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I know that there have been many topics or discussions about people knowing you are small, but here is my story and how I overcame that issue.  I have been wanting to tell this story in hopes that it will help some guys move past people knowing that they are small.

My story takes place about a little over 10 years ago.  My girlfriend(still my girlfriend) had started a new job working in an office.  The office had about 5 women and 3 guys and she told them a little about herself like when you meet new people.  They asked if she was seeing anyone and she told them that she is dating a Korean guy.  After a couple of months working there, she had to tell me something that happened at work.  The conversation started with her saying "don't be mad, but....".  At that time she would wear her glasses off and on.  One day she was wearing them at work, one of the guys(who is gay, I don't know if that makes a differences) made a dirty joke to her saying "oh, you need to wear glasses to see your boyfriends small dick!!!!".  Everyone who was there laughed, my girlfriend didn't but felt awkward and didn't know what to say.  She told me that she was sorry that they made a bad joke behind my back, but I told her that I was okay with it.  At that time I was starting to move past my size issues and that joke stopped me dead in my tracks.  We hung out with my girlfriend's coworkers many times after that joke was said about me, when I didn't know of it.  At first, I felt that they were all silencing laughing at me when we met up for dinner or other events.  I felt embarrass to be around them and it was always at the back of my mind that they know that I was small.  After a few months, I started to realized that me being small was not a problem.  Even though I am small, I still can make my girlfriend cum with my size.  She has told me that my size hits her in a good spot and she is able to cum with my penis.  I know she is not lying to me because when she cums, I can see her whole body shake with pleasure.  If my girlfriend is happy with my size, then there is no problem with me being small.  With time I am at a place in life that I feel fine being small and stop worrying so much about it.

If there are anyone who wants to share their story, please do.  I would love to read about it and how you overcame it.  

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Being an attractive guy it really doesn't take long for it to get spread around that you have a small dick because of the type of people I've slept with.

I hooked up with one girl and I wish I was making this up, when I took my pants off she grabbed my dick with her fingers and said "omg, she said you had a tiny dick but I thought she was just being a  bitch". I tried to play it off but she had this smirk on her face and she just kept giggling so I just tried to go to sleep. All I heard was her giggling while she was texting someone all night.

Now, I'm constantly worried about about people knowing because the city I live in isn't very big. That same girl has sent me a snapchat of her getting railed by some dude with a big dick for whatever reason 🤷‍♂️

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44 minutes ago, zachl said:

Being an attractive guy it really doesn't take long for it to get spread around that you have a small dick because of the type of people I've slept with.

I hooked up with one girl and I wish I was making this up, when I took my pants off she grabbed my dick with her fingers and said "omg, she said you had a tiny dick but I thought she was just being a  bitch". I tried to play it off but she had this smirk on her face and she just kept giggling so I just tried to go to sleep. All I heard was her giggling while she was texting someone all night.

Now, I'm constantly worried about about people knowing because the city I live in isn't very big. That same girl has sent me a snapchat of her getting railed by some dude with a big dick for whatever reason 🤷‍♂️

I completely understand this. I was at a naked pool party this summer with friends who are very large and well hung who had never seen me naked. I’m smaller than you and when they saw me I got giggles, smiles and hurtful comments about how tiny I am. They said they suspected that I was tiny, but not microscopic. I no longer want to be naked in front of anyone I know and I can no longer look them in the eye and feel very inferior to them. It’s now gotten around that I’m tiny and people I have just met call me “tiny”.

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Some people are so insensitive. I wonder what their insecurity is? I wonder what attribute we have they are jealous or afraid of?

The only person I have not worried about my size is a male FWB, and he is my size. I am currently single but I love women, the female body and their sexual response. I worry about disappointing the anticipation they have. I don't know how to overcome that. 

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This is a really pertinent topic.  For a while I was out about my size to everyone.  It was a stage I had to go through.  But I soon discovered that ALL my associates had sort of changed how they related to me.  Male friends acted more alpha, female friend joked about my small penis, and people in general felt like it was acceptable to ask me about "what it is like to have a micropenis".  I MOVED to a new town.  I do still have some telephone conversations, and I have been careful to keep old friend separate from new friends. NOW only sexual partners know about my size.  I no longer feel like my dick length is anyone's business but mine and sexual partners.  Do most men share their size with friends? No.  So why should I?  Well for a while I needed to for my own mental health, but I am past that now.  This may or may not go over well here, but honestly people will change how they see you and how they relate to you.  I have a friend with only one arm and he says the same thing, he can tell people are thinking about his missing arm instead of just being with him.    I do enjoy my chats with folks here, but talking ab90tu my micropenis is NOT my whole life.  I am MANY other things besides a guy with a little dick. BUT it is EASY to get typecast and locked into that category.  In high school I was on the swim team, wrestling team, track but I was relegated to being "the boy with the little dick".  I even got asked that by swimmer on another team at a meet once: "Aren't you the guy with the little dick?"  That through me for the meet.  It doesn't matter how confident I am in myself, I still have to deal with how others see me. So, we need to be whole people, not just the stereotype people want to peg us with.  In order to do that I think we need to keep some things private, not to HIDE it but just to share information responsibly and keep balance in our lives.

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In high school and in my hometown, EVERYONE knew when I got outed at the pool.   I spent the next few years as "the guy with the little dick".  It didn't matter how many trophies ai got, or my grades, that was the identify I was stuck with.  When I went to college, I had new friends and started at baseline.  I got outed but not everyone was in the same circle, so I was able to be an "average guy" with a lot of friends.   When I moved to Bastrop, I took a sub role to a dom who outed me to everyone and again I was stuck with the identity of being a "little boy".  I left that relationship and moved. When I started my job as a personal trainer, I quickly learned most men will respect me more if they DID NOT know about my micro. That was where I learned my lesson that balance was needed.  

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35 minutes ago, Wookieboy said:

This is a really pertinent topic.  For a while I was out about my size to everyone.  It was a stage I had to go through.  But I soon discovered that ALL my associates had sort of changed how they related to me.  Male friends acted more alpha, female friend joked about my small penis, and people in general felt like it was acceptable to ask me about "what it is like to have a micropenis".  I MOVED to a new town.  I do still have some telephone conversations, and I have been careful to keep old friend separate from new friends. NOW only sexual partners know about my size.  I no longer feel like my dick length is anyone's business but mine and sexual partners.  Do most men share their size with friends? No.  So why should I?  Well for a while I needed to for my own mental health, but I am past that now.  This may or may not go over well here, but honestly people will change how they see you and how they relate to you.  I have a friend with only one arm and he says the same thing, he can tell people are thinking about his missing arm instead of just being with him.    I do enjoy my chats with folks here, but talking ab90tu my micropenis is NOT my whole life.  I am MANY other things besides a guy with a little dick. BUT it is EASY to get typecast and locked into that category.  In high school I was on the swim team, wrestling team, track but I was relegated to being "the boy with the little dick".  I even got asked that by swimmer on another team at a meet once: "Aren't you the guy with the little dick?"  That through me for the meet.  It doesn't matter how confident I am in myself, I still have to deal with how others see me. So, we need to be whole people, not just the stereotype people want to peg us with.  In order to do that I think we need to keep some things private, not to HIDE it but just to share information responsibly and keep balance in our lives.

Thank you for this. It seems you have gone through this for some time. I’m a newbie and I’m just realizing and learning to deal with this issue on a day to day progress. I’m having the same issues you went through. Although I knew I was small I didn’t understand why guys were pointing me out. It wasn’t until I did some of the measurement tests that I discovered I’m not small, I’m actually tiny. I guess it’s a physiological issue of me overcoming my tininess, but a physical one as well. I can’t get bigger. I’m dealing with toilets, underwear, urinals, But dealing with people is the obstacle. I like getting naked, but to be demoralized and made to feel so inferior in front of really well hung men is difficult. 

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32 minutes ago, uncutonetwo said:

I’m dealing with toilets, underwear, urinals, but dealing with people is the obstacle. I like getting naked, but to be demoralized and made to feel so inferior in front of really well hung men is difficult. 

I agree with you.  There are some obstacles!  Urinals can be a problem.  It can be frightening standing in line at the theatre waiting to my turn at a urinal in a PACKED restroom with a hand in my pocket trying desperately to tease my little guy to get him fluffed enough to be able to hold at the urinal when my turn comes, and without being noticed.   Toilets offer more privacy but if he won't come out (he is an inside me when flaccid) then I still have to do acrobatics and lean waaaay forward so I don't pee between the seat and the rim.  That is also anxiety producing since I don't want to leave the stall with wet pants.  Nevertheless I have to put my hand on the dirty floor of the stall to lean and not tumble forward.

If you enjoy being naked try a nudist resort.  I find the people there, no matter how they are hung, just don't care.  They are there for a different reason than most people and they are much less judgmental.

Somewhere along the line you drank the Koolaid too, just like the rest of us.  What you said, the ideas that being smaller makes us "inferior" is just propaganda.  Are blue eyes inferior to brown eyes?  If we lived in a society that valued brown eyes like we value big dicks then lots of people would be wearing contacts to make their eyes brown.  

But what you say is true.  We do live in a world filled with obstacles we have to overcome. It helps if you can see it as "their" problem instead of yours. Jewish people in German had to pretend to be Christian as a survival mechanism.  That didn't make Judaism wrong, it meant the Nazi's were bad. 

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Yes, there is a reason most cultures adopt clothing that hides the genitals (or more accurately "tries" to do so).  We have enough to compete about without displaying genital "status" at all times.

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14 hours ago, Wookieboy said:

Added thoughts:  

In high school and in my hometown, EVERYONE knew when I got outed at the pool.   I spent the next few years as "the guy with the little dick".  It didn't matter how many trophies ai got, or my grades, that was the identify I was stuck with.

Yes, this is a reality.

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I grew up when schools, gyms, swimming pools all had open lockers.  In all the years never heard anyone talking (gossiping) about any other guys dick size.
Now OMG a bunch of guys naked in the same room and it seems to be a topic of ridicule.

Seeing all cocks normalized all cock sizes.
Now, dicks always hidden and big cocks are better (porn and misinformation????)
Except at naturist (nudist) events, where all cock sizes are OK.

The prudes are destroying healthy mindsets?

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Mindset has to change, as do social attitudes to healthy normal bodies. I grew up with gang showers at school right through to my 40s. I used to shower with friends, work colleagues and not once did I ever hear anyone comment on penis size of themselves or anyone else. Truth is, most look about the same especially after sports, the ones I remember were the 2 hung guys that I used to work with, and often play squash or badminton with. Never bothered me, they could clearly see I was significantly smaller than them, but never discussed.

Yes another inch would be nice, I might actually swing a little on a warm day, but being small/average should never stop you from doing anything.

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On 12/10/2022 at 1:14 PM, new2day said:

Truth is, most look about the same especially after sports, the ones I remember were the 2 hung guys that I used to work with, and often play squash or badminton with. Never bothered me, they could clearly see I was significantly smaller than them, but never discussed.

So, you leave out from your thinking that MOST is not ALL?  That some have so called micro-penises?  

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The truth is the only way to prevent anyone from knowing you are small is to live a life where you never get naked in front of anybody. If you do get naked in front of people you can’t control what they say or do or who they tell. The only thing you can control is how you respond and understand that in spite of the premium our society puts on big cocks, having a small dick does not make you less of a person. 

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I do like being naked. I’m also a very social guy and I do love men. I really want to be naked around people I enjoy being around socially. But being self conscious and knowing their judgements is painfully hurtful. Just a few days ago someone I know but has not seen me naked said, “I heard you’re hung like a raisin”. It took me off guard and I didn’t know what to say at the moment, but I was visibly embarrassed. 

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37 minutes ago, uncutonetwo said:

I do like being naked. I’m also a very social guy and I do love men. I really want to be naked around people I enjoy being around socially. But being self conscious and knowing their judgements is painfully hurtful. Just a few days ago someone I know but has not seen me naked said, “I heard you’re hung like a raisin”. It took me off guard and I didn’t know what to say at the moment, but I was visibly embarrassed. 

I think you just have to own it. I’m sort of lucky in that I’m naturally submissive and cocks that are bigger than me (which is most of them) are a big turn on for me, but if a straight guy says that you could ways respond with, “Well, your mom seems to like it!”  Or “Interesting question coming from a straight guy.  Are you hinting at something?” The truth is only an a-hole would say something like that just to make themselves feel superior so I would have no problem cutting them down to size, so to speak. 
 

And being from a small town in Indiana, I’m also curious what social events you attend naked. Sounds like fun. 
 

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3 hours ago, TinyGuy96 said:

The truth is the only way to prevent anyone from knowing you are small is to live a life where you never get naked in front of anybody. If you do get naked in front of people you can’t control what they say or do or who they tell. The only thing you can control is how you respond and understand that in spite of the premium our society puts on big cocks, having a small dick does not make you less of a person. 

Very wise words.  I am out about my size in sexual relations and friends, but not at work.

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my largER size....fair enough.
I am not fond of small/large....what are the limits that define these.

same with short/tall
At 5'10"  I am taller than Sylvester Stallone, but shorter than Kareem Abdul Jabbar
I am taller than the American average but shorter than the Dutch average (and I am Dutch....oh the shame of it all)
Am I tall?

BTW years ago Xavier Hollander (The Happy Hooker) claimed the Dutch had the largest penises...double whammy LOL

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