Smallest Penis in Friend Group

[UnhungNudist]

@Wookieboy Like you I was on swim team from age 5 to college.  I was always the smallest guy and it was noticed and pointed out.  Mostly it occurred for me and my group in adolescents when boys started changing and as I always put it “filling out their speedos”. I wanted so badly to have a bulge like most of my teammates!  We had all grown up seeing one another naked.  When really young we all stripped down and showered for ages naked in the group shower noticing the older boys especially the larger hairier boys because they looked so different then us but it wasn’t sexual back then.

Then as we got older and closer to preteen age the speedos stayed on while we showered as most of us became more modest and insecure as we weren’t developing yet but aware our older teammates were.  As most of the guys started to develop the more secure and larger guys began showering naked again after practice.  Me and a few others remained in our speedos thinking we were hiding our small dicks but let’s be honest, a wet speedo hides NOTHING!  It just made us stand out as we got older and everyone else was naked except the small dicked guys and the preteens.  Some of those preteens were getting naked and hung already and made it even worse to see a younger kid bigger than me!

I loved swimming and competing and I was fast so I think that was my only saving grace and reason my team was easier on me.  I still got teased a lot, so much so I tried to quit swimming a few times but my mother wouldn’t let me, she never knew my reasons I would have been mortified to tell her but I’m sure from the stands she noticed my unfilled speedo compared to my same aged teammates.  I relented and kept swimming and by college I was just use to the occasional ribbing for my size but noticed a couple of other smaller guys and looked up to them for just not giving a shit and not hiding it and tried to embody their confidence.

It really is amazing how your dick can be such a factor in how you are viewed among peers.  By college we were all very fit guys with great toned bodies but us smaller guys were viewed as lesser or subpar because our dicks were smaller flaccid.  It’s absurd!

As for my group of friends that I experimented with sexually growing up which included a few teammates none of them cared and I was always the smallest.  We were all more interested in seeing each other naked and aroused and making each other feel good and cumming.  It was mentioned a couple of times questioning if I would have a growth spurt eventually.  Most of the focus were on my best friends who were twins and how big and thick their dicks were so I was happy that they got most of the attention.  I was still so insecure but funny how testosterone and teenage horniness gets you over your insecurities in order to cum!
 

Edited August 14, 2023 by RodEnuf
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[Wookieboy]

@UnhungNudist  Very good share!   My experience was similar in the locker room. They had several grade levels practice together at our school, so in high school junior high boys were also practicing, and showering, with older boys. It used to really bother me that the younger guys were far more developed than I was, and every one else had noticed it too.  When we shaved for events it made me look even more childlike.  In my case my penis retracts inside so flaccid I appear to have only a small gathering of foreskin about my balls.  How could boys NOT comment.
 

Edited August 14, 2023 by RodEnuf
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[Guest]

14 hours ago, UnhungNudist said:

It really is amazing how your dick can be such a factor in how you are viewed among peers.  By college we were all very fit guys with great toned bodies but us smaller guys were viewed as lesser or subpar because our dicks were smaller flaccid.  It’s absurd!

Hard to accept, but being below 4.5" is seen as making you unqualified for penetrative sex:  thus ridicule or pity is too typical.  I guess it is hard to deny that really short dicks are an objective issue for penetrative sex.  It was for me.

Edited August 14, 2023 by wondering4

[Averagehardguy]

Flaccid I had one of the smallest dick of the soccerteam, an I have been in multiple teams! How ever I also compared my dicks with a couple of different friends and in this case errect. I was bigger then most but they were pretty similar. Except for one he had a huge dick and a huge load. If you want to check my beautiful weapon just send me a pm 🤣😉

[Wookieboy]

On 8/14/2023 at 5:51 AM, wondering4 said:

Hard to accept, but being below 4.5" is seen as making you unqualified for penetrative sex:  thus ridicule or pity is too typical.  I guess it is hard to deny that really short dicks are an objective issue for penetrative sex.  It was for me.

I found in sports with a  smaller penis also had to work harder to be respected. 

[like.small0609]

On 8/14/2023 at 6:51 AM, wondering4 said:

Hard to accept, but being below 4.5" is seen as making you unqualified for penetrative sex:  thus ridicule or pity is too typical.  I guess it is hard to deny that really short dicks are an objective issue for penetrative sex.  It was for me.

I think this is just true though all my female friends talk about it. It doesn’t mean all hope is lost for straight sex you just have to find the right person and positions but it means you have to be willing to admit you are small.

[divedud]

 I have been outed as small to the three social groups I have had by women I have slept with. Each time I dropped that social circle and started again, even leaving the country and living abroad before I once again made the mistake of sleeping with a woman or two and then being found out.

The last time it happened was in 1999 since then I have lived in misery as a total recluse, leaving the house to work and buy food only. I have not had sex since 1999 and have no friends or been out socially since 1999.

I am 60 now and still feel the same way, I cannot accept the shame I feel or the humiliation of people knowing.

I tried therapy and although I accept the principle that I could one day accept my small penis I cannot control what a woman thinks or feels once she sees me or if they are going to tell someone in the future. 

The solution would be for me to make the effort again to build a new social circle without lying about the life I have lead and then date a woman or two, accept the shame I feel when sleeping with a woman and then accepting the humiliation of my new friends once they find out, which they always do.

At 60 I am afraid that the risk to reward ratio does not justify the monumental amount of work I would have to put into restarting a life again. I don't find 50/60 year old women attractive, and any sexual performance I could muster would not be worth the effort needed to change my life from what it is now and has been.

My solution is suicide once my mother dies, which is the plan I have had for several years now.

[Appreciater]

@divedud .....   Hey... Tough row to hoe you've had.  ... I don't notice you have been very active here in the forums.   Please... know that you have our concerns and support.   Don't let this bring you down so low.  If those women were Anything worth being around, there would not have been this situation.  It's THEIR loss.!!  ... There's nothing that you did wrong.   Keep in touch with Us,. We are here.!!! 👍

[divedud]

I only come back to this site every few years when really sucidal and miserable. I can't until my mother dies (duty).

I know in my heart of hearts I can never accept this thing. My entire lifetime has been consumed with fear shame humiliation misery and anger. I have a very deep relationship with all those feelings to the exclusion of all else.

Don't worry with replies, I'm venting. There is nothing anybody could say that could help.

 

Good luck to you all.

 

[Appreciater]

@divedud ......  You may vent here all you would like. 👍 ....  I have to vent on things somewhere many times myself. ...  Remember, you are not alone in this situation.  Other guys are having the same problems as you all over the world.   Keep venting.👍

[toadfish327]

@divedud please to get some help that is effective.   Keep trying, something is bound to work if you want to improve you attitude. 

[Guest]

On 8/19/2023 at 1:09 PM, divedud said:

I only come back to this site every few years when really suicidal and miserable. I can't until my mother dies (duty).

I know in my heart of hearts I can never accept this thing. My entire lifetime has been consumed with fear shame humiliation misery and anger. I have a very deep relationship with all those feelings to the exclusion of all else.

Don't worry with replies, I'm venting. There is nothing anybody could say that could help.

I can't help wonder "how small is your dick" that your feelings are so strongly negative?  

Also, why do you think your sex partner has to be part of a social circle.  Honestly, it is possible to find other mostly solitary persons for a relationship.

At your age there are plenty of lonely women, widowed, etc. looking for partners, not all focused on penis size.  These days you don't have to work through a "social group."
 

[divedud]

@wondering4  4.5/5"

I don't want sex or a relationship now, not that I ever had a relationship for more than 6 month's. I had a small dick and I couldn't get it up back then.

20+ years later, sex now would be a disaster. I will never be with a woman again.
 

[Guest]

18 hours ago, divedud said:

@wondering4  4.5/5"

I don't want sex or a relationship now, not that I ever had a relationship for more than 6 month's. I had a small dick and I couldn't get it up back then.

20+ years later, sex now would be a disaster. I will never be with a woman again.

Well.  Not getting it up ruled out more than your size.  Short, but you have decent thickness.  You don't approach micro like many of us here:  3.67 or 2.75 depending upon definition.  A woman would "feel you" for sure.

But, certainly, I can understand deciding to be solitary.  On the other hand, it is always possible to stumble upon the right person.  There are many non-sexual companion relationships too for us older people.  With suicidal ideas rearing their head you must be looking for something missing.  There's non-sexual interest groups you could socialize with:  Activism, Church, politics, intellectual topics, whatever.

You don't have to be defined by what went so wrong long ago even if you are sure sex is OUT for you.

Edited August 21, 2023 by wondering4

[NuderThanNude]

On 8/19/2023 at 1:09 PM, divedud said:

I only come back to this site every few years when really sucidal and miserable. I can't until my mother dies (duty).

I know in my heart of hearts I can never accept this thing. My entire lifetime has been consumed with fear shame humiliation misery and anger. I have a very deep relationship with all those feelings to the exclusion of all else.

Don't worry with replies, I'm venting. There is nothing anybody could say that could help.

 

Good luck to you all.

 

I really think you need to get yourself a hobby and start thinking about something other than your penis. There so many more things to life.

[Guest]

3 minutes ago, NuderThanNude said:

I really think you need to get yourself a hobby and start thinking about something other than your penis. There so many more things to life.

Yes.  I should have mentioned hobbies.  There is optional socialization around hobbies that don't have to be sexual, too.

[NuderThanNude]

19 hours ago, divedud said:

@wondering4  4.5/5"

I don't want sex or a relationship now, not that I ever had a relationship for more than 6 month's. I had a small dick and I couldn't get it up back then.

20+ years later, sex now would be a disaster. I will never be with a woman again.
 

I've always said that there is too much focus on the penis during sex. Your words are proof. You don't really even need a penis to have sex. I always found foreplay (when all other parts of my body are being stimulated) to be the best part of sex. Having my penis stimulated or penetrating my partner meant the end of the fun.

[JohnS1960]

8 hours ago, NuderThanNude said:

I always found foreplay (when all other parts of my body are being stimulated) to be the best part of sex.

 

The build up to the EVENT is the best part.  Hell ejaculation occurs in  your sleep thats how great it is LOL

[NuderThanNude]

1 minute ago, JohnS1960 said:

 

The build up to the EVENT is the best part.  Hell ejaculation occurs in  your sleep thats how great it is LOL

Exactly. The ejaculation and climax lasts only seconds.

[divedud]

Thankyou for all the replies.

If I imagine myself in the moment about to get naked and have sex, the thought that she now knows how small it is and that I probably wont get it up, or keep it up just terrifies me. She will know it is small and on top of that, I can't perform. She will make a judgement and it will be negative. She is also a potential smoking gun for ever more. She could let the secret out.

On top of all that, going into a relationship you have to deal with all the questions, why no kids? why no marriage or relationships, why no friends? why a recluse? why no real achievement in life? All these questions get answered when they see my penis. For me there is very little upside to getting into a relationship with a 60 year old woman. No I am certain I will not date again.

My attitude to non sexual relationships is again shame. Answering all the questions has to be done with lies and bull blah blah blah..... I've been at the stage of there being nothing I want, need or look forward too for years, and looking forward I see more of the same, and looking back I see a wasted pointless miserable experience.

I am 100% certain that this only ends for me with suicide. I am just not supposed to be here.

Told you all I'm a miserable old git.

 

[Wookieboy]

Soo every relationship comes with risk.  Talk to a sex therapist if your need and practice your skills so while u cannot change size you can shape up your skills. 

[smokeylink]

On 5/24/2023 at 7:38 AM, petitepenisboy said:

When I was young my friends and I loved to compare size. Back then I barely had any shaft at all and was by far the smallest in my group. A few of the guys were bigger then than I am now! I got teased a lot and the more I got teased the harder  I got haha. Were you the smallest in your friend group? How did you feel about it and how did others react?

I was the smallest in my neighborhood. There was one kid who was 3 years younger than me who might have been smaller but it was very close between us. Everyone else was bigger including a couple of kids who were 2 years younger. Then, from 6th grade through high school, we had to take showers after gym class and sports practices and games. I never saw a dick as small as mine for those entire 7 years. However, at 15 years old, some of my neighborhood friends and I started circle jerking together and I found out that I had outgrown one of the younger kids who just happened to be a late bloomer. That lasted for about a year and a half before he passed me up again. The good news was that I hardly ever got made fun of for my small size. I think kids in the mid-west are just generally nice. But I was also well liked and good at sports which I'm sure had a lot to do with me avoiding any ridicule. As far as how I felt about it, first of all, I don't think you can have the smallest dick without knowing it. So I definitely always noticed the sizes of everyone around me. And, of course I didn't like being the smallest. I especially didn't like having a smaller one than the younger kids. Although I have to admit, I got hard anytime I saw my younger with larger neighborhood friend's dicks. The most I ever got turned on was when the one younger kid started to catch up with me again. We actually compared ours side by side when he first started to get pubic hair and he had already passed me up. I never got hard when I saw younger with larger kids at school though. That would have embarrassed me for sure because no one ever got erections in the school showers.

[dannyboy971]

30 minutes ago, smokeylink said:

I was the smallest in my neighborhood. There was one kid who was 3 years younger than me who might have been smaller but it was very close between us. Everyone else was bigger including a couple of kids who were 2 years younger. Then, from 6th grade through high school, we had to take showers after gym class and sports practices and games. I never saw a dick as small as mine for those entire 7 years. However, at 15 years old, some of my neighborhood friends and I started circle jerking together and I found out that I had outgrown one of the younger kids who just happened to be a late bloomer. That lasted for about a year and a half before he passed me up again. The good news was that I hardly ever got made fun of for my small size. I think kids in the mid-west are just generally nice. But I was also well liked and good at sports which I'm sure had a lot to do with me avoiding any ridicule. As far as how I felt about it, first of all, I don't think you can have the smallest dick without knowing it. So I definitely always noticed the sizes of everyone around me. And, of course I didn't like being the smallest. I especially didn't like having a smaller one than the younger kids. Although I have to admit, I got hard anytime I saw my younger with larger neighborhood friend's dicks. The most I ever got turned on was when the one younger kid started to catch up with me again. We actually compared ours side by side when he first started to get pubic hair and he had already passed me up. I never got hard when I saw younger with larger kids at school though. That would have embarrassed me for sure because no one ever got erections in the school showers.

so you are telling us your whole neighbourhood compared cock size, ok i believe you

[Appreciater]

@dannyboy971 ......

MY neighborhood guys did.!! ... From starting school age on.  👍. ..  Playing with our dicks together was an almost everyday part of our play... summer and winter.  .... Wouldn't have missed those times for anything.   Was awesome fun together.

We were mixed ages into teens.  Was great seeing older guys squirt their sperm, knowing some day we would.   Then we were one day the teens squirting and mesmerizing the newer younger ones.   

Edited August 24, 2023 by Appreciater

[dannyboy971]

1 hour ago, Appreciater said:

@dannyboy971 ......

MY neighborhood guys did.!! ... From starting school age on.  👍. ..  Playing with our dicks together was an almost everyday part of our play... summer and winter.  .... Wouldn't have missed those times for anything.   Was awesome fun together.

We were mixed ages into teens.  Was great seeing older guys squirt their sperm, knowing some day we would.   Then we were one day the teens squirting and mesmerizing the newer younger ones.   

Ok mate i believe you