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I want to know if there's anyone out there that can help analyse how I feel about myself physically and sexually.

 

I've been sexually active now for about 6 years. And it's pretty much been on the go from day one. Biggest break I had was probably about a month. Thing is, I know I can satisfy whoever I'm with. I made one girlfriend cum 18 times in an hour. Every time I have sex with my recent girlfriend, she's cum at least twice before I do. And there's normally one or two from head before that. I'm fit, I'm good looking, I'm perfectly average at about 6.5" and I'm nicely proportioned (In other words, I don't know my girth). I have nothing but compliments from my lovers, and my latest involvments have said I'm the best they've ever had. But this isn't enough for me.

 

Traditionally, I've been VERY self confident, in my appearace, my attitude, my sexual performance, eveything. But lately I've hit an all time low. Despite the previous facts, I don't feel I can pleasure a woman anymore. I don't feel sexy. I don't feel adequate in size. I don't feel confident in myself at all. And a big part of me feels that comes from my size, which is ridiculous.

 

I do have issues with my masculinity. I'm a short guy (not talking about downstairs here), about 5'4" or so. While I'm good at sport, I'm not really interested in it. I wear glasses (Which means a bit to some people). And I suffer from immense penis envy, which only started happening this year. I can tell you that this year, I was also with someone new.

 

This someone was the greatest sex I could ever imagine. Sexy as hell too. At that time, I'd been with 10 other girls. She'd been with 17 other guys. We were in a rather casual relationship, and while this was cool to start with, after we started developing feeling for one another, it wasn't. I was determined not to be in a relationship, so I kept on saying I was cool with her being with other people. I wasn't. I haven't slept with anyone since starting to sleep with her. She's now been with 22 guys. All while we were sort of together. After that, we started going more seriously. She still maintains that I'm the best she's ever had, and I'm all she wants, but while I believe that I'm the best she's ever had, I don't believe that I'm all she wants. She told me when I was first with her that in her 18 guys, I was in the bottom 10 in terms of size, and I know for a fact that I'm the smallest guy she's been with all year. She maintains that I'm the perfect size - not too big, not too small. I'm not happy with that. How can I not be happy with someone saying I'm the PERFECT size?

 

Because I don't trust her I guess. Every time we sort of broke up from our sort of relationship, she was with another guy immediately. She gets attention everywhere she goes, as she's incredibly good looking. I get no attention when I go out partying, even though I think I'm pretty damn good looking. I feel like she could get whoever she wants, and I think she knows it. While she's never done anything with someone else when we HAVE been together, I worry that she wants to.

 

The hardest part is that since I've been with her, the four guys that I've been with are all guys I know and see on a regular basis. She's said that all of them were shit situations that she regrets and none of them were anywhere near as good as me in bed. I believe that. But the fact that she did it at all is what hurts I guess. The fact that she took a guy as soon as she had the chance. That makes me feel terrible. It makes me feel inadequate. It makes me feel like my cock is too small to do any good. It makes me feel like, while I may be everything she says, she still wants more that I can't give her.

 

I pretty much have no sex drive anymore. I find it hard to maintain erections. I find myself getting angry thinking about my body and my penis.

 

Another thing, I mentioned that every guy that this girl had been with was bigger than me. I don't know of anyone in my college who has a smaller penis than me. I know of two guys who are similar in size. Other than that, it seems everone is massive. I grew up watching a hell of a lot of porn, and it's almost ingrained now, that 8 or 9 inches is normal. I know it isn't, but when all I hear and see is guys being much bigger than me, I can't help but feel tiny.

 

I just read a post where someone said most times they attempt to have sex, they get laughed at because of their size and don't get any. That makes me so angry and so sad. Women like that don't deserve any pleasure at all. I'm in awe of the bravery and courage and strength that these guys show to pick themselves up and try again. You are by far, a better man than most people could imagine. You have so much respect from me. I personally don't think I could do it.

 

I don't really expect anyone to analyse stuff. I guess I pretty much did a lot of it there myself. I just wanted a rant, and to talk to people who may find themselves feeling the same way.

 

 

I guess I should get back to my thread. So, I know I can pleasure a woman, maybe even better than anyone else she's been with. But I don't feel that's enough. I want to be bigger. But why? When I get nothing but compliments about my size and how I perform?

 

Anyway, that's my two cents...

 

Dave

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Welcome Dave wave.gif

 

You have come to the right place for some advice. It amazes me how many men who are not small feel like that. You are over 50% bigger than I am! I wonder if it is just your age & you are just exploring yourself as all young men do, mostly most ignore it & go on, or don't! You have so much & you see that, even you are confused. I will leave this one to the wiser members to analyse.

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Dave,

It sounds like you are dating a very attractive girl. I know from much experience there's nothing quite like it. But they are a law unto themselves. They can have any guy they want and know it and while you're dating them every guy is trying to take them off you.

 

I'm sure I read somewhere that guys that marry very attractive women live 10 years less - the stress just kills them.

 

In my opinion you have your hands full with this girl anyway and your penis has become the focus of your frustration. It has nothing to do with your penis - she says you're the best she's had and the perfect size - so it's definitely not that.

 

The following psychology article will be of interest to you.

 

"You hate playing games, I know. But you're playing them anyway, so you might as well win. Whether it's business or personal the rules are the same to gain the upper hand in any relationship.

When dating, have you wondered why it seems it's the ones that you don't really like whom you can't seem to get rid of and the ones you do like who never seem to stick around? The reason is simple. It's not the person but the way you behave toward him or her.

What determines interest in another human being is a fascinating thing. Most people are actually on the fence at the start of most relationships. This means that almost every time someone can be swayed toward either liking or disliking you. And he is moved in either direction-either closer or farther-depending on how you relate

to him.

This is because as human beings we are forever guided and governed by human nature. The bottom line is that it's not the person you're dating, it's the things you are doing that determine his or her level of interest. Otherwise it would be a startling coincidence if not a statistical improbability that everyone you liked just happened to "not want a commitment" and everyone you weren't that interested in wanted to marry you. So if it's not you-defined as your looks, personality, background, and so on-it must be your behavior toward this person that determines the direction and, ultimately, the outcome of the relationship.

This very powerful, yet simple psychological strategy can be summed up in one sentence: You need to behave with the person you don't like the way you've been behaving with the person you do like, and vice versa. While there are many little aspects of one's behavior, there are four main factors, which are discussed below.

AVAILABILITY

People want what they can't have. By constantly making yourself available, you're actually diminishing your value. This is not a trick or a game to play, but a function of human behavior. Attraction is not a fixed value. This means that what someone thinks about you is determined to a large extent by what you do, not by just who you are or what you look like. The law of scarcity is prevalent and relevant in every area of our lives, especially here. That which is plentiful is often underappreciated and that which is rare is held in high regard and considered valuable. When you are dating someone whom you are not that interested in, you tend to make yourself available when it's convenient for you. And when you're dating someone who you really like you're consistently available. Do the reverse!

This means when you're dating someone you don't like too much, if you're not baking cookies for him, calling him twice a day, asking where the relationship is going, and so on, then don't do it with the person you like. And by the way, when you do this with the ones you don't like, they'll be scared off soon enough, so you've eliminated this problem as well.

But wait! In Chapter 1, Get Anyone to Like You ... Every Time, we said that if you want someone to like you, you want to make yourself available, because this increases liking. If this is so, doesn't it contradict the law of scarcity? Here's what is often misunderstood. If you want someone to like you, then you do indeed want to be in their company fairly often. This is true, but remember that liking is the foundation for every relationship. That means that once you move past the liking stage (meaning the person is already fond of you) and the relationship unfolds into something more serious, you then want to limit your availability.

 

PERSPECTIVE

In your relationships, you need perspective. In life, when we derive pleasure from only one source we tend to overemphasize its value and importance. You should find meaning in your life outside of the relationship so this person doesn't become your whole world. It's important to feel fulfilled in other areas of your life so you're able to maintain a sensible perspective and not rely on someone else's affections as your sole source of satisfaction and happiness. When you're dating someone you're not too interested in, you have plenty of perspective because you're not thinking, "This is the only person for me; if I don't have him my world is over." You're thinking, "All right, let's see what happens; maybe he'll grow on me, and maybe he won't." And it's precisely that mentality that translates into the best attitude. And it's this attitude and your corresponding behavior that actually make you more attractive.

 

PASSION

Here's the crux of how and why relationships work or fail. Simply, you can't appreciate what you take for granted. This is essentially why people, in general, become unhappy in their own lives. They always want more but are never grateful for what they have. And if you are not grateful for what you have, you will begin to take it for granted. And when you do this, you no longer appreciate it. And when you don't appreciate something it holds no enjoyment for you.

The same holds true for relationships. If someone takes you for granted he or she will not appreciate you and will begin to look for someone else. Similarly, if you went to the doctor and were told that you might lose your hearing, you would probably develop a renewed appreciation for sound.

 

Our gratitude lies in being reminded that we should not take these

things for granted. And you don't take for granted what you believe can be taken away from you at any time. Similarly, if the object of your affections is a bit insecure with the relationship-meaning there is an element of doubt-then his or her lack of confidence will not lead to arrogance and ingratitude. You must create an element of

uncertainty or you will lose the passion that drives the relationship.

Again, without some doubt there is the feeling that "you will always be there." Then he no longer sees how great you are and loses appreciation for you. He begins to take you for granted and the passion dies. But you, in your relationship, can within a second reignite the passion and turn the relationship around by introducing an element of doubt. Passion is extinguished when there is no doubt because when there's no doubt you will be taken for granted. Just as in the previous example of going to the doctor: You never gave your hearing a second thought until you thought that it might not be there. When doubt is introduced into the equation it changes your perspective! I cannot stress this enough: You will be taken for granted and not appreciated and the passion will go out of the relationship if all elements of doubt are removed.

Unfortunately, when we are insecure about a relationship we harm it further by being clingier because we need reassurance. But in doing so you reinforce that you are forever his and remove in his mind any doubt that you might not always be there. And then passion is extinguished. It is a fact of human nature. But now that you understand you can use it to your advantage.

Remember that this and the other factors in this chapter are not ideas or tricks that work sometimes. These are laws that dictate human behavior. If you use them and operate within these parameters you can succeed at gaining complete leverage in any relationship. But finally, make sure that you don't make the mistake that most do when it comes to ... how you make them feel.

How You MAKE THEM FEEL

A person likes you based on how you make her feel about herself. This doesn't contradict the above. You should still maintain the above behavior-regarding your attitude and availability-but you do want to treat the person well. It is bad advice, though often given, that you don't want to build up someone's confidence, and be overly flattering and complimentary, because then she will "know that you like her" and back off. To a degree, we know this can be true, because when someone likes us, while we are flattered, we can find ourselves less interested in that person. This reaction comes courtesy of the rule that says, We want what we can't have and want more of that which we have to work for. Simply, if it falls in our laps we tend to have less appreciation for it.

But herein lies the crucial difference between being attentive and kind versus telling her that she is your entire world and the only person for you. (Because, as we talked about, this removes doubt and begins to erode the passion.) The former is more objective and has to do primarily with her. The latter involves your relationship and invokes the rule of scarcity. Notice the crucial difference between saying how much you like this person-which makes you lose leverage-and telling her that she is a likable and great person. Merely stating that somebody is terrific makes her feel great and makes you look great. It's a winning combination because it's only the confident person who tells another how wonderful and terrific she is. And we like confident and secure people! The distinction is often blurred and we end up trying to "play it cool" and not wanting to "show our hand." This accomplishes little and creates a cold and uncomfortable atmosphere. But lavishing this person with "objective" praise shows you in the best and most confident light and makes her feel great! Again, you want to let her know that you think she's great but not that she is your whole world and that you can't live without her.

The fastest way to lose leverage and to lose someone that you like is to do the opposite of the above. That means making yourself completely available, having no perspective, removing all doubt, and being uncomplimentary. Do this and you can be sure that you'll be back dating someone whom you don't like very much. And he'll stick around because you'll do all the right things."

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TassieDave, you are not alone, i got dumped by my girlfriend back in April, i absolutely adored this girl and had extremely strong feelings for her. We had great sex and my penis size wasn't an issue. It has taken a while for me to recover and i have had a short relationship with another girl quite recently. I was nearly fully recovered until she decided to turn up at my works party this Friday just gone because her best friend works with me. Anyway, she started flirting with one of my good friends in work and some new guy who has just started with us, she hardly spoke to me all night and just acted as if i wasn't there, which left me feeling sick to the stomach and extremely hurt. I didn't realise how cold one person could be as i treated this girl like a diamond. I don't know why i feel so bashed up about the whole situation, i just can help it. To be quite honest i think she actually enjoyed it, which makes me feel even worse. If i wasn't such a nice guy i would of been tempted to do something i really regretted. Is it me or are some people genuinely nasty by nature. I would never dream of doing that to anyone.

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TD, welcome to the site. Read some of the posts here and you'll see a common thread: guys who acknowledge that they have perfectly adequate/"normal" dicks, yet have hangups about it. We are our own worst enemies.

 

You have done a good job of explaining exactly how you feel, and that you know that your dick is perfectly fine. The only observation that I made that I think may have an impact on your situation is what you said here

I was determined not to be in a relationship, so I kept on saying I was cool with her being with other people. I wasn't.
Maybe that is the crux of the problem: you have told her you didn't want a serious relationship and that she was free to date other guys...so she has. DUH

 

Honesty is the best policy -- old trite saying, but it's true. Tell her how you really feel. Since she has made it very clear that you are the best sex she's ever had, I'd bet dollars to donuts that she'd be perfectly happy to commit to a monogamous relationship. If you're not willing to do that, then maybe you should end the relationship and move on to someone new since you obviously are having trouble seeing her with other guys.

 

Good luck.

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Some people really are nasty by nature. That was very low of her. I know you won't want to hear it but at least be glad it happened before investing anymore time or feelings in her. I had a thought. If she was an easy pick up at the pub it's no wonder she was a whore at a party.

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Hi everyone. Thanks for your replies. You know, I feel a lot better about stuff today. I think it was really just something that I needed to blurt out. It's the best way to analyse how one is feeling.

 

Marsh, thank you for your words and the quote. There were quite a few different things I brought up and that article clears up a few of them.

 

Virgo, I thank you for your opinion, but I don't think it's myself I need to get over. Insecurities, lack of trust, maybe... but not myself.

 

Digger, it's always good to talk to people who have been in similar situations. You know, I really don't talk about situations like this with mates a lot. Maybe one or two of them, but it's hard for some of them to understand, and often there's almost no point. I guess that's why the net is so good. Anonymity. The feeling of being free to express oneself without being personally judged. I feel for you in that situation. It really is the worst feeling. A lot of the time it really is a case of "nice guys finish last". I've struggled with that feeling before as well. Like I said, I think I'm pretty attractive, funny, intelligent, caring. But there's always some arsehole who gets the girl instead of me. It really makes you wonder what that guy has that you don't. In my case, I tend to focus on how short I am and, if I've slept with them, penis size. I think some people (Especially targeting the girl I mentioned, and yours) feel they have to have the attention of ANY and EVERY guy they find remotely attractive in order for them to feel confident about themselves. To do this, they must neglect the feelings of any guy they've been with. It's a very selfish way of trying to make yourself feel good. I don't think many people are nasty by nature, but many people have issues that they deal with in bad ways. I've been trying to think of it this way... Since being with you, she's found a big hole in her life. Nobody makes her feel like you did. She's searching every guy she can find, to find that feeling again. And she can't, so she moves on to the next. It's shit that she's doing that, but try to take it as a compliment. I've found that's helped me. One day, there'll be a girl for you and I (Not the same girl lol) that is confident in herself, doesn't play games, and will appreciate what we do.

 

Kirk and Thom, when I said that I was ok with her being with other people, I was. That was very early on in the relationship. As things progressed, feeling between us developed, and that was when it became not ok. Since we started being together more seriously, she hasn't been with anybody else. SO? WHAT'S THE PROBLEM? Problem is, it's hard to think of her being with other people with the attitude I had then, instead of the attitude I have now. And, like I said, it just makes it so much harder that it was with people that I see every now and then. I think people underestimate how much easier it is, not knowing great details about previous encounters your partner has had.

 

I've recently been talking with a girl I met online. She's in an open relationship, has an exceptionally high sex drive and has been with a fair few guys and had a lot of damn good sex. Right now, she's said she's utterly infatuated with me. We've only kissed and had a very brief under-the-pants feel, but she's desperately wanting more. Lately, with my insecurities, this feels quite strange. And while I should be feeling renewed confidence and sexuality, I'm not. I guess maybe because I see this as a physical thing only. Perhaps my insecurities lie more with feeling I can't satisfy the girl I wanted, rather than feeling physically inadequate.

 

Something else I forgot to mention... and something that really targets on my size.

 

I dressed up as Choda Boy for a party I had last year. For those of you who don't know, Choda Boy is a superhero sidekick in the film Orgasmo, by Matt Stone and Trey Parker. Awesome movie. Anyway, Choda Boy has a massive dildo on his helmet. So I was in possession of this massive dildo. I'm talking about 12" and bloody thick too. Anyway, one night this girl suggested using it. I was cool with that. I'm always up for a bit of experimentation, and it excited me. But once I started feeling insecure about myself, I hated it. Eventually it got to the point that EVERY time I went down on her, she wanted this thing in her as well. It's quite safe to say that after having that in her, I thought I must have felt like a toothpick. I questioned her on it and she said that it feels good because of what I DO with it, not the size. But went on to mention that it DID feel nicer on her vaginal walls than me. That cut right to the bone. She assured me that she preferred my size, and that if I was as big as the dildo, we couldn't have sex like we do, and that the way we have sex could get her off quicker than if I was huge and shagging differently. But I didn't care about that. I was jealous as hell of this hunk of plastic. It's fucking ridiculous. A hunk of plastic. But it's a HUGE hunk of plastic. That feels better than me. I know, it only feels better in a certain way, but I want to feel better, you know? In the end I chucked the shits and said I didn't want her using it again. Then she got shitty at me, because I wouldn't let her use it. That upset me even more, that she wanted it so much. It also upset me, because I want her to be as pleasured as she can be, and I felt I was denying that. I just wish it was all ME that could do the pleasuring. And it's awfully humbling to put your penis somewhere where a 12" massive dong has just been.

 

Anyway, something more to think about. Thank you all again for replying. Hope to keep hearing from you!

 

Dave

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Yup. That's why I won't bring toys like that into the bedroom. Maybe it's a silly fear, but with my size, I'm afraid it'll replace me pretty quickly.

 

At least you're getting some though. My experiences are far worse. So don't chalk this up as being too awful. It's not good, but it could be worse.

 

I just checked your profile, and you have nothing to worry about in the penis size department. You're above average. I wish I was your size. I really do.

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Mate. It sounds tough. But listen, just consider a few things:

 

1) It's still you who was in control of the dildo. It was you who used it on her. It was you doing the pleasuring.

2) She's still with you, isn't she? She hasn't left you or kicked you out for your size, has she?

3) NOBODY has a 12" thick-as-your-arm cock.

4) Sex is not just about insert-thrust-repeat.

 

I've used my girlfriend's toy on her once, and I will do it again soon. It's a Pouncing Tiger (HK ripoff of the Rampant Rabbit), which is slightly longer than me, bends sharply, rotates the head and has a second vibrator that vibrates against the clit. Fuck, my cock can't do any of that...

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Hello TassieDave,

 

From your statistics I must say that you would make a perfect pornstar, although you don't think so. I'm going to push Hap8's Main Frum thread "Why Smaller LOOKS better" forward so that you can see why.

 

You started having sex at a very young age & from what you have stated you were successful in satisfying yourself & all of your lovers. That is a major accomplishment for someone so young, remember that. Obviously your problems are self imposed. For instance you tell the girl lets just live an easy & free polyamorous lifestyle. Plus that you're happy not being in a steady relationship. Then you get JEALOUS because she can pull more guys than you can pull girls. Poor you. Notice that a BIGGER penis will not help you this time. Face the fact that she is a man magnet & get over it.

 

Find some interests other than sex as you already have that sussed.

 

lol Cosmic beer.gif

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Hi again everyone! And thankyou again for all your points. Everything said makes perfect sense, and I know this, but I still can't put my finger on why I want to be bigger so badly.

 

Lately, I feel I'm not happy unless my girl pays no attention to ANY other guy except me, which is ridiculous. I've had the jealous girlfriend thing before, and hated it. Now I'm doing it. I saw a guy today that I knew she'd think was fucking hot, and I got jealous. She wasn't even around. Just me thinking about it. I'm driving myself crazy! I know how ridiculous I'm being, but I can't help it. I've never been like this with any other girl before.

 

I think one problem that has arisen for me in the whole polygamous relationship scenario, is that guys that knew me didn't respect me enough to not go there, and she didn't either. Guys tend to forget about mates in the hunt for sex. Girls, however, are much more respectful. I'd never be with a girl that a mate was with, out of respect for him. I guess this is what I was referring to when I was talking about how much more she could pull people than me. It's a lack of respect for me.

 

It's tough knowing that she's been with so many guys that were bigger than me. I always find myself wondering if she wishes that I was the size of some other guys she's been with. But then I come back to the point where she says I'm the perfect size and the best she's ever had. Part of me believes her, but another part niggles away. She wouldn't be so cruel as to say "No, actually, this other guy I was with was heaps bigger than you, and he could satisfy me more than you ever will". Of course she's going to say I'm the best if she's with me. Whether it's true or not. That's what people do. Unless they're horrible. The thing is, I'd be quite happy using something like a vibrating rabbit or similar. They're only slightly larger than average, and it's something that no guy can do. A massive dildo however, is something that some guys may be packing. I guess the thing that gets to me is that if that massive thing felt awesome, but she loves my size because I can go faster and angle things better, I think the best thing must be some middle ground. 8" or so, and thicker than I am.

 

I know sex is far more than thrust, thrust. And the fact that I understand that is probably why I get compliments in the first place. I was reading an article the other day about a guy who was trying to understand why he wanted to be bigger. He brought up similar points to what I have: the ability to pleasure, a sign of masculinity/power, etc. And he said something else that caught my attention. He was making love to his girlfriend, who had also told him that he was the best she'd had, and had a overwhelming feeling that he needed to FILL her. I don't really know how to describe it. Just the irresistable urge to completely fill his girlfriend more than he was capable of. This really hit home for me. In certain positions, I've really hurt my girlfriend, which was an incredible boost for my ego at the time. I know if I was any bigger, we couldn't have sex in the way that we currently do. But even if I am hurting her, I still feel the urge to be deeper than I can be, and thicker. The guy that wrote this article didn't know why, and neither do I. I'm pretty sure this situation, coupled with the dildo situation, is what's getting to me the most.

 

Any ideas?

 

PS: Considered porn for a while, but decided against it because I thought I'd be too small... Will check out that thread.

 

Cheers again everyone

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Upon reading the thread "Why Smaller LOOKS better", I came to the realisation that it's not that I'm unhappy with the size of my penis, but that I'm unhappy with my overall body size (penis included). If I had exactly the same proportions, but was, say 6' tall, I'd be fuckin happy as larry, and he's a pretty happy fella. I feel like I don't have a mature body to match my personality. I'm almost 21 and sometimes I still feel like a kid, having to look up at my mates and people at work. Anyway, in terms of proportion, height and penis size are related, and it's the mixture of both that gets to me. Anyway, enough rambling for one night. Goodnight all! Actually, I'm in Australia, so I should probably be saying good morning to most of you.

 

Cheerio!

 

Dave

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But then I come back to the point where she says I'm the perfect size and the best she's ever had.... she loves my size because I can go faster and angle things better.

 

Therefore why try to improve on perfection TassieDave? Leave well enough alone.

 

In certain positions, I've really hurt my girlfriend, which was an incredible boost for my ego at the time. I know if I was any bigger, we couldn't have sex in the way that we currently do. But even if I am hurting her, I still feel the urge to be deeper than I can be, and thicker. I don't know why.

 

What are you trying to do man? Kill the girl? Obviously, as she has said, sex would not be better with a bigger cock than yours.

 

PS: Considered porn for a while, but decided against it because I thought I'd be too small... Will check out that thread.

 

TassieDave as you have seen from that thread (eboy's quote*)"bigger is not better because what is sexy is the total package" i.e. the whole package should be beautifully proportioned. Your height + sexy package would be perfect for porn, and believe me I have seen enough porn to know.

 

lol Cosmic;)

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Cheers Cosmic smile.gif You just made my day

 

I dunno. It's weird. Today I've felt a hell of a lot better bout myself. The only thing I can see that's different is I actually got some decent sleep last night! I think I'm mildly depressed at the moment, as a result of quite a lot of shitty things that happened for me this year. I think I'm venting a lot of my anger and frustration and sorrow onto my penis. The poor blighter. He doesn't deserve it smile.gif

 

I myself love watching porn. Which is where part of my insecurities come from. i see so many huge willies that mine feels well below "average". I'm not really comfortable watching porn at the moment.

 

Any ideas on my wanting to "fill" my girl more? I can't make any sense of it.

 

Cheers guys!

 

Dave

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Be nice to your downstairs buddy! He may not be real talkative or as vast as you might prefer, but he's the only one you've been issued, and doesn't he help make you feel happy? Yep, I bet he does.

 

Dave, I'm late to this one and hardly know where to start, so I'll just jump to wanting to "fill" your girl "more." Well jeez, you only can do what you can, and you only sport what you do. Is this something you need more to know you're doing (even if you can't) or something you think she wants? In the moment, often one doesn't remember what's going on except exactly what you're doing. (And even then you might not be clear on what you did later.)

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Every 3 inches in height below 6 feet tall is a 9% increse in suicide risk according to this month's men's health... so watch yourself dave with that depression... tongue.gif

 

(Measuring the stretch flaccid of suicide victims before rigamortis set in would be interesting if not a little twisted. wonder what the increased suicide risk for every inch below eight would be??? hmmm. Just a thought for the day...)

 

BTW Low self-esteem from time to time is no a bad thing. People with too high self-esteem lack empathy and often become criminals or sociopaths. Lower self-esteem keeps us in check. Keeps our feet on the ground, humble and compassionate. It's healthy too in many ways to have low (even mildly depresive) periods of reflexion. Part of growing up. Helps us find our feet and who we really are. Hell Dave if you were 6ft and hung like a horse you'd probably find something else to neg about - it's human nature to want more and seek to better yourself. Good perspective is the key. No one's perfect... it ok if you are not. (of course is easy to talk the talk, like me. I am trying to walk the walk though)

 

For example I have a friend who's 6' 2", hung like a horse and has a black book the size of a phone directory. Is he happy. No he has low self esteem and periods of depression. Why? Because he feels he's the stupid one amoungst his family and friends and doesn't therefore have much in the way of career prospects. You see we're all in the same boat. It's just the human condition. It's that 100 billion neuron brain that can do 100 trillion calculations per second driving us all slowly mad...

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there are lots of guys on this and other websites, in the world, that would love to have your 6 incher... and the very active sex life you have been having since puberty to 21... as for your height... suggest you see a therapist and work through this issue or it will haunt you until the end of your days. you remind me of a roommate when i was in my 20's.. canadian guy, short, unbelievable sex life, nice size cock. he knew he was shorter than most, his attitude, girls love my cock, that's all that matters.

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Hi guys. Bearatory, in terms of the "filling her up" issue (I can't think of a better way of putting that tongue2.gif), I feel it's more what I'm wanting than what I think she wants. Until I think of the issue with the massive dildo. Then I question if that's what she wants as well. I've felt that yearning plenty of times before the dildo issue, and with other girls. It only happens with girls that I've been crazily in love with. It just happens to be more obvious to me with this girl. I've been much more in love with someone before, but I was younger and more naive then, and she was a virgin. In fact, ALL of my serious relationships were virgins, so this girl, having been with 20 or so guys before me, is something I've never had to deal with before. I've never had to wonder about how I compare. In this case, it really does come down to trust I guess. Trust that what she says about me is the truth. And I don't trust her. That's why the relationship has been slowly deteriorating. I think maybe I'll feel better once I get back in the game, you know? If I can prove to myself that there are more girls out there that are interested in me, I'll feel a bit better. Only thing is, in doing that I'd be acting just like her. Difference is, I'd be doing it when we're not together. Thoughts on that?

 

That's a prety interesting fact Marsh. And I reckon it'd be quite similar if penis length was measured. It's kind of sad really. I mean, all these insecurities that people have are impressed on us by society and our environment from day one, and it could have a big impact on whether people feel like they can live anymore. It really goes to show (In this case), just how much insecurities about masculinity can get to some people. It's a strange thing, suicide and self harm. I've gealt with a lot of friends who have either hurt themselves, tried to kill themselves, or thought about either. For some, it feels like they just have to do it. For others, they simply can't contemplate the thought of it. I'm one of the latter. I've always ben like that. I mean, I understand how people can feel that way, but I could never see myself thinking that suicide was the only solution to something. I think being close up with it a couple of times has made me even more determined that I would never do it.

 

You're spot on with the point about always finding something about yourself that you want to better. For me, the things I always wanted were to be taller, bigger downstairs, have an awesome bod, and be awesome at the guitar. The latter two are things that I can change, and have done. The former two are things I cannot change, and while it's something I know I just have to deal with, it's the fact that I can't change them that gets to me.

 

I was thinking more on the issue lately, and trying to be positive and realistic. You know, I'm not huge. I'm not tall. But FUCK! I've had enough girls say that I'm awesome for me to start believing it. I've started just doing some positive self-reassurance, which seems lamo, but as many people will tell you, it works wonders. When I was young, my mum, who I adore more than anything, used to get me to think of one good thing about myself when I woke up and before I went to bed. I've started doing that again. And when I think about it, if height and size are the only two things that are bothering me about myself, I think I'm doing pretty well.

 

I think you're also right about needing to feel insecure every now and then to keep us grounded. But it's not a feeling I like, and not one that I hope will last long.

 

Funguy, your mate sounds a lot like I was at the start of this year. Small steps, but hopefully I'll be back to my old cinfident self soon.

 

All of you guys have really helped me a lot. A HUGE thankyou from me. And my penis tongue2.gif

 

Ciao for now...

 

PS: Is there anyone else who doesn't understand why they want to be bigger?

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