Let me ask you a few questions

[Ethan]

What is it about Measurection that keeps you coming here to read and write?

Is it possible for you that it's not in your best interest to proclaim to everyone that you have a small penis?  That such thoughts only reinforce in your mind an acute inferiority and your therapy is to commensurate with other men in the same boat --- i. e., a group pity party?  I'm gauging your thoughts when you read these words -- not accusing us -- me or you -- of Measurection of being a place of pity.

I tried to explain to some friends last night about this website, MEASURECTION, and its purpose.  The comment by someone who had never heard of it and doesn't plan to visit here was that how can this website in which many men talk about their penis (particularly a less than average penis) be helpful to anyone.  That surely all it does is reinforce ideas that there are 2 kinds of penises -- the kind everybody likes and the kind that are associated with depressed and undesirable men (unless a person specifically seeks out such a penis as a FETISH).

Is your small penis a fetish?

Are you depressed about it?  If so, won't Measurection keep you depressed?

If Measurection ceased to exist, how would it affect you? 

[Rob66]

I'll try to answer and hope my replies are seen as constructive.

Is your small penis a fetish? - not in my case as such. I have more of a fetish over my soft size in relation to my foreskin appearance. Growing up I had a turtleneck look and a relatively smallish penis. Also there were still many circumcised boys around and men in my family for me to experience difference. Although this site is based on small penis interest it has morphed into other aspects stemming from that.

Are you depressed about it?  If so, won't Measurection keep you depressed? - I can say no to that but I do detect some comments may sustain a depression.

If Measurection ceased to exist, how would it affect you? - I would find it a pity as I think it does a genuine service in allowing us to express our views, experiences and desires either on the public forum or in private chat.

[frotlv]

My small penis is not a fetish, but I suppose I have to admit I have a fetish and attraction for other guys with small ones!

No I'm not depressed about it. Measurection far from depressing me, arouses me. I totally understand the negative and depressing thoughts and feelings a lot of guys have and go through on here about their small size, we've all been there, but there is also so much positivity on the subject which I think helps a lot of people to a level of acceptance that makes things easier and less focus driven. Also, coming here I reckon has made many actually realise they are more in the average bracket than they thought they were and therefore sit within the vast majority of the global male population. 

It would be very disappointing if it didn't exist anymore since kindred spirits make the soul and confidence grow stronger. 

 

[chevy1946]

I sure enjoy being small. nothing wrong about it at all, Think about the girls, they know you have oral talents that many others don't and that is for sure. I very proud to sport around naked about anywhere I can 

[new2day]

I'd watched a TV programme called my penis and everyone else's which was made by a man with a small penis. In part of the documentary he said men generally don't talk or want to talk about these things. So it was also about encouraging people to talk and discuss their experiences. 

The programme had an online forum which I started to read and found really interesting. I'd be a hypocrite if I didn't join and start contributing, so I did, and really found it helpful to myself, and perhaps to others. After all, it's good to share. 

So yes, I had some anxiety of being one of the smaller ones in the showers, but sharing these anxieties and hearing others with the same issues was helpful. 

Anyway, the TV forum eventually closed, some went to dick.net (as did I) and I also found this forum. So I tend to post in forums where I can, share experiences, encourage others. It's a nice and respectful community here and I've made some good connections, and that's what keeps me coming back.

[NuderThanNude]

5 hours ago, Ethan said:

What is it about Measurection that keeps you coming here to read and write?

The first most important thing is that this needs to be a place to share ideas in order to help us learn and grow intellectually. It is not a place for acting on emotions but a place for rational discussion that can lead to getting to the truth about ideas and feelings. Agreement is good as it helps support our ideas but disagreement can be even more beneficial as it makes us question the validity of our ideas or feelings. We all often have very strong convictions about our ideas but at the same time we have to realize we could be wrong. So in any discussion where we are debating in favor of our ideas we need to keep our ears and mind open to what we are being told by the other party and possibly at some point, when their evidence is overwhelming, admit we were wrong. There is nothing demeaning about being wrong as it is part of the normal learning process and we should look at that it from a positive perspective. It is also a pace to learn entirely new ideas that we would not have thought of on our own.

Measurection doesn't always correspond to the definition I presented as it can be full of emotional (irrational) reactions and a failure to be active minded to fully listen to the arguments of others and admit when being wrong. People often just want to hold onto their irrational ideas, regardless of the strength of the evidence against them.

Regardless, I keep coming here as I feel that hearing different perspectives helps me understand myself better. It also helps me understand other people by seeing how they think or fail to think which helps me in other aspects of my life. I hope to learn new things from a sexual perspective and other ways that I can derive pleasure from my penis. In exchange, I hope that I can provide the same to others here.

5 hours ago, Ethan said:

Is your small penis a fetish?

NO! Because it is not "a form of sexual desire in which gratification is strongly linked to a particular object or activity or a part of the body other than the sexual organs".nor is it "an excessive and irrational devotion or commitment to a particular thing"

5 hours ago, Ethan said:

Are you depressed about it?  If so, won't Measurection keep you depressed?

NO! I love my penis as it is. If by chance I was depressed by it Measurection should be a place to learn why I shouldn't be.

Edited May 5 by NuderThanNude

[smallgrower]

What is it about Measurection that keeps you coming here to read and write?

To feel like you're not alone.  Being able to read or write how yourself and others feel about having a smaller penis, gives the sense that you're not the only one struggling out there.  So often we can feel "alone" with whatever issue we are dealing with and having a place to find others who feel the same way, can be comforting and healing.  Since I joined many years back, my attitude about my size has definitely changed for the better.

Is your small penis a fetish?

Absolutely not.

Are you depressed about it?  If so, won't Measurection keep you depressed?

Not anymore.  When I first joined I was but being able to see and share over the years, helped me to pull myself out of that self depression/hate over my penis.

If Measurection ceased to exist, how would it affect you?

It would be a huge loss to the community and helping others to see your not alone in these struggle.  I would feel a sense of loss, not having a safe place to be able to share with others who are experiencing the same thoughts and feeling about their penis and how it effects their lives.  I am in a better place because of this site and it would be sad that others would not have that same opportunity to find a sense of belonging and ability to heal. 

[canuck45]

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What is it about Measurection that keeps you coming here to read and write?
Commitment: to share the little I know in  hopes others will gain confidence in themselves and better self-esteem.  To try and dispel some of the erroneous beliefs and myths.
Enjoy the online interactions and groups support (like my AA meetings)

 

Is your small penis a fetish?

No, a fetish is sexual pleasure from a non-sexual “item”

 

Are you depressed about it?  If so, won't Measurection keep you depressed?
No I am not depressed.  Depression is a chronic medical condition.  At worst I might be situational depressed (temporary) from life stressors.
With the positive feedback here I realized my penis does NOT define who I am.  Life is good if we want it to be.  I am not my penis
And learned 6+” is not “the norm”
 

If Measurection ceased to exist, how would it affect you? 
Disappointed, "grief, loss of a friend",  miss the exchanges with others, the humour section.

 

[NuderThanNude]

2 hours ago, smallgrower said:

To feel like you're not alone.  Being able to read or write how yourself and others feel about having a smaller penis, gives the sense that you're not the only one struggling out there.  So often we can feel "alone" with whatever issue we are dealing with and having a place to find others who feel the same way, can be comforting and healing.  Since I joined many years back, my attitude about my size has definitely changed for the better.

My question is... What if you were the only one on the planet with a small penis? What would you do then? Would you be doomed to live your life (alone) in misery or maybe even end your life instead? Or would you make the best of what you have. Regardless of it's size it surely can still provide you with sexual pleasure. As for a partner... surely out of all the women you could possibly meet you could find a few who prioritized a relationship over sex or maybe not care about sex much at all. There is also the possibility that some women may even be turned on (believe it or not) about having sex with your unique (rare) small penis and even find it kinky - especially after having bad experiences with guys with larger penises.

To many people live their life centers around other people. ('I' isn't in their language... just 'We'). If you're the only one like that it's catastrophic but if there are others like that then it's OK. What kind of logic is that? Misery loves company?

Before I ever saw another penis or was introduced to the ideas around penis size (as a toddler) I never gave a single thought to the size of my penis (or how it compared to others) It gave me an awesome amount of pleasure and that was all that mattered and I loved as it was for that. As for pleasing a partner I also never even considered that there was a particular depth that it had to be able to be inserted into someone to give them pleasure. In addition, I never expected I would be compatible with everyone whether it was because of my technique or some other physical characteristic. After all, I was fussy about what things turned me on sexually so why wouldn't the same apply to others.

What I would really like to see more of here is more conversations about all of the benefits of having a small penis and all the unique techniques that can be employed to provide even greater sexual pleasure.

Edited May 5 by NuderThanNude

[canuck45]

34 minutes ago, NuderThanNude said:

My question is... What if you were the only one on the planet with a small penis? What would you do then? Would you be doomed to live your life (alone) in misery

I would join the circus in their freak show and make a fortune.  And thousands that would want to bed the unique man in the world.  LOL

Edited May 5 by canuck45

[frotlv]

@nuderthannude

Well, considering there are many gay, bi, trans, curious etc guys who actually prefer a small penis, not to mention many women who also prefer a smaller size, I have a feeling that being the only person in the world with a small one I would be exhausted constantly and probably wouldn't live very long lol!

I do agree with your final point, about discussions of the benefits of a small penis and various techniques that have become part of a repertoire to give increasing sexual pleasure.

[NuderThanNude]

1 hour ago, frotlv said:

@nuderthannude

Well, considering there are many gay, bi, trans, curious etc guys who actually prefer a small penis, not to mention many women who also prefer a smaller size, I have a feeling that being the only person in the world with a small one I would be exhausted constantly and probably wouldn't live very long lol!

I do agree with your final point, about discussions of the benefits of a small penis and various techniques that have become part of a repertoire to give increasing sexual pleasure.

I totally agree with both you and canuck45. The way people go crazy over things that are rare! I know I would want to be first in line. I believe it would be an awesome experience.

[I Didnt Grow Much]

14 hours ago, Ethan said:

What is it about Measurection that keeps you coming here to read and write?

Is it possible for you that it's not in your best interest to proclaim to everyone that you have a small penis?  That such thoughts only reinforce in your mind an acute inferiority and your therapy is to commensurate with other men in the same boat --- i. e., a group pity party?  I'm gauging your thoughts when you read these words -- not accusing us -- me or you -- of Measurection of being a place of pity.

I tried to explain to some friends last night about this website, MEASURECTION, and its purpose.  The comment by someone who had never heard of it and doesn't plan to visit here was that how can this website in which many men talk about their penis (particularly a less than average penis) be helpful to anyone.  That surely all it does is reinforce ideas that there are 2 kinds of penises -- the kind everybody likes and the kind that are associated with depressed and undesirable men (unless a person specifically seeks out such a penis as a FETISH).

Is your small penis a fetish?

Are you depressed about it?  If so, won't Measurection keep you depressed?

If Measurection ceased to exist, how would it affect you? 

I cannot imagine this site going out of business. My only wish is that it had been available when I was in my 20s.

WHAT KEEPS ME COMING HERE?

The camaraderie, companionship, and confidence building I found on the site. At least for me, this has been a place not just to share stats and facts, but more importantly, it is a friendly place to share feelings, struggles, tragedies, and triumphs among a membership of men who are the only people who can fully understand this condition.

Except in the rarest of cases, other sexual abnormalities are correctable. Nevertheless, having a small penis can be devastating from puberty to death. Even if the condition is not devastating, it is a regular embarrassment and shame that when found out, has a very cruelly ostracizing effect, whether it is being ostracized from a group, or self ostracization in an attempt to minimize the pain. Having a small penis is a situation which goes to the core of who a man is as a human being. It is human nature to form groups around commonly shared traits, and to desire to be part of that group. Given the fact that small penises are such a minute percentage of the population, finding in person camaraderie with others like yourself, even when it is found, would rarely yield a group of more than two, maybe three, and it’s always considered less than my guys who are a normal size or larger. I might have said this somewhere before, or maybe in an email, but having a life of limited, if any, camaraderie, nearly always without regular female companionship, or the companionship of the in crowd of guys, means most live a life without much of any chance of caring human touch. That IS devastating.

IS YOUR SMALL PENIS A FETISH?

No. I could never discontinue thinking about having at least a normal size penis being desirable, or wish mine was smaller.

ARE YOU DEPRESSED ABOUT IT? IF SO, WON’T MEASURECTION KEEP YOU DEPRESSED?

It certainly was mildly depressing on occasion, but the strong relationship I had with my best friends mitigated almost all of it, from my teens to my late 20s, until I married. Medication for normal types of depression was a science, but any erratic one. Stats on the success of such medications showed success and failure rates all over the map. Much more importantly, this site can be, and certainly is for me, a place to find the information, advice, and online friendships necessary to keep your head above water, if not to thrive.

IF MEASURECTION CEASED TO EXIST,HOW WOULD IT AFFECT YOU?

That would actually be somewhat depressing, closing off the benefits of the relationships I have mentioned above. I have been looking, for who knows how many decades now, for a site like this. Until joining here, all of those sites were disappointing. Among the sites I attempted using to fulfill what I was looking for, none of them were specifically geared toward small penises. One of the largest penis related sites, LPSG, it’s almost exclusively not about small penises. By it’s very name, it’s about big guys. In that context, I think it is fairly successful. In my opinion, the drawback to that site is the prevalence of posts by so many guys who are small, and the way they present themselves. This was made obvious to me first by the almost endless stories about being subservient to big penises and craving/worshiping them, including so much SPH, and the offered photos inspiring such behavior. Measurection is nothing like that, and thankfully so.

CONCLUSION?

The very thought that this site might close down, stranding so many of us without this singular experience, is disheartening, and likely damaging, to members.

If money is the issue, I suggest allowing members to sign up for a lesser amount of money, let’s say $5 to $10 per month, and thereby offering access to a certain number of, the less than premium, pics only. Saving full access, of the premium pics and videos, for $20 membership per month. Since there is no explanation at all on this site for knowledge of how many picks and videos exist, possibly offering a few examples (of their relative quality), paying $20 per month is too steep for me, and likely many others. As a matter of fact, I think the idea of compensating those pics and videos with the highest views, nothing of high value but at least some level of compensation, would incentivize existing members to post more pics and videos, and would likely draw in new members as well. Administrators and administrative assistants could determine the difference between standard and premium content.

Just something to think about.

 

[NuderThanNude]

1 hour ago, I Didnt Grow Much said:

Much more importantly, this site can be, and certainly is for me, a place to find the information, advice, and online friendships necessary to keep your head above water, if not to thrive.

That just helps you accept your small penis size. But the real problem (as you say) is with the way others treat small penis guys  "having a life of limited, if any, camaraderie, nearly always without regular female companionship, or the companionship of the in crowd of guys, means most live a life without much of any chance of caring human touch. That IS devastating.

How do you deal with that? Do you get all those people to join this site and hope it has an impact on them.

[I Didnt Grow Much]

Without the ability to control what women, or the in crowd of guys, think or do, finding the maximum pleasure I could have with what I had, which I thoroughly enjoy, and acceptance, were my goal. Having my best friends, it wasn’t necessary for me to search out others in my situation, but if I hadn’t had them, both my parents and psychologist had given me advice about making overtures to other groups of possible friends, or to guys I knew were in my situation, based on what I could see in PE showers. I am positive I would have attempted that if needed, but in our tight friend group, we all were each other’s champions, companions, comrades, and cheerleading squad. I also was very fortunate in that after finding my initial roommate and I to not be a match, my next college roommate of four years had the same issue I did, which helped to bridge the gaps between the times when I could see my best friends. I still keep in contact with him to this day.

I am of the mind that guys, especially in their teens and early 20s, look for as many strong bonds of friendship as they can, and I think everyone, at that age, knew groups of guys who were on the out with the in crowd. It didn’t matter what they were out for, just being out of favor led them to come together in friend groups. Sure, a few have never found companionship with others, but I think they are few and far between, and if they find this site, they can at least find online friends to fulfill what they need and desire.

[meowmeow]

What is it about Measurection that keeps you coming here to read and write?

I don't see it as a "small penis site," but rather just a penis site (or sight, for a fee. ) It's a taboo subject to talk about in many of life's spaces. This site, however, is a place where it is normalized. A place where we can name our penis for what it is and own it, even celebrate it.  I appreciate that! 

 

Is your small penis a fetish?

No! 

 

Are you depressed about it? If so, won't Measurection keep you depressed?

No, I haven't experienced this place as a pity party.

 

If Measurection ceased to exist, how would it affect you? 

It would make me sad. It's a unique space on the Internet.

Edited May 6 by meowmeow

[I Didnt Grow Much]

NuderThanNude, for some reason, I came back to read your last post again, thinking I had missed something, and I had. I would like to try answering your question.

From my quote, you had posted in your last comment:

“ . . . Having a life of limited, if any, camaraderie, nearly always without female companionship, or the companionship of the in crowd of guys, means most live a life without much of any chance of caring human touch. That IS devastating.”

To which the end of your last response was:

“How do you deal with that? Do you get all those people to join this site and hope it has an impact on them.”

Here is my attempt at an answer:

It is a certainty that if our goal is to find and add all of them, it would be an unmitigated failure. However, even if our goal was to reach all, and only found some, it would not be an endeavor without benefit. I assume, even though I know what that occasionally means, that some members on the site are also members of LPSG, or other like-minded sites. If so, I imagine it would be easy to put out some feelers there for this site, obviously explaining what the purpose of this site is, and is not. I have read in a few posts that some members here have what seems to be networks of small guys they are in contact with, occasionally holding parties for them, or simple get-togethers. For me, I could speak to my old college roommate and let him know what is offered here. He may know others in the same situation. The possibilities, though not endless, would likely be an advantageous effort. I do not think I would be incorrect in saying that new members would find the same help on this site that others of us have. At least, I think, it’s worth a try.

What do the rest of you say?

 

 

[canuck45]

Just wanted to add:
When I first searched for small penis support, came across small-x-change.  WOW blown away with the people facing the same concerns I did. Sean stated he started it because everything was big dick oriented, nothing for smaller folks.
This switched from a text based BBS to a more modern look/software until this iteration.
Sean and I had many one to ones back then and I (and his brother) helped him a bit on the first version of measurection (testing, suggestions...), before it went live and felt he wasn't just a guy with a site, but a caring human.  
Sticking around keeps his dream alive.

Edited May 6 by canuck45

[bigforsmall]

21 hours ago, canuck45 said:

 

 

Is your small penis a fetish?

No, a fetish is sexual pleasure from a non-sexual “item”

 

 

 

Not necessarily. For example, a high heel is a common fetish object, but it could certainly be considered sexual/sexualised. The term used today in a very loose way, and has lost much of its charged meaning.

A fetish is similar to a taboo: something with a kind of mystery or power/charge.To Freud and later sexologists, a fetish was basically a substitute for a penis. Even Lacan believed this to be true, only the fetish/penis had become a symbol.

 Like a cock, only men could actually have one. It was similar to the idea that in tribal society women/menstruating women weren't allowed near the hut where the worshiped "fetish" actually was, (except perhaps to get pregnant!).This may have been a actual carved penis made of wood etc. It's a very sexist idea really.

Still the idea hasn't entirely lost its validity: very few women would masturbate to climax regulatory using only a pair of panties or high heels!.

Today the term has become conflated with the term kink, or paraphilia ( love or like above the ordinary) but can mean almost anything, similar to the sense in which you use it:balloons or whipped cream etc-and both men and women are supposed to have them. It's lost it's resonance/power ( a bit like fetishes-in the original sense-have).

 

[Big-Hearted Guy]

No, No, and disappointed, resp. Pity's not my game....

[Caleb LoShem]

I keep coming back because I enjoy reading other people's posts, AND I want to provide encouragement for others who are small. 

 I don't know if a fetish is the right word,  but I definitely have developed a kink around being small. At 3 & 5/8 the erect, I'm not just smaller than most, but MUCH smaller. I LOVE IT  ❤️  !

Am I depressed about being sma

ll  ? NO WAY ! If offered a magical increase in size, I would decline. I'm very VERY happy with what I have,  and  consider myself blessed. When I am banging my Mrs, and she reminds me that I am not just smaller than all the others she has had, but MUCH SMALLER, I blow my load and it feels SO GOOD  ! 

I would miss the ability to spread the smaller IS better mindset if the site weren't here. Calev LoShem 

 

 

[NuderThanNude]

7 minutes ago, Caleb LoShem said:

I keep coming back because I enjoy reading other people's posts, AND I want to provide encouragement for others who are small. 

 I don't know if a fetish is the right word,  but I definitely have developed a kink around being small. At 3 & 5/8 the erect, I'm not just smaller than most, but MUCH smaller. I LOVE IT  ❤️  !

Am I depressed about being sma

ll  ? NO WAY ! If offered a magical increase in size, I would decline. I'm very VERY happy with what I have,  and  consider myself blessed. When I am banging my Mrs, and she reminds me that I am not just smaller than all the others she has had, but MUCH SMALLER, I blow my load and it feels SO GOOD  ! 

I would miss the ability to spread the smaller IS better mindset if the site weren't here. Calev LoShem 

I couldn't have said it better. Accepting one's size is better than not but in a sense is just a bandaid. The way you feel and refusing to be bigger is how it should be.

[I Didnt Grow Much]

I enjoyed both of your comments about fetishes. You are correct that the word has lost much of its meaning over the years. In the accurate, original, and most strict definition, a fetish cannot exist for any animate object. So, foot fetishes cannot exist because parts of your body are exclusively animate. You might sexually desire your foot, but it would not be a fetish.

The original definition is as follows, A fetish is a material, inanimate object believed to be possessing supernatural powers over others with respect to spiritual or sexual attraction.

This definition, however, cannot be related to any anthropomorphic object, as is the case of many tribal religious practices. In western culture, anthropomorphic properties are also given to objects that may represent the meaning of a holiday or season, such as Frosty the Snowman. Thus proving both tribal and western cultures desire to create life in that which does not have it.

By definition, a snowman is an inanimate object devoid of life. In imbuing anthropomorphic properties and traits in a snowman, or any other inanimate object, believers posit the idea that these objects/symbols possess life.

Essentially, fetish-ism is the attribution of inherent non-material value, or powers, to an object. Therefore, Talismans and amulets may also be considered a fetishistic item.

 

[Littles25]

Is your small penis a fetish? YES

It’s absolutely a fetish that’s important to achieving significant sexual pleasure. It became a fetish when my first wife took complete leave of her senses when she found a man with a huge cock. I became aware just how small I am. My fetish kicks in when I masturbate, and I have to masturbate almost 100% of the time in order to orgasm. It’s a thrill to say “I’m going to masturbate my little penis and ejaculate”, or, “I’m a little dick masturbator”, and it’s all a function of having been insufficient to meet a mature woman’s requirements for orgasmic sexual Intercourse.

 

Are you depressed about it? Not depressed about my size.

If so, won't Measurection keep you depressed?

Being preoccupied with seeking pleasure via my fetish can be depressing.

If Measurection ceased to exist, how would it affect you? 

Life would go on.