation'.

My point to this is that it can make the matter of penis or vaginal size irrelevant because increasing 'mental' stimulation proportionally reduces the need for 'physical' stimulation. This works equally for both men and women.

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28 minutes ago, NuderThanNude said:

My point to this is that it can make the matter of penis or vaginal size irrelevant because increasing 'mental' stimulation proportionally reduces the need for 'physical' stimulation. This works equally for both men and women.

Good point.

But you need to give us some examples of what "mental things" give you or a partner the stimulation you are talking about.

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When I was younger I was on a ‘hair trigger’ more than once. There *were* a few times when a single touch set me off.

And, on one memorable occasion when we were dating, without any preliminary chit-chat at all, my first wife greeted me after I’d been away for a week with the news that she’d had sex with a young man she barely knew, on a whim, at a ‘lover’s lane’ we often used.

I was instantly erect when she confessed to this.

And then she told me that she’d briefly sucked his (“a LOT bigger than YOURS”) penis as they sat in the front seat of his car until he was erect before swinging her leg over his lap and fucking him with such wild abandon that he ejaculated almost instantly.

At that point I then involuntarily ejaculated in my pants without even a touch.

And she laughed.

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49 minutes ago, Bobs yer Uncle said:

When I was younger I was on a ‘hair trigger’ more than once. There *were* a few times when a single touch set me off......

At that point I then involuntarily ejaculated in my pants without even a touch. .......

And she laughed.

That reminds me that I spent a lot effort REDUCING and avoiding mental stimulation.  First, in group showers where I was the only one unhung with no puberty.  Next whenever I attempted sex with women to prevent too early ejaculation.

Probably too concerned with my own mental state to provide mental stimulation for the female partner who may have needed it!

Whole new take on why sex with me sucked for most female partners and why physical "sucking" stimulation of woman required.

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3 hours ago, NuderThanNude said:

This is a topic I almost never hear people talking about. Its almost like it isn't a part of sex to them at all. I myself have found it to be the most important part of sexual enjoyment. All I ever hear about is 'physical' stimulation during sex. Women talk about how large a penis they need to be able to orgasm, or that the guy isn't hitting the 'right' spot. Guys complain they don't get enough stimulation from a vagina because there penis is too small, or the vagina is too large. Haven't you guys (or your partners) ever had an orgasm or even been driven 90% of the way to orgasm by being mentally stimulated where the slightest touch is the final trigger to an uncontrollable, mind blowing orgasm?

However, just like physical conditioning the mind needs to be exercised sexually to stay at its peak. I have found ways during my life to keep myself consistently mentally sexually stimulated.

With the right amount of 'mental' sexual excitement I don't even need to feel sensations from my penis. Just the thought that a part of my body is inside the body of someone I have strong feelings for is enough for me to reach orgasm. That is the power of 'mental sexual stimulation'.

My point to this is that it can make the matter of penis or vaginal size irrelevant because increasing 'mental' stimulation proportionally reduces the need for 'physical' stimulation. This works equally for both men and women.

I agree mental stimulation is a very powerful aphrodisiac. Like you say just thinking about someone you desire to have sex with can give you a erection.

I still need to stroke my penis to achieve a orgasm. I love the feel of my hard cock in my hands. 

I also have never had a wet dream sadly.

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I brought up this topic with the understanding that if someone isn't used to having a constant high level of mental sexual stimulation it can be hard to imagine the significance of what it could be like to be able to orgasm from almost purely mental stimulation. The fact is that the ratio of 'physical' and 'mental' stimulation required for orgasm has to total 100% so if the level of mental stimulation is low, for orgasm to happen, the balance has to be made up by physical stimulation.

I always carried a constant high level of mental sexual stimulation ever since before reaching puberty. I used to have erotic dreams of forgetting to get dressed for school and standing naked in front a group of girls in the school yard before class began. I was circumcised at birth and loved my boyhood body so I awoke extremely sexually excited. As I got closer to puberty these dreams turned into wet dreams.

I started exploring my sexuality even before puberty and have spent most of my life thinking of ways to improve my sexual enjoyment. I started by putting things down my urethra to see where it led to. The feeling of something foreign inside my urethra was mind bowing. I then discovered how sensitive my nipples were so started to experiment with sticking sewing needles into them. That turned into piercing my frenum. That led to my constantly thinking about what I could do next. That led to the sexual mental high from planning to execute my next modification. The sexual excitement of performing the modification and the enjoyment experiencing the result. It seemed like I spent every second of my time thinking sexual thoughts. Obviously I also viewed lots of porn and when the internet became available I looked for new genital modification ideas.

I always understood the merits of physical fitness but didn't understand the importance of maintaining a high level of mental sexual fitness until one point of time in my life where I was so consumed with work that I didn't have time to keep myself mentally sexually stimulated. When the workload subsided and I tried to pick up up where I left off I found it extremely difficult. It was like taking an extended sabbatical from physical fitness and the feeling like you have lost everything. I vowed that I would never let that happen again and began to realize that the greatest sexual enjoyment came from a larger percentage of the the mental part of sex.

 

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On 3/25/2021 at 7:27 AM, wayless said:

Good point.

But you need to give us some examples of what "mental things" give you or a partner the stimulation you are talking about.

@waylessWhen I have vaginal sex where I am getting little to no physical stimulation from being inside and I want to orgasm, all I have to do is think about the fact that that my penis is inside the body of this person that I care so much for. The two things that are important in this situation are first, having the high level of sexual mental energy where the idea of a penis in a vagina (and two people becoming one because of it) triggers a very strong sexual emotion in the brain. Second, is that a strong emotional connection with the person must exist.

Its kind of like being physical fit where you can respond quickly with high levels of energy. The same goes for the brain when you keep yourself constantly at such a high level of sexual excitement it doesn't take much to quickly trigger a strong sexual mental reaction.

As an example, the other day I was watching a video where an attractive female was playing with her man's transcrotal and placing his penis through it and twisting his scrotum several times around his cock. I was fully clothed and wasn't touching myself at all, but had such a strong mental reaction to the video that all of a sudden, within an instant, I knew I was going to orgasm in my pants and I couldn't stop it. It was a mind blowing orgasm but unfortunately messy.

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On 3/25/2021 at 10:01 AM, wayless said:

That reminds me that I spent a lot effort REDUCING and avoiding mental stimulation.  First, in group showers where I was the only one unhung with no puberty.  Next whenever I attempted sex with women to prevent too early ejaculation.

Probably too concerned with my own mental state to provide mental stimulation for the female partner who may have needed it!

Whole new take on why sex with me sucked for most female partners and why physical "sucking" stimulation of woman required.

@wayless - Too many people may feel guilty about spending time maintaining a high level of mental sexual stimulation. I always felt that sex was one of the few things that was so fantastic and (in most cases) free that life is too short to deprive ourselves as much enjoyment as possible. I never felt guilty for keeping myself constantly mentally sexually motivated. Another thing that can enhance sexual mental stimulation is desire. I could never imagine how couples could have sex several times a week. My wife and I only had sex every couple weeks and when we did we had so much 'desire' built up the mental sexual energy was through the roof.

One thing that can definitely put up a huge roadblock to sexual enjoyment is any feelings of insecurity.

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54 minutes ago, NuderThanNude said:

I always understood the merits of physical fitness but didn't understand the importance of maintaining a high level of mental sexual fitness until one point of time in my life where I was so consumed with work that I didn't have time to keep myself mentally sexually stimulated. When the workload subsided and I tried to pick up up where I left off I found it extremely difficult. It was like taking an extended sabbatical from physical fitness and the feeling like you have lost everything. I vowed that I would never let that happen again and began to realize that the greatest sexual enjoyment came from a larger percentage of the the mental part of sex.

Oh, oh!  Our traditional differences come to the surface.

In my analysis and perception, you sure do lead with your forebrain, far more than most people in my estimation!

Until I neared my 70s, I was never lacking for an automatic state of sexual stimulation.  It was just there and thinking about specific sexual things would simply bring it to higher more intense levels. 

So, your, "I was so consumed with work that I didn't have time to keep myself mentally sexually stimulated" is totally foreign to me.  Involuntary sexual stimulation is something that would be hard to quiet even when necessarily concentrating on work.  At my slightest let-up in concentration, sexual stimulation would re-assert itself ready to be intensified by thought, perceptions, or self or partner touching.

In my case, this state did not generally lead to seeking partners because my of inferiority feelings while far behind in puberty.  This lack of assertiveness in interpersonal relations was hard to shake even after puberty was completed due to my diminutive equipment.

However, I never lacked for being sexually stimulated.

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25 minutes ago, wayless said:

In my analysis and perception, you sure do lead with your forebrain, far more than most people in my estimation!

That may very well be true and the reason I have experiences that others have not. I actually believe that is the reason that I joined this site - to share my experiences and possibly help others.

 

27 minutes ago, wayless said:

Until I neared my 70s, I was never lacking for an automatic state of sexual stimulation.  It was just there and thinking about specific sexual things would simply bring it to higher more intense levels. 

.. However, I never lacked for being sexually stimulated.

I really wonder if we are talking about the same level or degree of 'mental sexual stimulation' the kind that will allow someone to have an orgasm from solely mental stimulation. Everyone has a normal level of physical fitness level. However, it is only those who push their bodies and reach a much higher level of fitness that experience things that others may never. When I was unable to maintain my high level of (sexual) mental fitness due to my workloadI believe it returned back to the (normal) automatic level you talk about. I still got sexually stimulated but need much more physical stimulation for orgasm.

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t took time and effort but I was able to return to my previous level of mental sexual fitness and then eventually exceed it. I have had many orgasms that were strictly mental without the slightest bit of physical stimulation. I also have had countless predominantly mental orgasms during sex (and masturbation) with very minimal physical stimulation. To the extent that, by accident a half dozen years ago I realized that too much physical stimulation was detracting from my level of sexual enjoyment. That resulted to my most recent body modification.

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Yeah, don't take what I'm saying as a criticism or denial  or minimization of your state of mind.  I'm trying to understand our apparent differences.

For instance, I've had physical orgasms with ejaculation due to strictly mental self-stimulation or mental stimulation within a real or potentially sexual situation with no touching of my penis.

As I explained, I was more concerned with limiting mental stimulation to avoid inappropriate orgasm and ejaculation.  I saw no reason to seek those experiences.

 

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18 hours ago, Bobs yer Uncle said:

When I was younger I was on a ‘hair trigger’ more than once. There *were* a few times when a single touch set me off.

And, on one memorable occasion when we were dating, without any preliminary chit-chat at all, my first wife greeted me after I’d been away for a week with the news that she’d had sex with a young man she barely knew, on a whim, at a ‘lover’s lane’ we often used.

I was instantly erect when she confessed to this.

And then she told me that she’d briefly sucked his (“a LOT bigger than YOURS”) penis as they sat in the front seat of his car until he was erect before swinging her leg over his lap and fucking him with such wild abandon that he ejaculated almost instantly.

At that point I then involuntarily ejaculated in my pants without even a touch.

And she laughed.

For instance, I wouldn't want to orgasm in a variety of essentially similar, but diverse situations.  Thus, I would control my mental reaction in such a situation.

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8 hours ago, NuderThanNude said:

I really wonder if we are talking about the same level or degree of 'mental sexual stimulation' the kind that will allow someone to have an orgasm from solely mental stimulation. Everyone has a normal level of physical fitness level. However, it is only those who push their bodies and reach a much higher level of fitness that experience things that others may never. When I was unable to maintain my high level of (sexual) mental fitness due to my workloadI believe it returned back to the (normal) automatic level you talk about. I still got sexually stimulated but need much more physical stimulation for orgasm.

Yeah, I've not considered extreme or a high degree of "mental sexual stimulation" "fitness."

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3 hours ago, wayless said:

Yeah, don't take what I'm saying as a criticism or denial  or minimization of your state of mind.  I'm trying to understand our apparent differences.

wayless - Trust me! I am here not only to try to help others but to also learn more myself. I believe that often we need to disagree (provided we keep the debate rational rather than emotional) to learn.

3 hours ago, wayless said:

As I explained, I was more concerned with limiting mental stimulation to avoid inappropriate orgasm and ejaculation.  I saw no reason to seek those experiences.

That is where we differ. I have found that there is more enjoyment from orgasms that consist of a greater percentage of mental stimulation. I always enjoyed the more subtle physical sensations more than the more intense (that was why I removed my glans). For me 'foreplay' was always the best part of sex!

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22 hours ago, Bobs yer Uncle said:

At that point I then involuntarily ejaculated in my pants without even a touch.

And she laughed.

Sounds like SPH or a similar humiliation reaction.  At least that's how I have reacted to similar situations including group sex. 

I would try not to be stimulated to the point of orgasm; I guess to avoid revealing how stimulated I was. 

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4 hours ago, wayless said:

Yeah, I've not considered extreme or a high degree of "mental sexual stimulation" "fitness."

I call it "mental sexual fitness" because it is very similar in many ways to "physical fitness".

Having a "high level of mental sexual fittness"  is certainly one of those things in life that unless you develop it and experience it, it is almost impossible to know it exists, let alone what it can feel like.

The following will give you some hint on how I accomplished increasing my level of 'mental sexual fitness' throughout the years:

Let me start by saying that I have come to realize that a lot of people on this site have never been into genital modifications so this may be hard to accept or appreciate. However, I have always been very inquisitive and adventurous and before the internet even existed I started (on my own) to explore my sexuality through genital modifications. My theme was never 'self harm' but to discover ways to take sexual enjoyment to a higher level for myself and my partner. One of my desires was to keep myself on mental a sexual high through as much of the day as possible. For example, having cold, hard steel in the most precious parts of my body (my genitals) was extremely sexually exciting mentally in itself. Then there was the planning of what to do and how to do it, the implementation, and the end result where this metal would tug on my genitals and rub on my clothing throughout day and constantly keep me aware of my sexuality. Just like tongue piercings (which I never had, by the way as my modifications were always personal and not on display for others) genital piercings can add mental and physical excitement during sex and provide additional pleasure (both mentally and physically) for both persons.

There is a lot more to it but I won't get into it here. Nevertheless this should give you the picture.

I want to add that I took the idea of 'mental sexual fitness' to a much higher level than most would care to but the principle applies. That sexual pleasure can be increased and a lot of issues (such as genital size) can be eliminated or significantly reduced if the percentage of 'mental sexual stimulation' can be increased with a subsequent reduction in the need for 'physical sexual stimulation)' during sex.

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8 hours ago, lilpeter said:

I like both porn and stories. I certainly get stimulated by watching others on video but I do really get into reading first person stories so that I can put myself into the place of the story teller. I have even written a couple of stories. 

Have written 4 stores and had them "published" on lushstories . com  That was way back in 2012.  Couple of people have requested some more....

 

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On 3/26/2021 at 7:56 AM, NuderThanNude said:

I want to add that I took the idea of 'mental sexual fitness' to a much higher level than most would care to but the principle applies. That sexual pleasure can be increased and a lot of issues (such as genital size) can be eliminated or significantly reduced if the percentage of 'mental sexual stimulation' can be increased with a subsequent reduction in the need for 'physical sexual stimulation)' during sex.

Admittedly, I don't "get" your perspective except intellectually.

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