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3 hours ago, canuck45 said:

So can I infer that  you had worries/doubts of your penis.  Did you think...inadequate in some way

Absolutely.  I had insecurities regarding my sexuality, my penis and women.  And all three of those insecurities came to a head (no pun intended) when this wonderful woman asked me out for my first date when I was 28 years old.  Prior to that, I had never been on a date with a woman and my only sexual experiences were with guys.  I was worried that my penis would not be thick enough to satisfy a woman.  

In spite of all those worries, that first date was fantastic and I had enough nerve to ask her out.  Yada, yada, yada, less than two years later we got married.

But I was very worried regarding the size of my penis.  I knew I had good length, but I also knew it was very thin.  Would it be enough to bring her pleasure?  What if I couldn't bring her to orgasm?  And even more basic, what if I couldn't get hard?  What would she think of my foreskin?  Would she think the way my penis curved was weird?

Fortunately, we talked about our anxieties and we talked about how we could bring pleasure to each other.  And, we were both very open to experimenting.  Through her discussions and her actions, she made me feel much more secure with my penis, and I helped her become much more accepting of her breasts (she thought they were too small, but I thought they were/are absolutely perfect).  

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6 hours ago, Tsoren said:

Absolutely.  I had insecurities regarding my sexuality, my penis and women.  And all three of those insecurities came to a head (no pun intended) when this wonderful woman asked me out for my first date when I was 28 years old.  Prior to that, I had never been on a date with a woman and my only sexual experiences were with guys.  I was worried that my penis would not be thick enough to satisfy a woman.  

Yeah, the significantly below average thinness of your penis had slipped my mind.  Valid reason to have doubts. 

And, in case there is doubt, I am happy that you found the right woman as you described.  I guess I might have experienced a tinge of jealousy.  Often, I accept the idea small guys have to accept that even "life partners" won't be interested our dicks and we must "settle" for that.

I think you were really lucky to find the right woman so fortuitously.  I've never found one that showed interest in my penis, but that was certainly at least somewhat my fault for not seeking enough, being too ready to stick for a time with any woman who would continue to have sex with me. 

My standards were a way low due to a negative view of myself and dick.  I guess finding a mate that accepts you "as you are" should be uppermost in ones mind.  I often had the rationalization that with "settling" things will get better over time  Settling for someone embarassed or otherwise dissatisfied with your dick probably doesn't make sense and always got worse over time in my case.

 

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