Reflections on being small

[Smalluncircumcised]

As I reflect upon my life of 70 years, and my feelings, they are many years of being sad and insecure about myself. This stems from both being small and uncut. Back in high school, I noticed that all the boys in gym class were both bigger than me and were cut. This started the insecurities. Then when they questioned how my penis looked because it was different. I truly started to think I didn’t like my penis. I thought I was the only man in the world that looked like this.  I didn’t date a lot of women, but those I did and had sex with, broke up with me after and told me that they only dated men who were more than 7 inches and  cut. More insecurities added. Fortunately I met and married a woman who didn’t care what I looked like.   Has any one else had similar struggles?  I would like to hear from you.  I am so glad that I found this community, it shows me that I’m not alone. 

[NuderThanNude]

1 hour ago, Smalluncircumcised said:

Back in high school, I noticed that all the boys in gym class were both bigger than me and were cut. This started the insecurities.

I was bullied in school for my body size as my parents got me into school a year early. So basically, everyone in my class was a year older and at that age 1 year made a large difference in body size along with my being on the short side to start.  Fortunately I was active and did a lot of things and had a lot of accomplishments so I had a high level of self esteem and independence so I fought back every time I was bullied and it didn't let it affect me. We didn't have any opportunities to see the penises of others (catholic school)  but I was around other boys in showers at Boy Scout camp but even though most had been through puberty where I didn't yet, nobody said a word but I will admit I wondered what was going through their minds.

22 minutes ago, Smalluncircumcised said:

I didn’t date a lot of women, but those I did and had sex with, broke up with me after and told me that they only dated men who were more than 7 inches and  cut

Reminds me of the song by Paul Simon "50 ways to leave your lover". The 7 inch and cut tells me that they wanted a clean break so they gave a reason you couldn't try to improve on. What could the problem have actually been? Only you can answer that but I suspect your insecurities may have had something to do with it or maybe something about your personality. Could be any of 50 things.

Most girls I dated wouldn't have sex with me until after a couple dates which tells me they weren't just interested in sex but that they had interest in me as a person.

Throughout life I never cared what anyone thought of me unless I had interest in a relationship with them. So I permanently rid myself of all my body hair during a time where it was unheard of for a guy to not have pubic or body hair. I rerouted my urethra which required me to never be able to stand to pee and always use a stall.

I believe what really helped me was my high level of self esteem / self security and willingness it be a pioneer in a lot of things.

Attitude is everything. I always said that if you looked and acted like you were supposed to be somewhere nobody would question your being there.

[Wookieboy]

22 hours ago, NuderThanNude said:

Attitude is everything. I always said that if you looked and acted like you were supposed to be somewhere nobody would question your being there.

Very true!!!!!   

[Small Hard Tiny Soft]

On 8/13/2025 at 5:03 PM, Smalluncircumcised said:

As I reflect upon my life of 70 years, and my feelings, they are many years of being sad and insecure about myself. This stems from both being small and uncut. Back in high school, I noticed that all the boys in gym class were both bigger than me and were cut. This started the insecurities. Then when they questioned how my penis looked because it was different. I truly started to think I didn’t like my penis. I thought I was the only man in the world that looked like this.  I didn’t date a lot of women, but those I did and had sex with, broke up with me after and told me that they only dated men who were more than 7 inches and  cut. More insecurities added. Fortunately I met and married a woman who didn’t care what I looked like.   Has any one else had similar struggles?  I would like to hear from you.  I am so glad that I found this community, it shows me that I’m not alone. 

Hi mate, I'm also so glad I found this community. It's a big relief. I must say that my life has only been obsessed and oppressed by my small penis on all the ways the don't matter a flying f*ck - but that is really easier said now than for the past 40 years or so since a kid. No woman has even bothered or not loved sex but locker rooms and communal showers have been hell for years. NO LONGER! I was really worried about the wrong audience. Easily done. Now, knowing what I do, I no longer care. I know I'm small and I so I can only wear all the outrageous number of women I've had repeatedly great sex with as a Massive Victory! And I still look upon those other guys in the shower with a bit of envy (of course) but also with a load of kinky satisfaction x

[SloStroker]

I was embarrassed and ashamed of my small penis much of my life. It wasn't until I was in my early 30's that I accepted it and actually came to love having a small penis. It's something I never thought I'd ever be proud of. But I've done a lot of research on the subject. I've poured over penis size data. I've chatted with men and women about their experiences with big and small partners. 

When you boil it all down, having a "big dick" really only matters in porn. Most women don't want a huge dick. They may say they want it, but studies show that most women are very satisfied with 5" to 6". Now granted, mine is smaller than that, but not by a huge margin. I'm 4.75" erect. I have chatted with lesbian women who don't desire a dick at all and they have very healthy and active sex lives. I also discovered that only 40% of women can orgasm from penis in vagina sex...regardless of size. 

So if you are basing your self worth on the size of your penis, your penis isn't the problem, your attitude is. 

[Tic-Tac]

On 8/25/2025 at 2:31 PM, Small Hard Tiny Soft said:

Hi mate, I'm also so glad I found this community. It's a big relief. I must say that my life has only been obsessed and oppressed by my small penis on all the ways the don't matter a flying f*ck - but that is really easier said now than for the past 40 years or so since a kid. No woman has even bothered or not loved sex but locker rooms and communal showers have been hell for years. NO LONGER! I was really worried about the wrong audience. Easily done. Now, knowing what I do, I no longer care. I know I'm small and I so I can only wear all the outrageous number of women I've had repeatedly great sex with as a Massive Victory! And I still look upon those other guys in the shower with a bit of envy (of course) but also with a load of kinky satisfaction x

I look upon those other guys in the shower with a bit of envy too and I understand the kinky satisfaction too. 

[NuderThanNude]

The best is if you truly love and prefer having a small penis because then when you see bigger guys in showers and at urinals you truly feel sorry for them.

[frotlv]

16 hours ago, NuderThanNude said:

The best is if you truly love and prefer having a small penis because then when you see bigger guys in showers and at urinals you truly feel sorry for them.

I actually reject big ones the same way that a lot of larger guys reject small ones!!

[Grimson]

I was always very insecure about the size of my penis. Until I was 30, I had very little sex because I didn't initiate anything myself. I came out as gay at 22. The first two men I had sex with thought I was too small. So my self-confidence was completely gone. At 31, I met an older man and started a relationship with him. He thought my body and penis were beautiful. He took me to the sauna and nudist beaches. I had to pay attention to how many men were small like me. That gave me a lot of self-confidence. The relationship ended after five years, but I'm still grateful to him. I still go to the sauna and nudist beaches alone or with friends. And now I dare to date men too.

[NuderThanNude]

3 hours ago, frotlv said:

I actually reject big ones the same way that a lot of larger guys reject small ones!!

I'm the same and it is not something I do as a defense mechanism. I actually dislike seeing large penises the same as I don't like seeing large breasts on women. In fact... I dislike anything in life that is unnecessarily large. When I see an obese person I cannot help of think about the space on the planet that is unnecessarily taken up and wasted by them. Sorry it wasn't my intent to offended any obese person on here.

[NuderThanNude]

24 minutes ago, Grimson said:

I was always very insecure about the size of my penis. Until I was 30, I had very little sex because I didn't initiate anything myself.

That's what happens when you are one of those people that like to "Compare Penises". It drives me crazy when I see so many posts on here regarding "Comparing Penises" and then the guys are distraught because they are smaller than most other guys.

I personally never cared what size penis any other guy had. They are not mine and have no effect on me what size penis the guy at the urinal next to me has. What is important to me is mine and how I use it for enjoyable sex for myself and my partner and how it is to deal with during everyday life. I spend substantially more time wearing panties than I do having sex so small genitals fit much better and are more comfortable during the greatest amount of time. I don't feel as self conscious when I am naked as smaller genitals draw less attention to them so people see me as a whole rather than just my penis.

There is no benefit to "Comparing Penises". If you are smaller you are unhappy with yours. If you are larger you have a false sense of superiority. There is the perfect mate for everyone somewhere. The problem comes in when a group of people (society) decide that something is better and spread that idea that 'bigger is better' to a larger group of (naive and gullible) people then it becomes much harder to find someone who doesn't subscribe to that idea - but it is still possible as there are always free thinkers out there. I found the perfect mate for myself by narrowing down the group by being selective on where I looked for a mate and for particular personalities of females whose priority is a lasting relationship and willing to make adjustments for everything else. Marriages based on 'sex' rarely last.

[TomAustin]

On 8/26/2025 at 11:53 AM, SloStroker said:

I was embarrassed and ashamed of my small penis much of my life. It wasn't until I was in my early 30's that I accepted it and actually came to love having a small penis. It's something I never thought I'd ever be proud of. But I've done a lot of research on the subject. I've poured over penis size data. I've chatted with men and women about their experiences with big and small partners. 

When you boil it all down, having a "big dick" really only matters in porn. Most women don't want a huge dick. They may say they want it, but studies show that most women are very satisfied with 5" to 6". Now granted, mine is smaller than that, but not by a huge margin. I'm 4.75" erect. I have chatted with lesbian women who don't desire a dick at all and they have very healthy and active sex lives. I also discovered that only 40% of women can orgasm from penis in vagina sex...regardless of size. 

So if you are basing your self worth on the size of your penis, your penis isn't the problem, your attitude is. 

Very well said.  It's all about attitude.  I would still rather be tall and have a full head of hair than not have a little dick.

 

That said, I am 67, been married 3 times, had many, many women and GFs.   What I came to learn is the old "there are 2 types..."

There are 2 Types of women

1. Those that love sex

2. Those that don't

Avoid the second kind

There 2 Types of women who love sex

1.  They love romance and cuddles and prefer oral and making out.

2.  They want to go to Pound Town

Avoid the 2nd and get one from the first

 

 

 

 

 

[NuderThanNude]

15 hours ago, TomAustin said:

There are 2 Types of women...

I agree and I have always said there are two types of women.

1. The type you go out with for sex.

If you have a small penis or looking for a long term relationship avoid this type and look for #2

2. The type you marry.

If your priority is sex and are not interested in a long term relationship avoid this type and look for #1.

Edited August 29, 2025 by NuderThanNude

[TomAustin]

@NuderThanNude  Well said, for many years all I wanted was sex, and women were easy to seduce, so I didn't care if it was one and done.
 

[Gezr69]

On 8/14/2025 at 3:21 AM, NuderThanNude said:

my being on the short side to start.

Similarly one of the Shortest amongst my peers, but never involved in any of the main stream School Sport, which was to the detriment of popularity...

On 8/27/2025 at 1:53 AM, SloStroker said:

I was embarrassed and ashamed of my small penis much of my life.

That was a big issue thru to the 30's.

Hooking up in Earlier Years was the most difficult issue, as most of the other Guys in the smallish Social Groups made it well known that I was un-hung & pressured & Pre-embarrassed?? most of the Girls about hooking up with the Small Dick.

Getting it in Jokes existed before the chance of even getting any action.
Sort of Auto Friend-Zoning situation by most Girls in any group.

The hand full of Hook-ups & significant relationships never involved any criticism, but then I made a point of putting a lot of effort into Oral, Finger Technique, Toys etc. Good massage Skills where something I also developed.

Main Refection now is that it was all Pretty Hard Work over those Years. Cramp & Tired Forearms & Wrist definitely come to mind.

That all took a turn it the mid 40's when I first tried a Cock Sleeve. All of a sudden I realised how much easier things were when I was working with a bit more Dick. 
No more Focus on ensuring it didn't slip out, no need to manoeuvre into precisely the right position to get just a half decent depth of penetration.
All in All PIV became a whole heap easier.

Been like that for over 15 Years now. 99% of the time it's always Cock-Sleeved fucking first, then after her 2 or 3, finishing off with my own dick. 

On 8/27/2025 at 1:53 AM, SloStroker said:

It wasn't until I was in my early 30's that I accepted it and actually came to love having a small penis.

Probably more like the Mid to Later 40's, probably boosted by the Swinging Scene, where a Couple of the Wives had a lot of Fun with my Smaller Dick.

[SloStroker]

On 8/29/2025 at 7:19 PM, Gezr69 said:

probably boosted by the Swinging Scene, where a Couple of the Wives had a lot of Fun with my Smaller Dick.

I have had a few female partners who preferred my cock over their husband or boyfriend's big dick. One woman I fucked said she had never had sex without pain with her husband. 
 

[Gezr69]

On 9/1/2025 at 6:52 AM, SloStroker said:

One woman I fucked said she had never had sex without pain with her husband. 

Don't think it was a "No Pain" thing with Mrs T;  Based on the frenzied way she rode Her Own Hubbies Huge Cock.

Riding me was a different type of Fun Novelty, one I've mentioned often.
She's the one that Specialised on using pop-outs as an advantage.

A Few fast strokes in, then let it pop out for a hand full of grinds against her clit which were also great for frenulum stimulation.

It was always a great edged ride, due to the reduced stimulation each time I was back inside & she'd always time it to be back in when I'd finally unload.

[Wookieboy]

As I look back on my life—around thirty years now—I realize how much of it I spent feeling sad and insecure about myself. A lot of that came from being smaller and uncut. In high school, I couldn’t help noticing that most of the guys on the swim team were bigger and circumcised. That’s when the insecurity really began.

It continued in the Scouts, when some of the guys compared themselves during a campout. I remember feeling embarrassed and wishing I looked different. For a long time, I honestly thought I was the only guy in the world who looked like me.

I didn’t date much, and the few women I was with made comments that hurt—saying I was too small to be satisfying. Things got worse in college when I joined a fraternity; some of the guys made fun of me, which only added to how I already felt about myself.

Since college, though, life has settled down. I’ve started to accept who I am, even if it’s taken a while. Finding this community has been a real relief—it reminds me that I’m not alone, and that others have faced the same struggles too.

[A-RB]

I've said it before @Wookieboy but people can be really cruel. 

They have no idea how much mental damage thier words and actions can cause us. 

But you said it right there. This is a great community. I too am glad I found it. 🙂

Edited October 16, 2025 by A-RB