Physician's Comments on Size?

[shortnthick]

Has anyone here ever had a physician (or physician's assistant) comment on your penis size during an exam??

 

True story: Several years ago I went into see an MD for a physical. She was new to the medical clinic where I worked and we had become friends as we both have a very crazy sense of humour. On my exam day it was a very cold outside and I was the first patient in that morning so I could get to work on time. I stripped down to my underwear, put on a gown and soon the Dr came in. I had mentioned to the nurse that I was having some lower groin pain so as the exam went on the Dr asked me to stand up and take down my underwear so she could see what was the cause. I did so and she studied my penis for a few moments and then said, "It's very cold outside - you must have gotten quite cold. You're .... really pulled into your body."

 

I looked down at my penis and it looked perfectly normal for me - short and thick. I replied, "Actually that's normal for me. My penis is ... well.... kinda short." She turned red in the face, obviously embarrassed by her comment, and stammered, "Oh.... I'm sorry .... I thought it was because you were .... ummm.....cold." I tried to lighten the moment by making a joke of it and the moment passed.

 

Afterwards though I thought - "Jeez! I must REALLY look short" and for months afterwards every time I'd step out of the shower and see myself in the mirror I couldn't help but think this again. I know it was a slip on her part, one she probably never made again... but it really did catch me off guard and gave me a head trip for a long time. (In fact, you can probably tell I've been trippin on this recently - sometimes I'm very cool with having a short penis and other times I feel so darn SHORT).

 

Anyway ... I was wondering, has anyone else ever had a Dr make a comment about their size???

[Kirk]

Never...and would consider it very unprofessional if one ever did comment.

[Bighead]

I would have died of embarrassment. My comment to her would have been: "Wow, I'll say it's cold."

I'm all in favor of honesty but the pros and cons need to be weighed out first. What did you hope to accomplish with that remark?

[gaelin]

Speaking of this incident I suspect a male physician would not have made the comment. It's a guy thing that I think women are completely lost about and do not really understand the male near obsession with penis size.

 

Friends have told me that at times physicians have made off-hand remarks to the effect that they were particularly gifted--not to me I suffer from the proverbial Jewish curse--all potatoes and not much meat. And yes, I'm obssessed otherwise I wouldn't be here. It's a major issue in my life and has lasted near half a century--it's as though I cannot forgive myself for being so ordinary in this one extraordinary part of life!

[JTT]

Well if anything, his comment gave her an experiece to be more cautious of what she says in the future. Sounds like it was an accidental honest slip rather than a mean spirited comment.

 

That would sure be embarassing though. I'd have probably just agreed and commented on how cold it was.

[shortnthick]

I was really caught off guard. It's alot easier to think thru what should have been said after an incident has passed than when it's actually happening. She has a great sense of humour so at first I thought maybe she was kidding - and yes i should've gone along with it and said - "yes it's damn cold out there" but I didn't. But the look on her face was very curious as to "why is he that short???" so... I was honest with her.

 

I've had male MDs look at me quite surprised too the first time they examine me so the look on her face wasn't that unusual - I think she just voiced what some other folks have thought - is this an anomoly for him or is this his usual penis size?? Sadly .... it's the latter. I guess this whole incident has been on my mind particularly after my wife called me "short" this weekend - something she very rarely ever does. She's a great lady but sometimes even the best of us can slip up. Something she and the MD both have in common I guess. :-(

[Phelyan]

But, I'm reading your comment as: A woman doesn't care, because she doesn't understand the obsession and doesn't consider it that important. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm reading that remark as not as critical or flippant as others. At least she had the decency to be embarassed.

[uncut1976]

something similar to what Gaelin said...for me, the reason I picked a male doctor was so I could be more comfortable around him and not worry about my size or whatever. Since they have seen all shapes and sizes, they are used to them I'm sure..but because the male ones have the "same package" I think they know what we go thru and deal with.

The only comment mine made was "does it curve to one side when it's erect?"..I said "I never paid attention, I don't think so, I'll check next time and let you know"..he said "looks healthy to me"..and that was that...very professional, like any doctor would be...but because you were really "comfy" with yours, she might have felt she had the "freedom" to express her thoughts outloud.

[shortnthick]

...but because you were really "comfy" with yours, she might have felt she had the "freedom" to express her thoughts outloud.

 

Yes, I think that's probably the best take on it Uncut. We'd become good friends so I think the comfort level was high enough for her to express her thoughts aloud. And my comfort level was high enough with her that I was honest with her about my size.

 

I don't know about the rest of the guys here but I'm in the first one percent of guys sizewise (using honest to goodness scientific studies - not self measured study results) so she'd probably not encountered too many guys my size as early on in her career as it was at the time.

[hdw]

Our fertility doctor told my wife and I that my short penis could be a factor in our quest to get pregnant. She had me get a full exam(by a male doctor, who apparently noted my small size), and during our next consultation brought it up and suggested some specific positions. I was embarassed, but not that much. I would rather the whole world know about my small size if we could get pregnant, but my wife has pcos, and we haven't been successful yet.

[liloneinKS]

The worst part about being in the USA, is having your chart hanging outside your exam room till your doctor get's there. Every nurse in the building who passes by can see your complaint and name, so can every patient she/he escorts. This only applies to HMO's and clinics which USA insurance covers (for most or us)which is our first level of health care.

[Peej]

Every nurse in the building who passes by can see your complaint and name, so can every patient she/he escorts. This only applies to HMO's and clinics which USA insurance covers (for most or us)which is our first level of health care.

This is sooooo against the HIPPA laws in place these days. I work in a clinical medical practice and patient privacy is really at the forefront of confidentiality concerns these days. Not only is it illegal to have your private info "out in the open" there are stiff penelties that can be imposed should you find yourself in court...like 10 yrs in jail and a $20,000 fine.

If you find your doctors office is not abiding by these FEDERAL regulations, please bring it to the attention of the clinic manager...I'm sure it'll be rectified immedietly.

 

Patrick

[Thom]

You got it Patrick. While my dad was in the hospital they left his chart laying on a desktop counter while he was in X-Ray. I picked it up and walked into the Administrators office with it. Told them they were lucky I wasn't a state or federal worker. I wasn't even out the office door before phone calls were being made. I also told them it wasn't the only chart and there was a stack of X-Rays face up with notes on them in the hall too. At the clinic I go to, the charts are still left outside the door for the doctor but covered to passing eyes. When they call patients, they use first names only. I thought it was a $5,000.00 fine for the person and a $20,000.00 fine for the institution.

[zaneblue]

My diet may help balance out hormones and make it easier to achieve pregnancy. I don't know how that would work with PCOS, but I suppose it can't hurt.

[Dinky]

...pretty much unenforceable. It should be, but it's not easy to do anything but file a complaint. You have to show damages and intent in most states.

[shortnthick]

Our fertility doctor told my wife and I that my short penis could be a factor in our quest to get pregnant.

 

Hi DW. Well at least I'm not the only one who's had this mentioned to them by a doc. That makes me feel a bit better. But in front of your wife? How did she handle this info about your penis being short? Was she cool with it? And BTW I'm sure we all wish you folks success in having a baby. As mentioned in another thread my short penis size was definitely an issue in our having a child (I'm about 0.50" shorter than you) but the positioning mentioned by our fertility doctor did the trick.

[hdw]

My wife and I are both dieting right now Zane. We are going to try again with clomid and some dietary supplements after she has lost a little more weight. And Shortnthick, she knew it was short before that...after all, we were going to the doctor because we had been unsuccessful having a baby. The doctor said that her pcos was the main factor, but that we wanted every advantage we could get. I have a high sperm count, with very motile sperm. So I hope that the drugs and fish oil? will work.

[jeffmacman]

I did have a doc comment on size when I was going for a physical for the military. I am a big guy, great physique,

but very small penis (about 3.5 in erect). He examined it and said it was small for such a big guy. It has plagued me my entire 35 year life. Women expect a monster but are very surprised when my shorts come down.

[Peej]

You got it Patrick. While my dad was in the hospital they left his chart laying on a desktop counter while he was in X-Ray. I picked it up and walked into the Administrators office with it. Told them they were lucky I wasn't a state or federal worker. I wasn't even out the office door before phone calls were being made. I also told them it wasn't the only chart and there was a stack of X-Rays face up with notes on them in the hall too. At the clinic I go to, the charts are still left outside the door for the doctor but covered to passing eyes. When they call patients, they use first names only. I thought it was a $5,000.00 fine for the person and a $20,000.00 fine for the institution.

 

As the medical facility I work at is quite large and is accredited by JAHCO, we undergo constant and intense training over HIPPA laws and regulations. This is a program set up and overseen by the federal Department of Health and Human Services. Here is a brief description of what the law is supposed to do....

 

Q: What does this regulation require the average provider or health plan to do?

 

A: For the average health care provider or health plan, the Privacy Rule requires activities, such as:

 

Providing information to patients about their privacy rights and how their information can be used.

Adopting clear privacy procedures for its practice, hospital, or plan.

Training employees so that they understand the privacy procedures.

Designating an individual to be responsible for seeing that the privacy procedures are adopted and followed.

Securing patient records containing individually identifiable health information so that they are not readily available to those who do not need them.

 

I would urge any of you to please read and understand YOUR medical rights and in particular your privacy when your at your doctors office or hospital. As I said before...my employer is very strict on this, we have people that track patients charts (it's all electronic paperless system) at random and check to see who's been accessing them. If they see it accessed by someone in the system that didn't have a need to review that patients information they can be terminated unless they show cause.

 

I know this is kinda off topic, but I'm really adamant about people knowing their rights.

 

Patrick

[canuck45]

I don't think you are that far off topic. Doctors comments, doctors charts, public info. . . A doctors comment made to the patient might be embarrassing or inappropriate, however any and all information should be protected, written or verbal. What if the doctors comments were heard by others, depending on the particular circumstances this could be from mild inconvenience to embarrassement to libel or slander, protect the patient and the doctor?. It is also more than just appropriateness of comments or info in charts and crosses over into total patient care. Mr Doctors comments have a great influence on me and my attitudes. If he says I need this or that I believe him, he is the professional and so negative comments must carry as much weight in his expert opinion; all part of a diagnosis?!?. Not sure if what I mean is clear, but psychological health and physiological health can go hand in hand and a flippant remark could have devasting psychological and thus physiological effect, yes no?

[Thom]

I agree wholehearterdly about confidentiality and patients rights. But some of the precautions to protect the patient leave much to be desired. A for instance. Someone gets called away from their desk/workstation all that is required of them is that they turn a chart over so a person would have to actually turn it back over to read it. Not my idea of security.

[I am Dee.]

I did have a doc comment on size when I was going for a physical for the military. I am a big guy, great physique,

but very small penis (about 3.5 in erect). He examined it and said it was small for such a big guy. It has plagued me my entire 35 year life. Women expect a monster but are very surprised when my shorts come down.

 

Welcome to the site! I know you will find that you are not alone here. This is a prime example (your quote) of what is being discussed.

 

I can relate, in a way, too, believe it or not. I once read my medical chart, to see that I was described as "obese". THAT has stuck with me my entire life. I am not huge, by any means, but I definately am "fluffy". Wording is everything, isn't it?

[canuck45]

Actually obese is a defined medical term with specific parameters (>100 lbs over recommended weight). If the doctor said i had a micropenis (less than 3" erect), while not being a desirable diagnosis, that too would be precise medical terminology for a medical physicological condition. I might not like it but it would be accurate.

 

Personally, I prefer to know exactly what is in my medical records at all times and I DO. I believe that is not only important for me to know all diagnoses but also to ensure that other specialists receive correct information for proper health care in the future. Without a complete and accurate record any new physicians would have to start from square one in diagnosing any condition and have no past history for referencing.

[I am Dee.]

Actually, over 100lbs is medically called "morbidly obese". I can't remember the perameters for "obese". Fluffy/pudgy is not a medical term. It is society that has put the huge stigma on the word.

[I am Dee.]

"Obesity

 

Obesity is defined as having too much body fat. To be considered obese, a person must have a body mass index (BMI) of 30 or more. Body mass index is based on a person's height and weight. It is possible for a person to have a BMI of 30 or more without being obese if the person's weight is not due to too much fat.

 

Until recently, a person who weighed at least 20% more than his or her ideal body weight (in relation to height) was considered obese. However, doctors no longer rely on the height-to-weight ratio to assess obesity. Although the BMI is also based on height and weight, it gives a better (but not perfect) estimate of whether a person has too much body fat."

 

This is from www.webmd.com