First SPH experience

[Apollo4]

I have a few female friends who are nurses who I used to work with. I saw them one evening walking at the local indoor mall. Now, I work out a lot and have a thin athletic physique. I was wearing a tight pair of jeans, and the leader of the pack came up to me and said I have a great ass but too bad I have a small dick. Of course, I blushed and disputed her conviction, saying that she never saw me naked, and that she could not possibly know, and that I was a normal size. She looked at my crotch, with its tiny bulge, smiled,  and walked away, saying: “ we women have our ways to know these things “. I stood still, not following her, rather embarrassed, knowing she was absolutely correct. Yet it was one of the hottest moments of my life….. anyone else with a similar story?

[Andyex]

Ex-gf telling me I should be 1.5 longer and 1 wider…

[SmallSi]

Unfortunately no its never happened to me but I wish it would

[JasonBeam]

Yet another reason why we desperately need an admin to show back up . . . 

[Appreciater]

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Some newer members haven't seen the rules of this site. ...  This is one of the main ones.

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"You may not post or link to any material that could be considered violent, abusive, insulting, threatening, harassing or in violation of the law. You may not humiliate yourself, seek humiliation here or humiliate others." 

[I Didnt Grow Much]

As I wrote elsewhere, the first one I can remember was just after I started seventh grade. Before that, I had seen guys naked and I knew I was smaller, but it never had the SPH effect.

[bph]

I've written about this elsewhere on this site:

A girlfriend and I went on a long weekend to visit a couple of college friends of hers. We were hanging out by the pool and after a few beers my girlfriend made a comment about me having a little dick. Her friends were a bit surprised but thought it funny. A little while later, she did it again. Her friends giggled but said she should stop teasing me. Katie asked me to get them all another beer and as I was about to hand them out, Katie pantsed me! I was holding four bottles of beer and had nowhere to put them down, so the girls got a good look. And giggled when they saw my little dick. I gave them the beers and pulled my trunks up, quite embarrassed. The girls never said anything outright, but for the next couple of days I got little knowing looks and smirks from them. Now I love it when women see my little dick.
 

[Rob66]

On 4/13/2026 at 7:40 PM, Apollo4 said:

I have a few female friends who are nurses who I used to work with. I saw them one evening walking at the local indoor mall. Now, I work out a lot and have a thin athletic physique. I was wearing a tight pair of jeans, and the leader of the pack came up to me and said I have a great ass but too bad I have a small dick. Of course, I blushed and disputed her conviction, saying that she never saw me naked, and that she could not possibly know, and that I was a normal size. She looked at my crotch, with its tiny bulge, smiled,  and walked away, saying: “ we women have our ways to know these things “. I stood still, not following her, rather embarrassed, knowing she was absolutely correct. Yet it was one of the hottest moments of my life….. anyone else with a similar story?

No similar story but it just goes to show how women talk and think about male genitals. 

[SmallNeedzSmall]

When I was 18 or 19 I was telling a friend with whom I had sex a few times about hooking up with one of our professors.  I mentioned that this man had a smaller penis than mine, and he said in the most incredulous way, “Smaller than you?!?!”  He didn’t mean it to be hurtful and I can’t say it was, exactly, but 45 years later I still remember it.  It was probably at that point that I realized that instead of being average, I was smaller than average.  It has never really kept me from enjoying sex, though.

I have recently been wondering if I’d find it a turn on to be in a sexual situation where a dominant man, hung larger than I am (in other words, most other men) says humiliating things to me about my size.  I can’t say for sure that I would find it a turn on or not, but I think I’d like to try it. I feel I have developed a healthy attitude towards my small size, so I don’t believe it would be hurtful. After all when almost everyone I get naked with has an erection 2, 3 or 4 times larger than mine is, I can’t really pretend it is not small.  More often than not, I am getting off in my own head about being so much smaller so to have it confirmed by someone hung and dominant could be great!  Now I have never been kicked out of bed like a friend was once because of his small penis.  He is about 6’ 5” and has only 4 - 5 thin inches.  In fact, most hung guys I have had sex with have wanted to come back for more.  So I must make up for my lack of size in other ways.  Plus I believe that many large hung guys don’t need or want their partners to be the same size or larger.  And some really prefer small…

[Appreciater]

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Here on this site, was the first encounter I had with someone wanting SPH remarks from me. .. I had never done such a thing to anyone.  ..  I was almost begged to say some things that I didn't want to say. I finally agreed to say a few demeaning things that I didn't want to, and I didn't really believe about them...but they wanted me to.  ...  After that I told him it was just not me and I couldn't do that anymore. ... I haven't since and I won't again.  I don't believe in it, and I can't and won't do it.

[SmallNeedzSmall]

57 minutes ago, Appreciater said:

I told him it was just not me and I couldn't do that anymore

I understand completely.  You have a wonderful attitude about sex and are extremely body positive in your posts.  I doubt I could do it.  But I do think there are guys who are good at role play and would be able to get into it, even if they would never say potentially humiliating things outside of that role.  I’m not especially good at role play, even when it is a believable scenario like I’m daddy to a younger guy, for instance.  It’s mainly because I find having to play act distracting, trying to think of the right things to say.  For me, it’s a boner killer.  I would not likely be asked to humiliate someone else for their small penis anyway, when I am so small myself.  

[Appreciater]

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... @SmallNeedzSmall...

... Thank you for your kind remark. ... I often think that those here don't believe or take my statements seriously. .. 

[Caleb LoShem]

Hmmmm, I'm not sure understand the appeal.  Is sph a turn on kink for the small penis owner,  or is it a kinky deal for the one doing the humiliation  ?  I think the way to go is small penis APPRECIATION  ! My Mrs tells me, as I am banging her, that I am BY FAR the smallest she's ever had, so I can pound away as hard as I want and KNOW that I am not going to hurt her. I consider myself very lucky to be in the smallest  2.5 % of guys. We are into appreciation  & encouragement.  Humiliation is NOT part of our plan,  and wouldn't work for us.  Calev LoShem 

[SloStroker]

2 hours ago, Caleb LoShem said:

Hmmmm, I'm not sure understand the appeal.  Is sph a turn on kink for the small penis owner

I can only speak for myself, but I was ashamed and embarrassed by my small cock for much of my life. I was mortified for anyone to know I had a small dick. Then I had a fuck buddy tell me it was small and make jokes about it, and it turned me on. I finally realized that I could either let people making fun of it embarrass me, or excite me. I started showing it off more and telling people how small it is. People making fun of my cock is now a huge turn on because it's removed their ability to make me feel bad. 

I no longer lie about my size, try to hide it around others, try to make it look bigger, take "flattering" photo angles of it, or brag about how "big" it is. I've been completely set free from the social belief that "bigger is better". Granted, sometimes it is, but I have found quite a few sex partners who love my small cock. Most men I hook up with love that they are bigger than me even if they have an average cock. As a bottom, my size doesn't impact my sex partners. When I hook up with women, I just focus on oral and stimulation of their clit and g-spot. I've never had problems giving a woman an orgasm.

I also love being an advocate for other small hung men. Helping them to accept their small dicks. I'm at the point where, honestly, I would care if I had a penis at all. As long as I can masturbate I'm a happy guy. So much of what defines "manhood" is placed on having a big cock. When in fact, that couldn't be further from the truth.

Edited April 23 by SloStroker

[I Didnt Grow Much]

Appreciated, why would you think that other members don’t believe you? From what I’ve heard, you’re a master with a certain organ. Ha ha ha.

[Appreciater]

12 minutes ago, I Didnt Grow Much said:

Appreciated, why would you think that other members don’t believe you? From what I’ve heard, you’re a master with a certain organ. Ha ha ha.

...  Just so you know, through PMs I have found that there are several other organists here. 👍 

[Poll 13256]

I’ve never had experience with SPH. I think it’s pretty fun and hot.

[Michael1818]

Several years ago, shortly after I came to the realization my penis was small (5 in long but very thin girth) I did cam to cam phone sex with a hot woman. She kept asking me what I wanted to talk about but I didn't answer.  Finally I just dropped my underwear to show her my already rock hard penis.  She got a big smile on her face and said, "Oh, did you call to talk about your skinny little penis?".  She definitely confirmed my fears, and I did find it arousing that she so instantly assessed my penis as small and was clearly amused by it.  She was very frank in saying I must have a hard time satisfying a woman with such a skinny pencil dick.

[new2day]

That's quite brutal, and perhaps confirmed what you already thought. I would say own it, accept that it is what it is and figure out how you can enjoy yourself. My penis is small when flaccid,I can't do anything about that, I'm sure some people see it and quietly chuckle to themselves. I used to be self conscious about this but that doesn't stop me going out and being seen naked by men and women.

[bigforsmall]

On 4/22/2026 at 1:21 AM, Appreciater said:

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... @SmallNeedzSmall...

... Thank you for your kind remark. ... I often think that those here don't believe or take my statements seriously. .. 

Well that is probably because when people are confident, and do/have done certain things, then other people can be sceptical because they aren't/-haven't!.

All the good guys here like you thought AP😘

Believe it or not, I actually used to mod a sph site...

Yes, I know but in my defence:

1) we all do things we regret later/when older,

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2) I didn't want to actually humiliate anyone for being small myself.

I was interested in SM/DM, and felt powerful as a mod, not as a big dicker.

As you found, people would practically beg for it, or more accurately push and pester. So like you, I gave in a couple of times. I had quite a strong feminine or TG personality then ( I did basically semi transition when I was younger, then slowly de transition back, although that's always part of you, but won't go into all that here), and so guys wanted the persona of a dominant mistress with a dick. Actually these guys aren't really submissive at all, because it's their fantasy they're pushing or projecting onto people.

I'm not necessarily dead against consentual sph per se, but it's not for me. I am quite good at role play, but I felt like they were controling me, the opposite of what they said they wanted: I essentially felt like a whore rather than feeling empowered. Never again...

 

Edited April 30 by bigforsmall

[Pumpkin Eater]

I went to bed with 2 women one time.   They both talked freely about my penis being too small and making be a bum fuck.  I found the "honesty" quite stimulating while I provided oral and even got my dick in theidr pussies some.  I wasn't humiliated or hurt like a feared I would be.  Pressure to perform inserting was off and more enjoyable than usual.

[canuck45]

Good natured teasing vs deliberate humiliation.  BIG difference.

 

1 hour ago, Ethan said:

After my pics got all kinds of good praise

Well that wouldn't be SPH, but SPA

[Dyl Boban]

A couple of years ago after surgery, while in recovery. I was still dressed in the usual reveal all surgical gown.....I was internally hemorraging failry badly but not so much as they were worried about me at this point (that occured much later) but i was pretty much open to the world at this point. I have always been aware that I have a small penis and testicles, infact the operation was to remove my last remaining testicle as I had discovered I had testicular cancer for the 2nd time, and I was now the proud owner of a pair of false bollocks. Anyway, back to my story, I became aware of small groups of 2, 3 or 4 young female nurses coming up to the bottom of my trolley and having a smirk and a laugh at my small genitalia, until after a fairly long period where I began to go from a subject of fun to a subject of concern, one of the nurses eventually felt so uncomfortable about the situation that she stepped up and pulled the surgical gown down to cover my shrivelled manhood and shiney new imitation cajones up. They eventually fixed the hemorraging but it was a close run thing, I was circling the drain at one point. I was then admitted to the HDU where a suspiciously large amount of female doctors and surgeons would appear at random times and ask to see my (3) surgical wounds. I suspect they were just coming to have a look to see if the tales they had heard were indeed true. One of the females surgeons on leaving my bed side walked up to the nurses station exclaiming "that man has a tiny dick!" When faccid my penis does at first glance and 2nd and 3rd appear to be that of a 5 year old schoolboy's but it is a grower and is much more impressive when at attention (i haven't measured for a long long time and it was just about  into the "average length" at last time of measuring, probably 40 years ago) if lacking in girth (cigar width at best)  so I am a grower not a show-er. That said "needle dick" would be a unfortunately accurate description. In conclusion I knew my flaccid penis was tiny and my erect penis was not impressive but the fact that about 25 female nurses and medical professionals went out of their way to "come by" for a look at it has made me so much more aware of my perceived "shortcomings" the false testicles has added to my deflation of self-worth....that said the TRT injections I now get every 12 weeks have me as horny as f#ck...I am masturbating like I was a teenager again and constantly chasing my wife with my regularly erect penis for a quicky (or a slowy) in some random part of the house. So it's not all bad.

 

 

 

Edited May 3 by Dyl Boban